melowoman Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... "I'm tired of your stupid gameplaying. If u want him back so bad - he's yours. Just let me know if he is moving in with you or if you are moving back. I know you are doing this to get back at me and you win the prize - xh name - enjoy having him back." She sent this to him and to me. Do you think I should respond?
CollectiveVelvet Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 No, I don't think you should give her the satisfaction of an argument with you. However do you really want your exH back?
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Respond back and copy all, "I haven't decided yet but I'll happily let you know when and if I do."
RickG Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 No just ignore it, she does not matter anyway she is just hurt that he still loves you and not her, she is just looking for a argument and your main focus should be on him not her like i said SHE DOES NOT MATTER! good luck to you My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... "I'm tired of your stupid gameplaying. If u want him back so bad - he's yours. Just let me know if he is moving in with you or if you are moving back. I know you are doing this to get back at me and you win the prize - xh name - enjoy having him back." She sent this to him and to me. Do you think I should respond?
YellowShark Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... So this guy has 3 women - (EX wives) - fighting over him? Amazing.
2sure Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Respond: No, I dont want him back. I like everything just the way it is.
Spark1111 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... "I'm tired of your stupid gameplaying. If u want him back so bad - he's yours. Just let me know if he is moving in with you or if you are moving back. I know you are doing this to get back at me and you win the prize - xh name - enjoy having him back." She sent this to him and to me. Do you think I should respond? While she sent it to both you and him, she obviously is holding you more accountable for the possible reconciliation than she is him! Why would she do that? Doesn't she live with him???? Why is she not talking with her husband about what is going on? And I am incredulous that this is thought of as a competition to be won between the two women. Doesn't the man have a responsibility to his wife to speak with her about what he is feeling regarding you? Does this make you, the fW, the OW now? My head hurts....
Spark1111 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 (SORRY, COULD NOT RESIST THIS) Text back: Your relationship is with your husband and your questions are best directed to him. Please do not contact me anymore.:bunny::bunny:
herenow Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... "I'm tired of your stupid gameplaying. If u want him back so bad - he's yours. Just let me know if he is moving in with you or if you are moving back. I know you are doing this to get back at me and you win the prize - xh name - enjoy having him back." She sent this to him and to me. Do you think I should respond? Ask yourself what your motives are. Do you still love him, or are you talking to him to piss off the FOW/W? Maybe you should have a talk with your ex and he should tell his BW the truth. If you still love him, maybe you should tell her the truth. Either way, she should know the truth. If you are playing a game to get back at the FOW/W, just stop and move on with your life. JMO.
herenow Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 (SORRY, COULD NOT RESIST THIS) Text back: Your relationship is with your husband and your questions are best directed to him. Please do not contact me anymore.:bunny::bunny: Valid answer. However, I always say that the BW should know, so if they really want to get back together, I see no harm in telling the BW the truth.
califnan Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 I'm sure she's looking for a response - but I would not respond either. This is actually between she and your exH .. I know it isn't uncommon for there to be regrets in these new so-called marriages. But you still have to assess what it is that you want.
Snowflower Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... "I'm tired of your stupid gameplaying. If u want him back so bad - he's yours. Just let me know if he is moving in with you or if you are moving back. I know you are doing this to get back at me and you win the prize - xh name - enjoy having him back." She sent this to him and to me. Do you think I should respond? Interesting. First of all, you need to examine your motives. Do you want to resume a relationship with your xH? If you have already resumed a relationship with him, then I think you could be considered the new OW. It sounds like you've been on both sides of the infidelity fence now. I think the best thing for everyone involved is to be honest with her--level the playing field so to speak. You've been the BW, you know what a lousy position that is to be in. Besides, if you and your xH decide to resume your relationship, wouldn't you want to do it is honestly and fairly to everyone concerned as possible?
GorillaTheater Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You have alot in common. 1) Married to the same man. 2) OW to the same man. 3) Betrayed by the same man. I hope this guy is worth it, but color me skeptical.
piscis Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 do not answer I agree with Spark if she has someone to ask questions is to her husband not you.
bentnotbroken Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You have alot in common. 1) Married to the same man. 2) OW to the same man. 3) Betrayed by the same man. I hope this guy is worth it, but color me skeptical. It really is a disgusting isn't it?
Mimolicious Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 So this guy has 3 women - (EX wives) - fighting over him? Amazing. No. Melow is his first W, her H left her and D to M his OW, he M the OW which is now his W and wants to leave her to get back to his xW. Jeez! That sounds like an equation for an atomic bomb or something... Melow- Don't answer. At this time you both have been in each other's shoes. You guys are about pretty even now. I agree with everyone else... this guy better be the last coke in the desert.
CrayonAngel Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 DON'T TEXT HER BACK...it's not your job to maintain her hapiness or worry about her sanity. It's between her H and HER not you...you don't answer to her...he does....:lmao::lmao: Sorry I'm feeling ornery today. I agree with the above...
YellowShark Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 No. Melow is his first W, her H left her and D to M his OW, he M the OW which is now his W and wants to leave her to get back to his xW. Jeez! That sounds like an equation for an atomic bomb or something.... Here's my count... My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... Melowoman = wife 1 New wife = wife 2 FOW = wife 3 But then again I grew up near power lines!
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Melowoman = wife 1 New wife = wife 2 FOW = wife 3 But then again I grew up near power lines! LOL! New wife and FOW are one and the same!
YellowShark Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 LOL! New wife and FOW are one and the same! Arrrghhhh! I thought FOW is "former other wife." But you might be right, maybe it's "former other woman" which is "new wife." Where's my goddamn playbook on this one!
Jilly Bean Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You're seriously considering taking this guy back? WOW. Question, though. Do many BS's turn into OW? I would think they would despise anything to do with infidelity. But, I will say that this story illustrates what I believe to be true: ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You're seriously considering taking this guy back? WOW. Question, though. Do many BS's turn into OW? I would think they would despise anything to do with infidelity. But, I will say that this story illustrates what I believe to be true: ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. I don't quite get it either. And I agree.
pureinheart Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 My xh and I have been talking about maybe getting back together so quite a few texts and calls back and forth. His new wife and FOW has been checking the cell phone bill and I got the following text from her yesterday... "I'm tired of your stupid gameplaying. If u want him back so bad - he's yours. Just let me know if he is moving in with you or if you are moving back. I know you are doing this to get back at me and you win the prize - xh name - enjoy having him back." She sent this to him and to me. Do you think I should respond? Naaaaa, I wouldn't, I never think communication is good in these situations...but JMO. I have to ask the same question, do you really want him back????? (I haven't read but only one reply)
ladydesigner Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Isn't there a movie that has this exact scenario...hmmmm...it's complicated.
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