mistressgirl Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I have no idea why i went for a guy with a gf. Any idea as to why i would do something so stupid?
YellowShark Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I have no idea why i went for a guy with a gf. Any idea as to why i would do something so stupid? Since you think it's stupid I would say you are a good person deep down. I can't figure out people who have an affair and show no guilt or remorse. That to me is really icky.
Mimolicious Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Correction: You are NOT his "Mistress". He is not married to his GF. You are a side chick, to say the least but not hid mistress. If you don't like the feeling, then learn the lesson and don't go for men who are involved. Imagine how you are going to feel when you break up a home for 4 kids, if you make this part of who you are. If you have insecurity issues and your maturity level is not where it should be, seek some sort of counseling. You are perhaps, looking to fill a void by looking for attention in the wrong places. Stupid in deed, this can actually ruin you as a person and also as other will perceive you. Do you want to become someone with lack of values, dignity, loyalty and credibility for the sake of "love"? There is also the flipside... Do you want to be a man's alternate choice or sexual object? Don't you deserve to have a R that is with good intentions and has a blissful future? Look around these boards and see what cheating does to all of those involved and affected by it. There is no fair chance in a relationship that involves more than 2 parties. Don't fool yourself nor let yourself be fooled by this. Hope you learn something here and make better choices for yourself next time. Always think to yourself, there is always tomorrow and that can be you being cheated on next. How would you like it? Answer that. Then add this- nobody else likes it more or less than your answer, because I bet it is "I wouldn't like that done to me". Oh! and if you are still with someone else's BF by choice, don't complaint when things don't go exactly right. What starts bad ends bad. Good riddance!
whichwayisup Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I have no idea why i went for a guy with a gf. Any idea as to why i would do something so stupid? Weren't thinking of consquences..Or the affect it would have on his girlfriend, him, and yourself. Maybe you didn't care, or thought you could try to woo him away from his gf. Or you're insecure, feel you couldn't find someone else that made you feel the way this guy did. Only you know the answers.. In time hopefully you'll figure it out. And you'll know for next time if there's a guy you like who has a girlfriend, you won't pursue him.
sadintexas Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 There are numerous reasons why you could have personally chosen to do this. Figuring that out is on your shoulders. Perhaps some IC would help you identify. But if you are honest with yourself, you will see at least the surface answers. The main questions to try to figure out the answers to are these: 1) Why did I feel I had the right to intrude upon another person's relationship (even by invitation of one of the parties)? 2) Why did I not expect more for myself in allowing myself to be a side piece instead of someone's main dish?
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