aerogurl87 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Ok so this is more of a rant moreso than an actual problem... well she is a problem, but anyway here's the story. My boyfriend's ex girlfriend is about to get on my last nerve. It first started out with her texting him and saying she missed him, blah blah blah. He told me about it and chose to just ignore her till she decided to go and try to date his ex girlfriend (whose bi) and he tried to forewarn her that his other ex was nothing more than a cheating whore, and of course he was proven right when his other ex cheated on this girl. So she comes crying to him, and he basically tells her "I told you so" and I tell him to just leave her and her drama alone, which my boyfriend does and then last night happened. His ex gets mad because my boyfriend's been ignoring her and so she decides to tell her new boyfriend that he's been texting her and begging for her back because he wants her back. So of course this new guy of hers believes her, and he ends up calling my boyfriend out of the blue last night to yell at him about her false claims. My boyfriend who has just gotten off work from a 12 hour shift is pissed understandably and although I've calmly sat back and let him handle the situation thus far, I'm now pissed that this little b*tch has taken it this far to cover the fact that she's been texting my boyfriend telling him she misses him and such, from her newfound "love". I honestly think it's jealousy as she's seen the pictures on facebook of us together and it's now hitting her that she lost out on an awesome, genuinely good guy and that's her loss. But the childishness is getting to be too much.
RedDevil66 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 you lost me at "ok, so" You sound pretty childish as well. Let it go, really!
silverfish Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Ok so this is more of a rant moreso than an actual problem... well she is a problem, but anyway here's the story. My boyfriend's ex girlfriend is about to get on my last nerve. It first started out with her texting him and saying she missed him, blah blah blah. He told me about it and chose to just ignore her till she decided to go and try to date his ex girlfriend (whose bi) and he tried to forewarn her that his other ex was nothing more than a cheating whore, and of course he was proven right when his other ex cheated on this girl. So she comes crying to him, and he basically tells her "I told you so" and I tell him to just leave her and her drama alone, which my boyfriend does and then last night happened. His ex gets mad because my boyfriend's been ignoring her and so she decides to tell her new boyfriend that he's been texting her and begging for her back because he wants her back. So of course this new guy of hers believes her, and he ends up calling my boyfriend out of the blue last night to yell at him about her false claims. My boyfriend who has just gotten off work from a 12 hour shift is pissed understandably and although I've calmly sat back and let him handle the situation thus far, I'm now pissed that this little b*tch has taken it this far to cover the fact that she's been texting my boyfriend telling him she misses him and such, from her newfound "love". I honestly think it's jealousy as she's seen the pictures on facebook of us together and it's now hitting her that she lost out on an awesome, genuinely good guy and that's her loss. But the childishness is getting to be too much. Urgh, what a nightmare. My advice is, get your BF to forward all the texts to her new BF, with a message to tell his GF to leave him alone forever.
collegemommy Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 That's way too much drama for any relationship. Tell your BF to change his number, continue to ignore her and her new BF, and focus on your own relationship.
phineas Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 That's way too much drama for any relationship. Tell your BF to change his number, continue to ignore her and her new BF, and focus on your own relationship. Yep. Time for a new phone number. Takes little to no time to copy over contacts & send a mass text message to let the right people know what his new cell number is. I don't even know my friends cell numbers. Their a name in my phone. If they change the number it means nothing to me. That is if he doesn't want this woman contacting him anymore.....
Maggotface Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Depending on what provider he uses changing a number is very easy. My ex had to change his number because someone wouldnt leave him alone, all he did was call his cell phone provider and tell them it was a harassment issue and it was taken care of in less than an hour and it was free.
stace79 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 That's way too much drama for any relationship. Tell your BF to change his number, continue to ignore her and her new BF, and focus on your own relationship. Exactly my advice, too.
CollectiveVelvet Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 That's way too much drama for any relationship. Tell your BF to change his number, continue to ignore her and her new BF, and focus on your own relationship. All good advice here! Good post CM.
