Why didn't he try to go further than kissing?

[kdark]

My friend has been telling me for a few weeks, that he is a good guy and that she wanted for us to hit it off. The first thing she asked me yesterday was if we kissed. I told her we had and she liked that we did. I wonder if she has spoken with him about me prior.

 

So... What's stopping you from getting his number from your friend and calling/texting him yourself?

 

I once made out with a friend of a friend at a party in a similar situation, and thought it was the cutest thing ever when all of a sudden I got a random text from her saying she wanted to hang out, and I happily obliged.

 

Do you really want to possibly miss a chance of meeting a great guy just because the "rules" state that he has to contact you first?

[spookie]

You know, the first night my bf and I met went down almost exactly the way you described.

 

We both got hammered and made out a little bit. I snuck out before he woke up in the morning, fully expecting never to hear from him again. I figured it was the alcohol talking, for both of us.

 

And I didn't, until I ran into him at another party some weeks later. He said he couldn't stop looking at me. For my part, I felt a little awkward that we'd made out and I hadn't heard from him, but I forgave him after he started pursuing me.

 

My point is, even if he doesn't call you, it doesn't mean all hope is lost.

[Romance]

Well he was either

a) being respectful

or

b) realized he made a mistake/had a gf or another love interest

[kdark]

I'm not afraid to admit that I'm petrified that it was the alcohol talking for him. What if he really wasn't into me..

 

Well personally I'd rather know if someone was into me sooner rather than later. Your friend vouched for him being a nice guy, he held back when things started heating up between you two, so he is obviously attractd to you but showed restraint, HE GAVE YOU A FREAKIN' FOOT MASSAGE, I mean all signs so far point to him being a catch so far.

 

Do you want to miss this opportunity just because you are afraid of making first contact? There are so many reasons why someone doesn't contact you, and any number of them could have nothing to do with you. He could be shy, he could feel the same way you do about being petrified, his dog might have died so he's all depressed and in a bad mood, etc.

 

Tell your friend you like him so she can set you two up, friend him on facebook, get his number and text him, or call him. Other wise you'll just be mad at yourself for not doing it.

[kdark]

He doesn't have my number, because I didn't give it to him and he didn't ask, lol.

 

Though I suppose he could ask them for it.

 

I will see him Saturday at another get together, so If I don't hear anything, I guess I will have to wait in anticipation for how that goes.

 

Ah, well, if you know you're going to see him again so soon and so regularly, I would just wait until then. I thought this was just a one time meeting between you two...

[kdark]

Well lucky for you you know you'll get to see him again, and so soon.

 

I don't know how you girls can just let opportunities slip through your fingers just because you are afraid of "letting your guard down." What does that even mean?

[Scottdmw]

If it was me, I would have stopped because even as a guy I don't think it's a good idea to go too far too fast. I am a take it slow type of person, and wouldn't want to go beyond kissing/cuddling for several dates.

 

Scott