Notsogood Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Its been more than a year now, with 10-11 months strict NC and I find myself still thinking of her! Quick recap: we were together 5.5 years and she broke up with me after an argument and I haven't been in a relationship since. Will I ever get over this?! What sucks the most is that I am a quarter way into a three month backpacking trip in Europe and I just keep finding myself thinking how much she would love places I've been to and wishing she was here with me. She's probably moved on now with a new guy but I just can't seem to get over it.
USMCHokie Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Don't worry, we all move on at different rates...don't let how fast or slow anyone else (including your ex) moves on...five and a half years is a really long time, so don't fret it if you're not completely over it yet...but rest assured that time will do its magic and you will eventually move on... I'm a little over a year since the breakup and I still think about her...it happens...just keep your head up and continue living your life...
Nikki Sahagin Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Yes, you will get over her. Its taken me over a year but I believe i've finally gotten there. I think the trick is not to really pay attention to what you 'should' be feeling. If you miss them or think of them, a week, a month, a year or ten down the line, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. Sometimes we miss them more because something feels missing and they are the convienient filler. But achknowledging what you feel and letting it pass is very important. Every time i've felt swept over by the misery or the pain, the wash of happiness or contentment that later comes from something unrelated or new reminds me that feelings are never constant. But yes you will get over her
skydiveaddict Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Its been more than a year now, with 10-11 months strict NC and I find myself still thinking of her! Quick recap: we were together 5.5 years and she broke up with me after an argument and I haven't been in a relationship since. Will I ever get over this?! What sucks the most is that I am a quarter way into a three month backpacking trip in Europe and I just keep finding myself thinking how much she would love places I've been to and wishing she was here with me. She's probably moved on now with a new guy but I just can't seem to get over it. Dont worry my friend It's normal. Ive been broken up 10 months myself and I feel just like you
Nikki Sahagin Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I'm going to say something really vague and probably hard to apply. As a very emotional person what helped me, was letting myself get lost in emotions. Its like swimming in the sea with a life jacket. You let yourself explore the depths of what you feel; sadness, anger, fear, and know you can always come back out of it. For instance I remember being at work and bursting into tears. I was sat at my desk wallowing in it, letting myself wallow, when the phone rang, and in a second I had to come back, and 'revisit' the misery later. I think many people ignore the feelings or they scale only the skirts of it; they focus on the slight feeling somethings wrong, or they are unfulfilled without jumping in to face the real monsters inside. Usually break ups are about more than the loss of a partner but of a future you envisioned for yourself, or your own worth or your ideals for love. It can rouse a lot of other issues already there and it all becomes one great mass. If you can let yourself get lost in your feelings you will know yourself. Now when I feel sad or scared, I recognise them as little monsters but they trouble me less. I don't know if that really helps but I thought i'd type it.
Beeotch Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Its been more than a year now, with 10-11 months strict NC and I find myself still thinking of her! Quick recap: we were together 5.5 years and she broke up with me after an argument and I haven't been in a relationship since. Will I ever get over this?! What sucks the most is that I am a quarter way into a three month backpacking trip in Europe and I just keep finding myself thinking how much she would love places I've been to and wishing she was here with me. She's probably moved on now with a new guy but I just can't seem to get over it. That's normal. I am a year and a almost a half post-break up and it just has been within recent months that I rarely think of my ex. Up to earlier this year I still thought of him more fondly and romantically. I still think of him now sometimes, but in a more detached way. So yes it is not unheard of. But once it's done, it's done. Hang in there.
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