Author aerogurl87 Posted August 4, 2010 Author Posted August 4, 2010 you lost me at "ok, so" You sound pretty childish as well. Let it go, really! I'm not being childish, so far I've yet to say one word to her but her harrassment is becoming extremely annoying. Urgh, what a nightmare. My advice is, get your BF to forward all the texts to her new BF, with a message to tell his GF to leave him alone forever. That's a good idea. I'll ask him if he has the guy's number in his phone still and if so I'll tell him to do just this. That's way too much drama for any relationship. Tell your BF to change his number, continue to ignore her and her new BF, and focus on your own relationship. Yep I think that's what it will have to come down to because he told her to leave him alone and she did for about a week. Then she begged him to add her back on facebook because she said she wanted them to be friends again. So he did and you'd think she'd get the point seeing all the pictures of us together and him talking about how much he misses me and such, but no. It's like she's living in the past and won't let go and move on. Ever since then she's been blocked but I don't know why she won't give up, so yeah I think that's what he'll have to do.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Tell your boyfriend to stop being a nice guy and cut her out of his life completely. It's like a guy inviting a friend to live in his house knowing full well the friend has a habit of living off of others. Two months later, the friend hasn't paid rent, ate all his food and had trashed his apartment with late night parties. Okay bad analogy, but all the time, your boyfriend thinks everyone around is a good person when in fact half the time, he'll likely get screwed over. Lesson learned.
torranceshipman Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Have you seen the actual texts and messages from her?-and do you know for certain that he didn't actually send those messages to her? Just wondering...
Mimolicious Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Sorry to say but... this is High School shyt! Your BF, how old is he? 5? That she "made" him add her to his FB? How did that happen??? Where they like sitting next each other and he had a knife to his throat until he clicked "approved"? Don't I wish these were my kind of problems... Sweetpea, uumm... How sure are you that this chick is the only one doing the texting. You don't really know what your BF is replying back. Out of curiosity, did you guys get together while he was still with her? This normally keeps the ex around acting clingy and psycho.
Author aerogurl87 Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 Sorry to say but... this is High School shyt! Your BF, how old is he? 5? That she "made" him add her to his FB? How did that happen??? Where they like sitting next each other and he had a knife to his throat until he clicked "approved"? Don't I wish these were my kind of problems... Sweetpea, uumm... How sure are you that this chick is the only one doing the texting. You don't really know what your BF is replying back. Out of curiosity, did you guys get together while he was still with her? This normally keeps the ex around acting clingy and psycho. Haha, actually she is in high school, he just graduated this year. And no she didn't make him add her to his facebook, I never even said he said that. She begged him to add her back because she wanted to be friends and my boyfriend being his nice self added her back because he wanted to give her a chance to prove that she was just interested in being friends. And nope he didn't get with me while they were together, they broke up last November and he hadn't talked to her or his other ex since then, but they were still on his facebook. She didn't start bothering him till she found out via facebook that he indeed did have a new girlfriend, me. And I know he's not texting her, he barely has time to text anyone with his new job, it's schedule, and location. She's texted him when I was around him and she'd be like "oh I miss you" which he won't reply to or he'll tell her to leave him alone. And he'll let me see his texts if I ask to see them and he doesn't keep his phone hidden from me or anything. She's just a psychotic b*tch who wants him back. A case of having what you can't have, but she's backed off since then. Maybe she finally got the point.
Mimolicious Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Leave it up to Wooleyka to stir shyt up. LOL! Bad idea hommie... Aero- tell your Bf to change his number and block the chick from his FB. Problem solved. Good luck!
Author aerogurl87 Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 Woolyeka: I don't need to spy on my boyfriend, I trust him. Mimolicious: Yes she's been blocked once more from his facebook. But she's left him alone so I'm happy again and so is he. My boyfriend apparently told her to go f*ck herself and leave him alone because he didn't want her anymore. So I think she finally got the point.
breeze11 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hi Aero- Unfortunately, the ex GF seems jealous of you and seems to love the chaos. It does not stop when one becomes older...I am in my 30's and my BF's exwife called me, cyber stalked me, etc. It was all to have us break up. This ex GF seems to be of the same disordered mold as my BF's ex....have your BF change his cell number. Remember people who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. Keep us posted. Breeze.
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 The first problem is your boyfriend allegedly ignoring her texts, as opposed to flat out telling her not to contact him anymore. I'd start there, if I were you.
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