gothard Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 I posted here a few days ago outlying my suspicions that my GF has been seeing someone else. Since then, I had installed a keylogger on her laptop while she was showering. She has always been secretive about her computer usage... This afternoon she took a shower again, and I quickly looked through the logs but found nothing of substance. Except: the logs were telling me her camera had been attached multiple times and files were copied to the harddrive. Searched for the most recent files...and I came across 3 video files. I opened the first one and it showed my GF sucking this other guy off. I was so angry and heartbroken -- the video switched to other things they were doing and as much as I was so angry, I was really turned on. I wasn't able to look at the other two files because I didn't have time before she finished her shower. I don't know how to broach this subject, I mean, I was snooping on her computer (invasion of privacy). After the shower she came over and kissed me but I felt so repulsed I had to leave. I think she knows I found the files because my mood dramatically changed --- what the hell do I do now?
sh28 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 End it. You do not need to feel guilty for snooping. after all she obviously had something to hide.
Mimolicious Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 First, go and get an STD exam. Another dude's slong was all in and around her mouth. You kissed her. Second, dump your GF., She is a skank. Oh and unless you want to go into the porn biz with her... go get your head checked too. You get turned on watching your GF sucking another dude's sausage and your sn "gothard" sounds disturbing.
Ella whispers Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Nothing wrong w/ being turned on. I used to masterbate to my bf having a lapdance, doesn't make me a bad person, he was hot and so was she. If she's hiding it from you just leave. Don't argue, just go away. The only was to end things so you feel close to okay is to end them on your own terms. Good luck. P.S. The pron industry isn't hurting economically speaking, if you have the nads go for the gusto dude.
Mimolicious Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Nothing wrong w/ being turned on. I used to masterbate to my bf having a lapdance, doesn't make me a bad person, he was hot and so was she. If she's hiding it from you just leave. Don't argue, just go away. The only was to end things so you feel close to okay is to end them on your own terms. Good luck. P.S. The pron industry isn't hurting economically speaking, if you have the nads go for the gusto dude. You are comparing a "lapdance" you are witnessing to your BF getting his wiener sucked while you are not present? How is this exactly relates to cheating?
Feelin Frisky Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Man, what a shocker. I've read a lot of posts here about people snooping on their SO's technology but this is the first time I've heard one finding his g/f videoing herself blowing some dude. I can't imagine how I'd feel if I discovered something like that. I think I would puke if I really loved her and trusted her. It would be over too.
cookie2 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Don't worry about snooping. It's only wrong if you don't find anything! She lost all rights to privacy when she put some other dude's cock in her mouth. Dump the skank.
aerogurl87 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Don't worry about snooping. It's only wrong if you don't find anything! She lost all rights to privacy when she put some other dude's cock in her mouth. Dump the skank. I echo the words of this post. Dump her.
Bryanp Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You don't know how to broach the subject? Are you kidding me? She is sucking off some other guy and putting your health at risk for STD's. She has totally humiliated and disrespected you and your relationship. She has played you for an absolute fool. If the roles were reversed do you think she would be asking how to broach the subject? Tell her you were on her computer and saw the videos and you are done with her lying ass. Move on and find someone better which should not be very hard to do. Good luck.
phineas Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 (edited) Man, what a shocker. I've read a lot of posts here about people snooping on their SO's technology but this is the first time I've heard one finding his g/f videoing herself blowing some dude. I can't imagine how I'd feel if I discovered something like that. I think I would puke if I really loved her and trusted her. It would be over too. My STBXW made masterbation videos for her boyfriend in MY whirlpool tub on MY camera & emailed them to him from MY computer. If i'd bothered to have breakfast that morning I would have puked when I found them. I'd suspected before & had access to her e-mail. She moved out the next day. For the OP, don't even bother talking to her. She is a cheater. Cheaters lie. My STBXW still denied she cheated after I showed her the e-mails where her & OM actually talked about the freaky sex they had. I would have to keep showing them to her as proof before she would stop denying it. granted, she wouldn't admit to sleeping with him. She just stopped denying it when I accused her. Messed up. Edited August 4, 2010 by phineas
Maggotface Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 I agree with the other posters, you don't even have to bother talking to her all she's do is deny it or make up some bs or blame it on you somehow. She'll be embarassed and mad that she was caught and try to turn it around on you for snooping. It's really just a waste of time unless you like fighting, make it simple and as painless as possible.
