user2011 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Try and get through my story as quick as. Was with ex for 2 years. she cheated (kissed) while we were together a few months in, this added with me being quite insecure snowballed into me checking her phone and then eventually getting lies out of her that could or couldnt have been suspcious. she broke up with me (1.5yr in) and started seeing somone else, then came back saying how much she loved me ect. We got back together and things were quite good, she did change and try a bit harder but still the trust issue remained. very much in love but eventually we started to act more as friends, she ended it. I begged and pleaded but i think deep down inside i knew it was right. dont get me wrong the past two months have been hell. this time round she was very upset but didnt give me much of a chance to fix things and its the first i heard that she felt this way. 'love but not in love ect ect' anyway i tell her not to contact me and fall of the face of the earth. And now i recieve a message. in short she apologises alot suggests i hate her and says she still loves me. For me reconciliation is not on the cards because ive tried getting back with somone after they have slept with somone else and i just cant do it : ( but its knocked me for 6, and i really dont want to reply as i know it could bring up a whole heap of emotions. is it bad if i dont?
anna100 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 please, please, please don't contact her back... nothing has changed. nothing will change. You deserve sooooooooooo much more than what she gave you and what she will continue giving you. Trust me, she isn't ready to love if she sleeps with others whilst in a relationship. If you do feel the need to contact her to get closure on the message just say "it wont work, we both know this...i need time to heal and please have the respect to not contact me whilst this is happening, it's not that I don't have feelings for you and want to cut you out my life, it's just that I wont move on and we'll both be stuck in this limbo stage for much longer then needed" just be kind, you'll regret it if you are not... you will be fine, I promise. When you can let go of all the blame and hurt you will feel great. It might take a long time to do it.. but it's worth giving yourself the time for it to happen.
cookie2 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 'love but not in love ect ect' Ohh dear. Sorry dude. Google that phrase. It is very likely she is (or rather, was) cheating on you. Stop talking to her, she is bad news.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Isn't this the moment that we all dream of? Our exes coming back, telling us they want to try again, and us being strong enough to tell them no??? Congrats on your strength and all that you have learned these past two months. Don't back-slide just because things used to be good, you know that this is not the girl for you, so stay strong!!! Very proud of you, keep it up!!!
canieverloveagain Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 have been crushed and dumped very painfully, praying for some word from my ex Princess, for 2 and a half months . I Was with her for 2 years and it was all amazing and on my birthday in may she dumped me......please .....If you ave ANY chance +++k the NC and try and make love win.....love is all and life as hard, I have been reading all these threads and am touched by the love , but also scared as I don't know if I can give up hope that we will never be back together again....so please try...I know NC is important and we have to be strong but let's have a story on here that is a victory for love. Take care and I wish I had an option that you have.
cookie2 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 have been crushed and dumped very painfully, praying for some word from my ex Princess, for 2 and a half months . I Was with her for 2 years and it was all amazing and on my birthday in may she dumped me......please .....If you ave ANY chance +++k the NC and try and make love win.....love is all and life as hard, I have been reading all these threads and am touched by the love , but also scared as I don't know if I can give up hope that we will never be back together again....so please try...I know NC is important and we have to be strong but let's have a story on here that is a victory for love. Take care and I wish I had an option that you have. WTF? Sorry for your situation. But if you want to encourage someone to try to solve their problems, this is not the right thread! This one is definitely a losing battle!!
DenverBachelor Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 have been crushed and dumped very painfully, praying for some word from my ex Princess, for 2 and a half months . I Was with her for 2 years and it was all amazing and on my birthday in may she dumped me..... The stupidest mistake in life is thinking the one who hurt you the most, won't hurt you again She dumped you on your birthday. She was the quitter, not you. She doesn't deserve the best you're able to offer in love. So stop being so hung up on just one woman who treated you like that. Life's too short to hold back your kind of love from someone who's able to reciprocate it in full.
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 have been crushed and dumped very painfully, praying for some word from my ex Princess, for 2 and a half months . I Was with her for 2 years and it was all amazing and on my birthday in may she dumped me......please .....If you ave ANY chance +++k the NC and try and make love win.....love is all and life as hard, I have been reading all these threads and am touched by the love , but also scared as I don't know if I can give up hope that we will never be back together again....so please try...I know NC is important and we have to be strong but let's have a story on here that is a victory for love. Take care and I wish I had an option that you have. These are unfortunately the words of the desperate. If she dumped you - on your birthday - she left ages before. What a day to pick. Nice gift. So that tells you just how much she thinks of you and how you feel. "Princess" does not seem a fitting title for a woman who has not acted like one.... Give up Hope. Because actually, there is none. Sometimes, a 'victory for love' means survival against the odds. OP? NC. Take it from me. NC IS the way to handle this.
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