drewsmom Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 Why Is he making this go on longer than it has to. He left me in january, we still have yet to have our first meeting in court. his lawyer told mine that she is having problems with him getting all his paper work together. He is the one who wanted this and I am fine with it now I just want it over. I am still in the house we shared with our son, he moved out but it doesnt stop him from being here all the time for stupid things. I get in the beginning why it was taking long because he was hiding money. but this is rediculous. he has a gf you would think he would just want it over. If my son dont answer the phone or were out for the day he will call all day. and he only sees my son friday nights he says that works for him yet he will call 50 times a day for him, i say if you want to talk to him that much then come take him out. He has always been controlling and I know half the time he is just wondering where we are. wish he would just hurry this along.
scatterd Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I don't know your story but sounds like he is dragging his feet maybe he regrets wanting a divorce and is checking up on you.I had a husband do that but did not have the balls to tell me he did not want it.
movingon2 Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 My STBX is dragging ours out also just becuase she doesn't want to pay child support to me. For the most part she takes the kids for one night every 2 weeks but she has gotten a couple others in here and there. My attorney and I have done all the work as far as papers go and she says I'm the one dragging this out. Everything is pretty much decided except some credit card debt and officialy she is fighting for custody but hasn't done anything about it. At first she told her attorney that the kids are better off with me but once she learned she would have to pay me she changed her mind. My recomendation is just keep pushing forward if you can. I know it costs to have attorneys draw up papers every time so if you can just schedule the court date and he will have to show up. Here is my story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t240009/
Author drewsmom Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 oh he is paying for the whole thing anyway. I am a stay at home mom. his choice. i am hoping my lawyer holds him in contempt soon. and he like your wife always says my lawyer is holding things up. it amazes me. I think he is bipolor. we got along good i did everything but he got bored and needed a change. we seen a counslor he said to the doc i didnt rinse out the shower, right then i knew it was over because that couldnt be the reason, after that he called me one day and said he wanted a divorce. I wasnt suprised, I dont sit around and dwell I am always out looking my best, I am just tired of it going on and on. I mean he comes over and hangs and finds stupid things to do like kill weeds. we have a landscaper. I am in our house it is on the market but thats not going good. he lives with his dad. he calls so much even my on at 6 says omg not again. hes nuts, he has issues from childhood he should work on. I just dont get it, wish i knew his gf so i could make her keep him away. if i didnt have a son with him the nc would be great.
cavedweller Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 A couple of ideas for you: Contact your divorce lawyer and let him know what is going on.. You can stop all of the stalking and harassment Bull Sheet.. Don't answer the phone when he calls... Good luck.......................
You Go Girl Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Interesting. The man is practicing an interesting form of bigamy. He still feels entitled to come to his family home, kill weeds, etc., in order to fulfill that sense of that this is his family. Meanwhile, I assume he lives with the OW, and gets his sex there of course. Time to be in control of your own life. Look him in the eye and tell him that he isn't welcome at the home except to pick up and drop off your son. Remind him he lives elsewhere.
Author drewsmom Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 You cant imagine how many times i have told him this. he is arrogant. I talked to my lawyer and she said I cant do anything unless he is abusive. He lives with his dad not ow. one day my son was on the phone with him and said daddy come to dinner, I was mortified but what could I do, my son Is 6 yrs old and doesnt understand what is going on, I dont discuss things infront of him he dont need the stress. my ex was here in 15 minutes. I couldnt even finish my dinner, how could i sit across from him, so i just got up and started dishes. when the house sells It will be so different and he will hate not coming in at all.
You Go Girl Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 You have to lay down the law about visitation. Take control.
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