Your Gonna be just fine!

[lmauk]

Hello! WOW its been ages since ive been on here!

 

I got dumped back in November, i used to use this site a lot! it helps.

 

I was in a really, really bad way. couldnt eat sleep yadda yadda!

 

Heres the good news....Im now fine. In fact im the best ve ever been! i am still single (9 months whoop go me!) But im having an amazing time!! I have made so many friends and have built up a life for myself that i will never ever sacrifice for anyone...EVER!!!

 

so heres my advice for anyone struggling....

 

1.) for gods sake DONT CONTACT THEM!! NC NC!!!! haha! seriously, it may be a fix but its worse in the long run and you will feel like a complete tool when your over him/her and cringe at the desperado messages you send!!

 

2) Be healthy its cool to drop 10lbs but it'll come back on!!

 

3) DO NOT DATE ANYONE FOR AT LEAST A MONTH!! dating other people only makes you compare and if you get into a relationship, you will carry the baggage over from your previous lover. I gave myself one month of NO BOYS! worked an absolute treat! got me over my ex (properly!) and cleared my thoughts without being distracted.

 

4) If your in a position to do so, get a bar job! Yep its tiring but you will meet so many new people, i still work there now! (gets a bit annoying on the weekend though!) plus extra money for new clothes for dates BECAUSE YOU WILL BE DATING AGAIN!!!!

 

5) Start fresh! i was living with my parents, so i got out of the house just went into a houseshare, it was great but now i live with 3 mates we have a lot of fun!! they are all guys so theyre good for the dating world!! they act like older brothers (even waved me off for a date the other day HA!)

 

6) Remember you dont need anyone else. Its great to be in a relationship! but you HAVE to look after number one to benefit number 2!! Having your own life is so important! i actually sometimes spaz out about being in a relationship becasue i dont want to give up my single life ( I NEVER thought i would ever say this btw!!)

 

7) and finally, you are not meant to be together. You broke up sooner or later you will realise that yourself. If your ex (like mine) gives you little lifelines, or hates to see you move on, thats not a reason to jump into bed with them, or wait around for them its even more reason to realise he/she really isnt who you thought.

 

Its hard but you'll be ok! in fact its up to you. YOU decide how your day is going to pan out today. no one else. Make it a good one!!

 

 

Take Care Guys!!

 

XXXXXXX

[commonlife]

Thanks, it is good to see people get up and live again.

I am really happy for you.

i know it will come and am eager for it.

And yes, NC is the thing but you need big nuts to do it

[Beeotch]

Hello! WOW its been ages since ive been on here!

 

I got dumped back in November, i used to use this site a lot! it helps.

 

I was in a really, really bad way. couldnt eat sleep yadda yadda!

 

Heres the good news....Im now fine. In fact im the best ve ever been! i am still single (9 months whoop go me!) But im having an amazing time!! I have made so many friends and have built up a life for myself that i will never ever sacrifice for anyone...EVER!!!

 

so heres my advice for anyone struggling....

 

1.) for gods sake DONT CONTACT THEM!! NC NC!!!! haha! seriously, it may be a fix but its worse in the long run and you will feel like a complete tool when your over him/her and cringe at the desperado messages you send!!

 

2) Be healthy its cool to drop 10lbs but it'll come back on!!

 

3) DO NOT DATE ANYONE FOR AT LEAST A MONTH!! dating other people only makes you compare and if you get into a relationship, you will carry the baggage over from your previous lover. I gave myself one month of NO BOYS! worked an absolute treat! got me over my ex (properly!) and cleared my thoughts without being distracted.

 

4) If your in a position to do so, get a bar job! Yep its tiring but you will meet so many new people, i still work there now! (gets a bit annoying on the weekend though!) plus extra money for new clothes for dates BECAUSE YOU WILL BE DATING AGAIN!!!!

 

5) Start fresh! i was living with my parents, so i got out of the house just went into a houseshare, it was great but now i live with 3 mates we have a lot of fun!! they are all guys so theyre good for the dating world!! they act like older brothers (even waved me off for a date the other day HA!)

 

6) Remember you dont need anyone else. Its great to be in a relationship! but you HAVE to look after number one to benefit number 2!! Having your own life is so important! i actually sometimes spaz out about being in a relationship becasue i dont want to give up my single life ( I NEVER thought i would ever say this btw!!)

 

7) and finally, you are not meant to be together. You broke up sooner or later you will realise that yourself. If your ex (like mine) gives you little lifelines, or hates to see you move on, thats not a reason to jump into bed with them, or wait around for them its even more reason to realise he/she really isnt who you thought.

Its hard but you'll be ok! in fact its up to you. YOU decide how your day is going to pan out today. no one else. Make it a good one!!

 

 

Take Care Guys!!

 

XXXXXXX

 

 

Congrats!

 

I too have recently came back to the forum to share encouragement, words of advice and my own story of making it through alive and EVEN BETTER!

 

I especially wanted to highlight the parts in bold as I second them to the max.

[sweetpea73]

What a lovely, happy and positive post Imauk!

 

So glad that you have found your happiness again, and its great to come back and let people know there is a far better and happier life to come after being split up.

 

Enjoy!