newguyhere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I am curious as to what other people do to get their mind off their ex. Post here and let everyone know! Could be some good ideas for other people try too.
Author newguyhere Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 I'll start: If none of my buddies are around to hang out with I usually build/fix/break something LOL. I have a 1970 Camaro SS clone that I am usually doing something with. Nothing like a drive to clear your mind:cool:. I also enjoy going off road in my Jeep. Thats usually best done with a friend though.
Faded Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Take the motorcycle out for a spin if the weather is nice. If not, jump in car go to gym.
smk Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Go for a run - won't necessarily take them out of your mind but will definately clear you mind after... And endorphins will lift you up...
carhill Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I am curious as to what other people do to get their mind off their ex. Post here and let everyone know! Could be some good ideas for other people try too. Me, I bring a twelve pack to any friend's house and listen to them bitch about their wives. Man, it makes me smile
Author newguyhere Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 Me, I bring a twelve pack to any friend's house and listen to them bitch about their wives. Man, it makes me smile LOL! Awesome
carhill Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 And then I go in the house and say to their wife: 'OK, honey, he's good for another week. Where's my reward?' True story Friends like that are a great way to get ones' mind of their ex. It's been a life-saver for me.
bboy Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I think about something I have planned that doesn't include her. What am I going to shop tomorrow? Did I write a list? How is my old buddy from (make your choice) doing? Write an e-mail. I set a goal to read one article in one newspaper. Now I need to figure out what paper to buy. I call a friend and start talking about old girlfriends? Take my iPod and create mood theme playlists. Go out in the kitchen and pat my back that I've got so many days without contact. Remind myself that my happiness comes from me and not her. If it came from her, then something was wrong with me from the beginning. I solve a Sudoku and remind myself that it was just as boring before the ex as it is after. Change wallpaper on computer and phone. Text message 5 people that I lost touch with. Stay the hell away from anything that remnds me of her. Get out, go to city center with a magazine. Leave phone at home on purpos There are zillions of things. Very small things, but they ar cool and work quite well for short moments. It is lke small fire arms. You'll never conquer a nation, but for the moment it is darn handy
Author newguyhere Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 I started a Fight Club ha ha. Your fight club and carhill's beer would be good times. Maybe not the next day though lol.
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 ha ha. Your fight club and carhill's beer would be good times. Maybe not the next day though lol. Ha, yeah beer and Fight Club seems a helluva good way to get rid of some of the anger. Me, I did the one thing I keep hearing you should never do; I drank. Mostly with friends, right enough. Sometimes on my own. I just started hitting clubs more. To balance it out, kinda, I went walks. I do 3 hour walks almost everyday. It does help, the only problem is I do my best thinking when I'm walking, so I'm more often than not thinking about the ex! I go to gigs more too, now! I really dived into music after my break-up. Its helps! Honestly, I'd try to do pretty much anything to take my mind off it, but those are the Big Three - drinking/clubbing with friends, long walks around town, listening to a lot of music.
Fouts Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 When I was in that position, I would just refocus my thoughts on missing that person, to realizing they don't want to be with me, they'd rather be with someone else. That usually was an eye opener that I was wasting my time thinking about them. Easier said than done sometimes, but ultimately we all have pride and ego and it will work.
Tractor Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 I weld/make stuff out of metal, sometimes useful stuff,sometimes junk(art). Its amazing how hard labor,heat,sweat, and the focus required will force your mind to stay on the task at hand.
Author newguyhere Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 I weld/make stuff out of metal, sometimes useful stuff,sometimes junk(art). Its amazing how hard labor,heat,sweat, and the focus required will force your mind to stay on the task at hand. Sounds like fun too!
earthfireuk Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Iv been taking snowboarding lessons. I also joined the local gliding club and started flying gliders. I have been working out at the gym, Im pretty slim so am trying to build some beefy muscle I find setting yourself achievable goals really helps. I am planning to go travelling in the next few months so I have something to get stuck into. I got a second evening job and am going to be slogging it out for the next few months. Will be worth it though, so excited!
BiAxident Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 1) Exercise - Doesnt take your mind "off" the X, but certainly makes everything more tolerable. 2) Reading - Pick a topic and get going. Self-help/inspirational books can help in dealing with a breakup, but really whatever you find interesting is what will make for the best distraction. I just got a 500+ page book on basketball to tide me over until the NBA season starts. 3) Video Games - This is one of those things that I would wish I had more time to do when I was with the X, but never really could. Beyond that, it is a great escape and can also have a social component to it, with headset and online gaming. 4) Meditation - Yep, meditation. This doesnt so much take your mind "off" the X either, but it will help refocus your mind. Next time you find yourself in despair and/or in a place with some time to kill (driving, taking a shower, etc) simply repeat something positive in your brain 100 times. In my case, it was "there is nothing to do except move forward". Force yourself to focus on it, force yourself to literally count the number of times you've said it.
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