6609510 Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Is it wrong to have nude or semi nude pictures of someone other than your boy/girlfriend/spouse in your possession? I'm specifically referring to pictures of people that you know personally, as opposed to pictures of strictly "fantasy", intangible people.
Tony T Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Please pardon my ignorance...but WHY would you have in your possession nude pictures of random people that you know? Is this a new fad? Sounds goofy to me...but, then again, things pass by me all the time. Do you ask friends and acquaintances for nude pictures of themselves...or do you ask if you can take nudes of them? I guess this could get interesting.
Citizen Erased Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Very true Tony. I've seen some threads about people that have them of their ex bf/gf's if that's what they mean... In which case I would have to say that is inappropriate and could end up being a dealbreaker for me. Mainly because I know if I requested they be tossed/deleted, most people would lie and say they had.
Author 6609510 Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Ok let me clarify. I do not have such pictures. This is something I've been wondering about for a while, and a recent conversation with someone after they showed me a pic they had got me thinking about it again. I've noticed I keep running across people who do have such pics - mainly in their cell phones. From my observation, the pics are vary. Cleavage shots, to flashing, to full on below the belt. Some were taken by the person who has them, and some were sent by someone else. In all cases, the individual in possession of the pics admitted to knowing the person in the picture personally. That's why I am asking. It struck me as odd as well. Especially when these people are with someone else (or were at the time).
Feelin Frisky Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 "Wrong" is in the eye of the beholder. I would say it's ill-advised rather than "wrong".
Author 6609510 Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 I think that's part of the problem, Frisky. I think these people are holding a double standard. I think they feel it's ok for them to do this but I wonder how they would feel is they came to find out their s/o was also keeping such images. I guess I should ask them - but it's really not my business since I am a third party to all this. Don't want to needlessly offend r/l friends with my probing questions when there's a perfectly fine internet community to attempt to sample. So I was more curious if anyone else has encountered this, or how people feel in general about the idea.
K'aycie Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Yeah, can't say I've ever held onto a nude photo of someone.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 nude photos of friends? What?!!:eek: Umm no... I find that somewhat disturbing. I might have nude photos of models, but they're all more artistic value than something I'd fondle myself over.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 I have a lot of pictures, many of which feature former g/f's. None of them are anything but innocuous. I keep them but don't think about them much and rarely look at them. If I were to get involved again, I'd feel entitled to keep these fragments of my past and I wouldn't expect my new flame to destroy whatever mementos she might have of her earlier life. But if it really mattered to her and I really cared about committing to her, I'd chuck them. The future is way more important than the past.
cookie2 Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 (edited) I agree Frisky. I have photos from my previous relationships, like holiday photos etc. I have all the originals archived on DVD, and the "display" versions (with ex removed) still on my PC. Not because I want to hide them, but because I don't want to see her when I look through the pics. But I do have the originals archived still, just in case I ever want one of them for any reason. A couple of months ago, a friend of mine was in a pub, and his phone beeped. His bluetooth was switched on, and some girl had sent him a pic of between her legs from the bathroom. Apparently that was a craze a little while back! Bluejacking or something? Edited August 7, 2010 by cookie2
GordonDarkfoot Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Ok let me clarify. I do not have such pictures. This is something I've been wondering about for a while, and a recent conversation with someone after they showed me a pic they had got me thinking about it again. I've noticed I keep running across people who do have such pics - mainly in their cell phones. From my observation, the pics are vary. Cleavage shots, to flashing, to full on below the belt. Some were taken by the person who has them, and some were sent by someone else. In all cases, the individual in possession of the pics admitted to knowing the person in the picture personally. That's why I am asking. It struck me as odd as well. Especially when these people are with someone else (or were at the time). I think anyone who gives out pictures like that of themselves, is foolish, precisely because the recipients can redistribute to whomever they wish--including the entire internet. I think anyone who receives photos like that, and keeps them on their cell phone or computer, should only do so on the assumption that their possession of such materials might be disclosed at some point to people they might not want them disclosed to, such as significant others, family members, employers, or perhaps law enforcement. Having said the above, what do you think? Does it make a whole lot of sense to have naked pics of people on your cell phone? Now as to WHY people do this...the only answer is "stupidity."
