Butchannon Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 (edited) My GF of 2 years has cheated on me for at least 6 months with multiple guys in the beginning of the relationship. Cheating also included webcam sex, sending naked pictures and dirty talk on MSN. After that cheating which I found out about 7 months back we moved in together and she said after that she did not cheat on me anymore. She got pregnant and now we have sweet little daughter of 10 months. After I had found out about her cheating I told her to pack bags and leave. I was very angry at her but we didn't fight about it. She left and then she and her parents filled for child support/custody the very next day. Now I pay child support and see our daughter for only 8 hours a week. I also had to make DNA test on my own because they didn't allow me to do it. She also has had unprotected sex with most of the guys in the of our relationship and before it. I trusted her she has got only 3 BFs and had protected sex with them but now I found out it could be dozens of BFs/f**k buddies. Her girlfriends told me she used to have another guy every other night. I went to STD testing and waiting for results. For now I know I have got HPV because I got genital warts. She said she wouldn't go testing and it was not my business. After I had told her to leave and calmed down I suggested her to go to MC and trying to reconcile. She refused to because she didn't want third party to solve our things and she also said she had to be proud and not groveling. Now she says she wants to reconcile but before she move back in with me she would like to graduate. So I see our daughter for 8 hours a week at her place and all her family keeps ignoring me. Last weeks we see eachother for 3 times a week and go to spa, walks etc. I want our family to stay together but don't know how to handle those things and successfully reconcile? Edited August 3, 2010 by Butchannon
leavesonautumn Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 WOW! She said it's not your business? You got an STI FROM ONE OF THE GUYS SHE WAS ****ING, not just her, THE GUY. This is YOUR life and your business. This woman is toxic, she needs counseling. You are a lot better than what she is putting you through. Yes, you have a daughter together but that's all you share. She doesn't care about your health at all. You need to get out of this relationship especially since she doesn't want to seek help. You are better off alone than with what she puts you through.
cookie2 Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 Jeez she is a complete skank. Why on earth would you want to reconcile with that? Get rid of her and get on with your life.
ShouldIDivorce Posted August 4, 2010 Posted August 4, 2010 I don't think I could get past all of that. The biggest thing is being honest with what you can and can't live with. Personally, I'd leave. If she was like that so soon, she'll do it again. Do you really want to worry about that forever? She's also shown a complete lack of care for your wellbeing by possibly exposing you to STDs.
Author Butchannon Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 Should I wait for her to give me second chance? She was cheating on me when we were not together. After we moved in she didn't cheat on me.
Author Butchannon Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 I know how hard it really felt to find out the one that you love the most has cheated on you. But whether or not you should ever give her a second chance is entirely up to you. Give yourself some time and think it through. In the first place, why are reconsidering to get back together with her? This is a very crucial question as it determines whether or not it will work in the long run. Could it be that you still love her? or that you doing it for your daughter? or that you just don't want to see a family ruin? whatever reason it may be, think it through very carefully... no one can tell you what's best to be done unless for yourself. I love her even now and I love out daughter very much. I enjoy our little time together and I want to be with them.
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