EthanH Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 How much value do you place on gut instinct? Am I wrong to believe that sometimes you just know you want to be/or not be with someone? It defies logic... you can't put your finger on any specific reasons. Does this make me mad?
Beeotch Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I trust my intuition/gut instinct 100% of the time. Never fails me. I also practice deciphering my intuition from wishful thinking. But intuition does not make you crazy. I know a lot of things without having any logical evidence in the physical....and sometimes it makes you distrusting because we're so used to needing empirical evidence, usually it is after what I feel comes to pass in the physical that I can confirm it. But I'm practicing to trust it before it even occurs.
lunita Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I also practice deciphering my intuition from wishful thinking. I need to learn how to do this as my gut is always right too. The problem is my brain gets in the way. Sometimes it doesn't always have to do with wishful thinking, but rather me over-thinking things too much and trying to rationalize or irrationalize my way out of what my gut is telling me. How did you learn to decipher the difference?
Beeotch Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I need to learn how to do this as my gut is always right too. The problem is my brain gets in the way. Sometimes it doesn't always have to do with wishful thinking, but rather me over-thinking things too much and trying to rationalize or irrationalize my way out of what my gut is telling me. How did you learn to decipher the difference? Yep...me too. I am no expert by any means...I'm still a work in progress as far as that goes. But one thing is that in many cases, my gut instinct is a more peaceful feeling (depending on what it is referring to because if it is something bad then it's not). Also for me sometimes I get flashes of "random thoughts"/ phrases/pictures with feelings attached and when it is NOT something I have been thinking about in any way and it seems to come out of the blue...it is my intuition. But yea...I'm still learning and working on trusting and not overthinking or rationalizing etc. It is hard because I am a thinker/researcher by nature and training, so most times I will overthink or file away my feelings until they are proven. Although sometimes it is sooo strong that NOTHING can tell me otherwise and I am very confident....other times it is more subtle or I am afraid of being wrong so I am not that confident. But I also try not to give into the fear of being wrong, I am still learning to be intune and I will get it "wrong" sometimes but that's okay, still learning and practicing.
Author EthanH Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 the problem is, a friend asked me tonight, what would it take for me to not want to be with my ex? They joked, 'do you need her to punch you in the face?'... and when I thought about it, it made me feel like a lunatic. I find it so hard to think what is wrong with her, obviously she isn't an angel, but no one is. And it always comes back to my gut instinct, which always ultimately tells me I want to be with her. Does everyone have a gut instinct? It's just that girls I have been in relationships before seem to claim they genuinely don't know what they think... I always just cannot understand that, you always have a gut instinct, it just sometimes rational thinking/fear overshadows it... agreed?
Author EthanH Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 can't believe i did a typo in the thread title... ... i'm not stupid, honestt.
threebyfate Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I've learned to trust my gut instincts over personal judgment, since judgement can rationalize anything if you're invested enough. But it never hurts to confirm your gut feelings through active observation.
lunita Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I found this online and thought it was interesting. I've had a couple of "avacado" incidences like the one below so thought I'd share with you. When a person first becomes alert to intuitive messages it may seem disturbing not to understand the importance or unimportance of the messages. Frankly, sometimes we just don't fully understand what these intuitive flashes mean. It can be quite frustrating when we are GETTING the message, but NOT GETTING any logical reasoning along with it. Well, I'm here to tell you that if it is important for you to understand the reason behind any message you will be given additional information eventually. Try not to get bogged down with any nagging NEED TO KNOW. Let it go..... consider this, explanations come along with intuitive messages on a "need to know basis." For example: Perhaps your inner guidance tells you to eat avocados. You are willing to eat them, but you wonder "Why Avocados?" You may even explore the Internet to read up on the nutritional value of avocados. But the reason you were given the message to eat avocados didn't have anything to do with nutrition. It was to nudge you to go to the market that day. While there, you bump into a fellow from your old neighborhood who introduces you to the woman who is to become your life partner. Well.... cool! You discover it doesn't really matter if you eat avocados after all. But you might want to serve guacamole dip at your wedding reception as a romantic gesture.
JamesB Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I always trust my gut instinct. It never fails me. When I was 19 I got a feeling that my girl was cheating, had no proof or any real reason to think this but I had a feeling. I came home early from work one night to find her in bed with another guy! I got the same gut feeling again a few years later with another girl and recently with my last girlfriend I felt she was cheating even tho I had no proof and was proved right again she left me for another guy she had been seeing! Always, always trust your gut feeling. I think it's like a 6th sense for some us.
Author EthanH Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 mate as much as i agree about gut instinct, you sure you aren't just insecure and that is why when a girl cheats on you you automatically think your gut must be magically able to predict, when in fact all you were doing was betting on all the horses in the race?
Chinook Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I'm with James. Gut instinct has never failed me. But... ... in this instance, I'm not so sure that it's really gut instinct that you're talking about Ethan. I'm 40 years old and in that time I've ended or been dumped from 4 serious relationships and I have to say... when it ended, every single time, there was a feeling of 'surety' that things would change, that things would be back on track, that somewhere down the road, I'd be with that person again. Has never once happened. Well... actually no, that's not true. Mr C and I went to school together and were HS sweeties for a little while. Now years later we meet up and this year, we're getting married. But... he's the only one I've never held that feeling of surety and hope for. So... Ethan, I'd say that in this case, it's probably not really your gut talking hon... but hope. That things will change.
spiderowl Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I place a lot of value on it, but I've known a situation in the past where I've felt I knew I wanted to be with a particular man. He didn't feel the same though. It's incredibly painful when that happens but there is nothing you can do except accept it. It seems as if they are not seeing the obvious, that we could be right for each other, but one has to accept that another individual has an entirely different inner life and that you are projecting your feelings onto them. It's really tough, feeling infatuated with someone who isn't reciprocating it, but it's entirely possible to feel like that. So, point I'm making is that gut instinct is very important and mostly I'd trust it, but sometimes we can project that feeling onto someone else and get it very wrong. At such times, it is better to interpret it as 'I feel this person is entirely right for me' as opposed to 'we are right for each other'.
spookie Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 For whatever reason, my "gut instinct" has gotten majorly f-ed up. My stomach drops regularly with vague doomsday suspicions. Over the last couple years, not one has come true. Conversely, all the positive gut instincts I've had about men, have never come true, either. My instinct's voice is so loud it's hard to ignore, but I do the best that I can.
2sunny Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 i place a lot of value on my gut instinct. i tend to have a lot of clarity though, so that certainly helps. i keep my mind clear and clutter free most days. ideally - it's best when the gut, the heart and the mind are all in balance... then when the gut signals something is "off" i act upon it. it never steers me wrong.
skydiveaddict Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 When I got back home I had a gut feeling that my gf would break up with me. my gut was right. yuck
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