aeion Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 (edited) Hi, My gf and i were and i were dating for about a year and a half. I thought i was being a pretty great bf. I never got jealous of her guy friends, i never cared if she went to a party with her friends that i couldnt make, took her to Mexico for Spring Break, bought her flowers at random times, i even had a demanding after school activity so we werent joined at the hip 24/7 and so on... We never really argued in our entire relationship, then one day she says we need a break. We remained friends for a couple months until i left for a 2 week trip, as i returned i felt totally ok with the act that i had lost her... but then she told me she wanted to get back together. I really wanted o be wih her again so I said yes but lets take it slow, so we decided to just "date" again, not officially "together." This lasted 2 weeks, I thought everything was great. I was making sure our dates were perfect to show that i was really trying. Then she didnt really talk to me or make an effort to see me for about a week. We finally hung out to say goodbye to a friend who was leaving to study abroad. (we all go to nyu) She acted really distant. The next day she told me was interested in someone else, and that she loves me but isnt "in love" with me anymore. Im devastated, is it really just over? What do i do? Im so in love with this girl... Edited August 6, 2010 by aeion
Chinook Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 So, what happened is this: you guys date, everything is lovely, she gets bored, gets interested in someone else, decides you guys need a break, you do your healing, she gets interested in the other guy but turns out its not what she thought it was, she comes back to you, but then finds that's not what she wants either, you guys split again cos she's into someone else, you get your heart broken. Walk away. Drop contact with her and allow yourself to heal. Respect yourself more than she does. A person who loves you and cares for you, would not walk out of your life and treat you like this. Please, let yourself heal up before you think about her even.
Don Ho Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 Yep. I agree with Chinook. That's pretty much how I see it. Although you don't say it, I bet you were too nice and too predictable. That = 0 challenge = lowering interest = giving you a break, possibly hoping you'll become more of a man = meets someone else = she bounces back to you cuz she can (you probably moved to fast in the reconciliation, though it may not have mattered) = she leaves you again. I would say plan on the fact that it's over and move on. Go NC. Besides bro, you're at college. You should have plenty of fish to choose from. Go find one if you want to or not.
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