lalalandman Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 So we broke up technically end of April. She tried breaking up with me for about the 5th time in the 4 years we were together, over stupid fights. This time I said screw it. Fine. She instantly tried to get back with me and I was hoping to teach her a lesson not to break up with me on a whim. A month of her pursuing me, at the end of the month, I finally said Ok, let's work it out. Of course she says no. Almost as if she just wanted the control. That was end of May. So 6 weeks pass of us not talking. I tried calling and texting twice in between with no response. Then she picks up a call after 6 weeks. I apologize for something I did and she said she wanted to move on. I tried for the next few days to change her mind, and she was still against reconciliation. So NC. A week later she calls and wants to hang out. She tells me she had sex with someone a week after we broke up, and I told her not to call me with dumb crap like that. I hang up and she shows up at my door within 10 minutes. She comes in and after talking a while we basically screw. It was amazing but Dumb on my part. We hang out the rest of the day, and at the end of the night she starts a fight. I text her the next few days trying to work things out. 5 days later, she says that she regrets telling me about her having sex, and coming to my house to hang out and that she is definitely done and doesn't want to work things out. So I said, OK. FINE. AGAIN. NC again. A week later, yesterday, she calls me about 4 times and texts for me to Please call Her Back, which I did not. I ignored her, because I don't know what else to do. She's obviously confused, and just, stupid. I feel like I've already laid ALL of my cards on the table for her. Let's just say that I love this girl to death. Ok, and Yes, sometimes I can be a pushover. We were each others first and we're in our mid twenties now. I know it sounds crazy that I actually want a future with this girl, but hell, I'm no angel either. So, knowing that I actually do want something more from this, stupid girl, what should I do?
Lost Fish Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Honestly, I would tell her everything you just told us. If you still want to be with her then tell her everything you feel right now. Speak from a place of honesty and compassion and try to avoid conflict. Also, look at what caused the two of you to have such intense fights that you broke up multiple times. Work on communicating and trying to resolve issues in a more mature way. Also maybe take things slower when you do reconcile. Good luck. And don't dally, let her know how you feel right now before she does start to try to move on without you.
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