breakingbad Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Married almost 31 years to the same man and it still doesn't work. He's had lots of gal friends from the start, even getting his name in the paper with one and her X, many years ago(head lines were love triangle)....I have found new silky underware in his glove box before that he bought for himself, has had co-worker play mates, many online and telephone chicks, and even mailed off some of my jewelry to one of them a few years back:eek:.....and all along he gives me the song and dance as he taps his way through, using anger and threats to scare me to get him off his back. ...he knows I'm scared of him as he has a psychotic personality. He wont hold a job and never has...hates working for other people, hates government , women, and anyone with money. His family knows how he is(He's VERY DIFFERENT) and right now he wont have anything to do with them, mostly cause of his anger and screaming he does to his mother who is sick...yes, he has anger problems on top of everything else. He throws crap from across the room at me when he's pissed off at me. Our 2 older kids are grown and gone and they suffer issue from their childhood with him, and our 13 yr old is having issues right now. He doesn't take care of anything here....I work and do everything at home. My health isn't all that great at times and any doctors orders are thrown out the window, as he wont have me being sick and not abel to do anything. I asked for a divorce a year ago(I haven't touched him now in 2 years) and his last words that dropped the whole conversation were " What do you want, a war"! And I know I would have one from him too. I'm 50 and he's 61 and I feel my future is screwed .
Confused_in_canada Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 OMG 31 years, isn't that some sort of Mental abuse or something like that? Wholly crap that's awful! Men can be so cruel and unfair that's just not right. Is there anybody you can go to? Or anywhere you can go to get away from this psychopath? Maybe a neighbor? or a girlfriend. You need a safe house that you can hide in where you can get sorted out... Hope it get's better for you soon... Then he needs to feel the wrath of Divorce and reality of life...
Author breakingbad Posted August 5, 2010 Author Posted August 5, 2010 This is my life....it's been this way from the very start, so I'm very used to it....and we all just tip toe around him and hide to stay away from him as much as we can. That's all we have ever known. About 3 years ago he made all these promises to me to keep me from going ....it lasted 6 months for him trying to get his life in order, but then back to his old self after that. Right now he has a female co-worker that calls him on his phone all the time . My 13 yr old found the calls. I'm in a place now inside myself where I don't care ...haven't for a llllllonnnnnng time....maybe he'll just go away:laugh:. For the life of me, I can't figure why he stays, except that I work and take care of everything.....and I think he's waiting for the will and trust to happen also. Don't get me wrong....I'm not some kind of monster, matter of fact, I feel sorry for him....being like that inside must be painful. But I AM tired inside, and more so as I get older....as well as worried about my future, if I even have one:(.
Author breakingbad Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 I wonder why I only got one reply from my thread. I hope I didn't come on too strong here or say anything out of line.
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