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 .....I felt so repulsed I had to leave. I think she knows I found the files because my mood dramatically changed --- what the hell do I do now? You follow through. if you snoop, you have to be prepared to find stuff you really didn't want to find. You play with fire, it's going to burn. So if you're mad enough, end this now. if on the other hand, you're turned on by it, and you 'got hard'....I'd also question whether a voyeuristic relationship is something you should consider - but know that this will involve someone you love and cherish, getting it all on with another guy. And you have noooo idea where he's been....!
CollectiveVelvet Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 OP are you sure that this video was new and not an old video from before you were together?
Ella whispers Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You are comparing a "lapdance" you are witnessing to your BF getting his wiener sucked while you are not present? How is this exactly relates to cheating? I should have made it more a 2 part answer. Lapdance was at a party, she was nude, I wasn't there, it was on dvd. Comparing only in the vouyer sense, watching your partner with someone else and getting turned on. The cheating part is the reason I suggested he leave her.
Dexter Morgan Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 what the hell do I do now? easy, get rid of the wh0re.
MyNameIsJane Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Unfortunately, you found out by snooping... which means, no matter how ridiculously bad her actions have been, she is going to spend all her time talking about how YOU betrayed the trust in the relationship - and the conversation will get nowhere. Are you allowed to use her computer normally? If so, I'd just say you found it accidentally when you were using her computer and trying to upload something (since the video files were already on her computer), and kind of leave out the keylogger thing... otherwise it's going to get nowhere.. And by "it" going nowhere - I just mean the whole assess the situation and break up conversation.... because you better be breaking up with this chick. I just feel you deserve to at least hear why she did it - if you even want to hear why
xpaperxcutx Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 I'd brush my teeth first, then dump her. Ew, she kissed you after giving that guy head. Do you not see where this is going? It doesn't matter that you broke her privacy, she broke your trust the minute you found evidence of her infidelity. I'd dump then make the video a viral on the internet just to get back at her.
linwood Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 I Ew, she kissed you after giving that guy head. Do you not see where this is going? Yep, just like the next girl you kiss will have at some point been down on some guy somewhere. I don`t know what the big deal is about this. Slut she may be but we`ve heard no evidence that she has poor dental hygiene.
lostsunsets Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 You could e-mail it to her parents. Just kidding. Dump the skank.
Maggotface Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 (edited) You could e-mail it to her parents. Just kidding. Dump the skank. Haha planting ideas. Edited August 5, 2010 by Maggotface
Mimolicious Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Unfortunately, you found out by snooping... which means, no matter how ridiculously bad her actions have been, she is going to spend all her time talking about how YOU betrayed the trust in the relationship - and the conversation will get nowhere. Are you allowed to use her computer normally? If so, I'd just say you found it accidentally when you were using her computer and trying to upload something (since the video files were already on her computer), and kind of leave out the keylogger thing... otherwise it's going to get nowhere.. And by "it" going nowhere - I just mean the whole assess the situation and break up conversation.... because you better be breaking up with this chick. I just feel you deserve to at least hear why she did it - if you even want to hear why OP- this mentality illustrated here is reverse psychology of playing the victim. Only works if you fall for the bullShish.... You don't have to make excuse nor lie about how you found it. The truth is in the pudding and don't allow her to minimize her d!ck sucking session by justifying that you betrayed her because you snooped. Drop the hoe! Actually- don't even tell her why just say this 'It's over and you want to know why? Just think of what you did. Goodbye!". She's probably done soooo much more f'ed up things that she wont sleep for days trying to figure out what it is.
jenifer1972 Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 If someone did this to me, I would not be able to resist making the video viral, and then telling them to check the internet if they wanted to know why I was leaving them. I would not say anything else.
meerkat stew Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I'd want to know the circumstances first before walking out. When it happened, who the dude was, who she sent it to, if there are other vids, etc. etc. Don't let her turn the tables to the snooping, if she tries, the best response is "I'm so glad I snooped, dear heart, wouldn't you be?" Be calm and milk as much info as possible before dumping. Like the mafia movies, act like everything is going to be fine as long as she fesses up, be rational, get all the info you could conceivably ever want, then once you're out you won't plague yourself with questions.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Yep, just like the next girl you kiss will have at some point been down on some guy somewhere. I don`t know what the big deal is about this. Slut she may be but we`ve heard no evidence that she has poor dental hygiene. Geez, heard of sarcasm? Besides the OP was mentally scarred by the video. I still say make the video a viral.
Author gothard Posted August 5, 2010 Author Posted August 5, 2010 I'm dumping her ASAP. I've been really upset today She called me and asked if anything was wrong, and I said no, just stress with other events. I really want to get access to her computer again and copy the files to my flash drive before i dump her though i hAVE TO KNOW what is on those two other files/time stamps when it occurred, etc. will keep updated have to go itswas a long day.
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