STBX text me instead of her BF!

[movingon2]

Just wanted to see if anyone has had this happen to them.

 

Last night my STBX sent me a text it said "Bar".

 

I said - "Bar what?"

 

She said - "Sorry...it's my dishwasher...He's trying to get me in trouble."

 

Keep in mind she works at a Cafe/dinner.

 

I said - "I'm not buying it"

 

I said - "Yeah did you send that to the wrong NAME in your book? Yeah you better get your night out in tonight huh."

 

Our son was with her all week until today when she text me and said he was being naughty all day and she wanted him to come home. She didn't have anywhere for him to go so he was at the Cafe all day and bored. He was supposed to be spending time with her but she pawned him off all week on her friends. Both kids are going to spend the weekend with her so she only gets one night out.

 

I and her BF have the same first name so my guess is it was ment for him. It is her routine to get off work around 10 and head for the bar so am I stupid or what?

 

I should add she still denies anything is going on with him.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t240009/

Edited August 6, 2010 by movingon2

[pinkp]

When my husband first left me I did this by accident. And it freaked him out, I was actually meaning to send it to one of my girlfriends about this hot guy I'd met. But I sent it to him. He freaked out, so then I did it about once a month for the entire 6 months we were separated. I wasnt even dating but I just want him to know I wasnt sitting home all sad. Which I was Ha !

 

I say all this to say this she may be doing this on purpose. We women can be really sneaky. I hope things look up for you. Good luck and keep ya head up.

[hopesndreams]

Of course she's denying it.

 

How can you tell if a cheater is lying? Their lips move.

 

Is this separation supposed to be a way for you both to recover the M?

 

If not, then who cares what she does with whom?

[2sunny]

i would have NEVER responded...

[whichwayisup]

Tell her to enjoy the weekend, that you want the kids to yourself. I'm sure they would rather be with a parent who wants them.

 

I take it you two are separated or on the way to divorce? if you want to know for sure if she is seeing someone, hire a PI.

[carhill]

Early-on in our 'separation', stbx sent me one of those 'phone-porn' pictures, I'm sure purely by mistake. I said nothing and it just reinforced my acceptance of, god willing, this insanity will all be over soon

[movingon2]

I am pushing forward with the Divorce. It wasn't my idea in the first place but over the last 5 months I probably want it more than she does now.

 

I thought at the time that she could just be trying to get a rise out of me but also at the time I thought it was funny that she messed up. If it happens again I don't think I'll respond.

 

It was differant the next day when I seen her. She had this completly differant look on her face. I can't even explain it. I like to think it was this pissed off guilty look. I didn't say a word to her just got the kids out of the truck and said goodby to them and left.

 

It did make me feel good the next night when my son called to say good night and I could here my youngest in the background screaming "I want to go to my dad's house". I know she was probably ok but it just makes you feel good.

[whichwayisup]

Because you aren't reacting and 'wanting her back', you want the D to happen and not fighting for her (win her back, make effort etc) she sees this and now it's kind of like the cat/mouse game. She'll push you for reaction, try to soften you, for an ego feed (make sure you're still interested) and the minute you react the way she wants you to, she'll run and her ego feed.

[maybebaby]

I did this once, because my x and my at the time boyfriend are the two people I text with most often (because I text with my x about the kids) I accidentally selected the wrong name from the recent text message lists and sent a message that said "I love you" to my x. He knew right away it was a mistake and just responded "I think you sent that to the wrong man" I called him and apologized and we had an awkward laugh about it. It happens, no big deal.