Telling WGF to leave - too strong boundary if affair isn't going on anymore?

[Bitterman24/7]

I think it is much harder when child is involved. I think anyone would try to keep family together if family is important to them.

 

Yea. True, but should it cost you your sanity and your child? Why keep trying to be friendly with a family and a so-called GF who doesn't care about you? Her family is nothing but nuisances. They have no right pitting your child against you, and you can find someone better than your gf, who cheated on you more than one time. Stop depending on her family to fix the issue because you can't control their opinions about you, and you can't control that little gf you have, but you can surely put your foot down. You need to file for full custody because if I had a child, I wouldn't want it hanging around someone who brings her/him around the people she sleeps with. Someone who can't even stop ****ing for a single day. Ewww.

[Butchannon]

So, I found out my GF told her parents she only went on drinks with all these boys and she said it wasn't cheating for her at all. I have MSN history of her conversations and when I told her I would show that to her parents she begged me not to. She said she told them about all after some time.

[mark982]

and let me quess! you believe her.

[Butchannon]

No, I don't believe her this time.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Oh really, what a damn surprise!!!

[whichwayisup]

When I asked her to test herself she said she was affraid and that it was not my business.

 

There's another reason to end it. She put YOUR life at risk by having unprotected sex with other men and lied about it, then you ask her to test herself and she has the balls to tell you it's none of your business?

 

No respect and she is desparate, hense her reaction and how she's handling this.

 

How can you trust her again if she isn't willing to own what she's done, admit to making some bad mistakes and choices? And, show genuine remorse instead of denying and lying?

[sally4sara]

Some here on LS say that you should kick your partner out if the affair is still going on.

 

But what if the affair is already ended but you have just found out? What is your opinion to set boundaries to somebody with telling them to leave? What if you have a child together and you pay rent for apartment? One of the reasons to demand leaving is also to calm down I guess.

 

Does it sound too strong?

 

You can break up with someone for any reason especially if you're not married to them. Hell, you could dump her because she doesn't floss if you want!

Bottom line, you don't like her behavior to the point that it has caused you to consider ending the relationship. I think you have a good reason so go for it.