IM5150 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 It's been 3 weeks since i broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. She broke my heart and it was totally unexpected. We've had a rocky relationship due mostly to her having alot of guy friends that she would like to go out with and have drinks. She was always into having more guy friends than girlfriends but something just didn't rub me right and I didn't think it was respectable for our relationship. On top of that she would not introduce me to these friends and that made me feel insecure and I didn't feel that I could trust her. Despite this, she showed me alot of love and affection more than any previous girl I had been with and I really enjoyed this. She made me feel very wanted. She was like a drug to me, we couldn't get enough of each other. One day we got into a big fight and she decided to book a trip to Lousiana by herself. she mentioned that a old family friend (a guy) lived down there and that she'd try and stay the week with him. I told her that I wasn't comfortable with this and after giving me some grief about this she complied and rented a hotel room. Fast foward to her return, she ended staying her final night at the Ritz Carlton Hotel and she returned with a new iPhone which i thought was very odd. 2 months go by and she leaves for Michigan to see her family for 10 days, when she returned i picked her up from the airport and when I went to kiss her she gave me her cheek! I felt anxiety and very uncomfortable. We got to her house and laid in her bed, i thought that we were going to take a nap together when she lays it on me, she said to me " I saw someone when I was in Loiusiana" and that " I want to keep seeing this person". My heart sunk to the floor. I could not believe what I was hearing. She was leaving me for some guy that doesn't even live in the same state. I became very upset, I cried and asked how she could do this to me. It was a very painful moment for me. I left her house a few minutes later and that was it. It's been 3 weeks now and I haven't had any contact with her. One of my best friends told me that she contacted him and asked about me and whether she should call me or not. He told her it was best that she give me some time. I was happy and sad in a way because i really want her to call me but at the same time I know that's going to disrupt the healing process. I don't know what to do. I miss her and think about her everyday. I feel so empty without her. I want to hear her voice soo bad. This really hurts.
Beeotch Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 (edited) It's been 3 weeks since i broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. She broke my heart and it was totally unexpected. We've had a rocky relationship due mostly to her having alot of guy friends that she would like to go out with and have drinks. She was always into having more guy friends than girlfriends but something just didn't rub me right and I didn't think it was respectable for our relationship. On top of that she would not introduce me to these friends and that made me feel insecure and I didn't feel that I could trust her. Despite this, she showed me alot of love and affection more than any previous girl I had been with and I really enjoyed this. She made me feel very wanted. She was like a drug to me, we couldn't get enough of each other. One day we got into a big fight and she decided to book a trip to Lousiana by herself. she mentioned that a old family friend (a guy) lived down there and that she'd try and stay the week with him. I told her that I wasn't comfortable with this and after giving me some grief about this she complied and rented a hotel room. Fast foward to her return, she ended staying her final night at the Ritz Carlton Hotel and she returned with a new iPhone which i thought was very odd. 2 months go by and she leaves for Michigan to see her family for 10 days, when she returned i picked her up from the airport and when I went to kiss her she gave me her cheek! I felt anxiety and very uncomfortable. We got to her house and laid in her bed, i thought that we were going to take a nap together when she lays it on me, she said to me " I saw someone when I was in Loiusiana" and that " I want to keep seeing this person". My heart sunk to the floor. I could not believe what I was hearing. She was leaving me for some guy that doesn't even live in the same state. I became very upset, I cried and asked how she could do this to me. It was a very painful moment for me. I left her house a few minutes later and that was it. It's been 3 weeks now and I haven't had any contact with her. One of my best friends told me that she contacted him and asked about me and whether she should call me or not. He told her it was best that she give me some time. I was happy and sad in a way because i really want her to call me but at the same time I know that's going to disrupt the healing process. I don't know what to do. I miss her and think about her everyday. I feel so empty without her. I want to hear her voice soo bad. This really hurts. I know it hurts but the good thing is that....you guys did NOT have the best relationship. You were not on the same page....she did a lot of stuff you did not like and she cheated on you then broke up with you for this person. The reality is..."your love" doesn't love you in the way you deserve. It is very weird how our heads know things but our hearts seem to be oblivious....BUT overtime it does catch up! It took me a while to be able to realize that my former relationship could have been much improved, he wasn't the greatest or best man ever and today I see all the faults and the reasons why it couldn't work BIG and BOLD and am in no way interested in that relationship anymore. I can actually envision being with someone else and it is terrific. Sooner or later it would have occurred, and you know what, while you cannot see it now, it is a HUGE present from the universe to you. You WON'T grieve forever or be damned to be alone for eternity. This relationship had to end so that you can take time out, assess what it is you want, develop, learn lessons, travel, who knowwwwws! After you do those things, another even better person who will be more suitable for you will come along. It is not easy, but believe me, having been through it. This period of feeling empty, depressed etc lasts for only a while. You have to feel your pain, accept it then pick up the pieces with a new perspective of the reality and move forward. You will do it Edited August 4, 2010 by Beeotch
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