IlikeBunnies Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 So my future sister-in-law hates me, that much is apparent. I have been staying with my boyfriends family in Germany for over a month, and they all speak German, Vietnamese, and his sister and him speak English as well. I just speak English but understand a little German. She constantly talks bad about me, and my boyfriend does nothing to help the situation. He even talks bad about me to her when he's upset. What to do about someone who is so family oriented that he can't even stick up for me when his sister talks bad about me? It's really difficult, because I feel like I'm all alone here and if I try to discuss this with him, then he just says it out loud so everyone can hear and twists it so I sound horrible. The fact that his sister dislikes me is really straining our relationship..she even said the other day that she will try everything in her power to break us up. They are constantly saying I'm too American and that I'm useless at cooking and cleaning and that I have no family values. His sister says I have no culture at all. I'm just so confused, everything that my boyfriend seemed fine with in the U.S. is now a problem in front of his family. And she can call em names like "stupid" and he doesn't see much wrong with it...but that's also because he does it multiple times a day, every day. Whenever he starts yelling at me and calls me stupid she laughs or encourages it. Same goes for when she's yelling at me.
CollectiveVelvet Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 OP you can fix this situation by making sure she never becomes your sister-in-law. This family and your BF is not worth the hurt you are being put through. There is nothing you can do that will convince this group you are "worthy for their family". Do you want this to be the rest of your life?
BlackLovely Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 OP you can fix this situation by making sure she never becomes your sister-in-law. This family and your BF is not worth the hurt you are being put through. There is nothing you can do that will convince this group you are "worthy for their family". Do you want this to be the rest of your life? I second this. In law issues are one of the main reasons couples break up. I once begged an old friend of mine not to marry into her boyfriend's awful family. The mother hated her because she wasn't Indian and well off. Now she's married and it's just gotten worse. Your man is not a man at all. He is still a little boy that allows his family to control his relationships. I know it's hard, but get out before you have a messy divorce.
grace01 Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 hello friend... no i do not have problem with sister in law because you knoe that that is the mutual understanding so do not worry about it ================================== "Want to get-on Google's first page and loads of traffic to your website? Hire a SEO Specialist from Ocean Groups SEO SPECIALIST " ===============================
selena_cat Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 So my future sister-in-law hates me, that much is apparent. I have been staying with my boyfriends family in Germany for over a month, and they all speak German, Vietnamese, and his sister and him speak English as well. I just speak English but understand a little German. She constantly talks bad about me, and my boyfriend does nothing to help the situation. He even talks bad about me to her when he's upset. What to do about someone who is so family oriented that he can't even stick up for me when his sister talks bad about me? It's really difficult, because I feel like I'm all alone here and if I try to discuss this with him, then he just says it out loud so everyone can hear and twists it so I sound horrible. The fact that his sister dislikes me is really straining our relationship..she even said the other day that she will try everything in her power to break us up. They are constantly saying I'm too American and that I'm useless at cooking and cleaning and that I have no family values. His sister says I have no culture at all. I'm just so confused, everything that my boyfriend seemed fine with in the U.S. is now a problem in front of his family. And she can call em names like "stupid" and he doesn't see much wrong with it...but that's also because he does it multiple times a day, every day. Whenever he starts yelling at me and calls me stupid she laughs or encourages it. Same goes for when she's yelling at me. No no no no,i really advise to get rid of this guy,he hasnt grown up. I had a guy who couldnt stand up to his family,but i let God fight my battles and he sure put a stop to this foolishness,but you have to do your part also.
sally4sara Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 OP, is your BF acting in a manner you think a husband should treat his wife? If not, why do you intend to be his wife? Find a man who already acts in a way you find acceptable in a husband. Planning a future with someone who is not how you would like them to be is almost always a recipe for disaster.
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