Shakz Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 "Wrong" is in the eye of the beholder. I would say it's ill-advised rather than "wrong". I agree. This thread got me thinking. I knew I had a couple of these types of pictures of old girlfriends. When I actually looked I was astonished at how many I stored. Some are from way back. I don't know why I kept them. It's not like I look at them all the time. They were mostly just part of files I kept about that time in my life. I've since deleted most of them although some are kind of comical and bring back fond memories so I will keep them. One set I won't be getting rid of are a set of provocative art photos my GF from 10 years ago gave me as a Valentine. They're very well done and she's a remarkably beautiful woman. While I wouldn't necessarily be showing them to anyone they have an intrinsic value on that basis.
meerkat stew Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 I have about 400-500 pics of former GFs on my computer, maybe 10 or so undressed to various degrees. Not getting rid of any of them they are my life and memories, wouldn't hide them either and wouldn't begrudge a woman having similar pics.
Author 6609510 Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Although it's great to know everyone is hanging on to naked pics of their ex's, that is not what I was referring to either. These pictures are NOT of ex's - but of supposed "friends".
meerkat stew Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 These pictures are NOT of ex's - but of supposed "friends". In that case, would be a problem for me. I have 0 naked or semi-clothed (other than bathing suits) pictures of female friends.
Tony T Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Actually, I have seen some random nude stuff on cell phones...of real people that were known to the person. My opinion is that this is low class stuff and serves no purpose whatsoever. Exactly what do you do with a naked picture of someone in your wallet or on your phone. Go around bragging that you possess naked pictures of people? That's so immature and childish. Having naked pictures simply serves no useful purpose. If you have a nude photo of your partner, girlfriend or whoever, that should ALWAYS be kept private and not shown to anyone. That's for your viewing only. All other naked people photos in your possession are gratuitous and meaningless.
alexlakeman Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Nude pics of female freinds? None, I'm not thay lucky lol. Nudes of gf's and ex gf's? Yeah, I keep them all and regular pics of them as well... Hmmm and a few on d cell of d more recent ones. I find it hard to delete them lol. Now of course I wouldn't want my gf to keep pics of her ex's lol. But if a relationship got that serious, I'd probably back them up on a cd and deletew them.
TLCbear Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Is it wrong to have nude or semi nude pictures of someone other than your boy/girlfriend/spouse in your possession? I'm specifically referring to pictures of people that you know personally, as opposed to pictures of strictly "fantasy", intangible people. Yes it is. I've actually experienced this. My ex SO had nude pics of other women on his phone. I found out about it and was very upset. His justification, he was embrassed I found out, but eventually said it was a form porn for him. I would have rather for it to be porn stars than people he knew or had "access" to...however, he couldn't understand why I was sooo upset. However, a couple of months later, he found a guy on my phone (fully dressed) and hit the roof...why, I always wondered why??? LOL
BubbleFreak Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Yes it is. I've actually experienced this. My ex SO had nude pics of other women on his phone. I found out about it and was very upset. His justification, he was embrassed I found out, but eventually said it was a form porn for him. I would have rather for it to be porn stars than people he knew or had "access" to...however, he couldn't understand why I was sooo upset. However, a couple of months later, he found a guy on my phone (fully dressed) and hit the roof...why, I always wondered why??? LOL lol. Double standards much?
BubbleFreak Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Is it wrong to have nude or semi nude pictures of someone other than your boy/girlfriend/spouse in your possession? I'm specifically referring to pictures of people that you know personally, as opposed to pictures of strictly "fantasy", intangible people. It depends why you have those pictures- art, medical photos, a friend bragging about their giant zit on their right ass cheek, you know that sort of thing. I can think of no reason why I would require or desire nude pictures of my friends.
Shakz Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Although it's great to know everyone is hanging on to naked pics of their ex's, that is not what I was referring to either. These pictures are NOT of ex's - but of supposed "friends". Well then that's just weird.
Joe Normal Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 You should keep any nude pics you get, you never know when they might come in useful (evil laugh).
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