When the odds are strange

[Prince of Serendip]

Hello everyone,

 

I'd like to start by sharing how heartwarming it is to see so much kind and helpful advice being exchanged.

 

For privacy reasons i will refer to myself as Prince and the darling girl either girl or Princess ( dont fall of your chair laughing, or please do, i couldnt think of anything that sounded better hah.

 

I have had a relationship of nearly 2 years with a very beautifull girl, type model or prettiest girl on the dancefloor. Yes i am a dancer and she is too, salsa respectively.

 

I met this girl at the school we were both dancing, and at that point being a very happy single " get along with allmost everyone" guy, i pulled all the moves i could think of and got the girl.

 

To spare you time i wont go into all the details, and i know you can't ever be 100% sure, but from my experience and what i have learned from her and all sources that i ever got into contact with, i am talking about a girl whom is very innocent trustworthy and doesnt let a man into her life very easily.

 

I remember that i tried to kiss her on the first date. Man that was embarassing and cute at the same time. She just turned her cheek so i would kiss that and would giggle and smile softly out of shyness.

 

Very well i managed to steal her heart anyhow, by utilising charm, and my dancemoves and poetry, we have a lot of the same interests besides dancing and when there is no emotional baggage it takes just moving a part of my face in a funny way to get her to laugh.

 

One thing we used to do is go dancing every weekend which being both students was very positive as time together was rather a luxury than a common thing. However the moments shared were never ever less fun than when it all started.

 

At some point her parents announced their intent to break up and it affected her so much to the point i never got to meet them. As she grew up in the perfect family situation, only child, daddys girl and used to harmony in the house, she didnt feel comfortable about me seeing her parents in conflict and hence they got to know about me and all that we went out and do socially, but never met me.

 

This was the first factor of difficulty that i think contributed to the situation i am in now. I already had limited time with her, and now i had to share this with her feeling of wanting to be home a bit more, perhaps to mediate or an attempt to salvage, could be anything. But it affected the time we could have and which i needed to keep a seemingly perfect relationship going.

 

Now i would hate not to deliver relevant facts, and we had very small problems which i instigated, being jealous while i did not have to, nag about too little time together etc, faults i have realised and werent in play anymore at the end.

 

She was becoming more and more unavailable and the peak was when she started her interimship. This was very intense and she had to work 50 hours a week ( not very normal in NW europe.) This affected her mood as she was often quite tired, and we didnt see eachother apart from the dancing lessons, which wasnt ideal to be together.

 

So with no time together, not being able to take her out and seduce her time and time again as i feel i could, i think her feelings for me got less, because we just didnt get together. At some point i flipped and drove her to the point to explain what was happening, at which she stated she just didnt feel like she wanted to do anything anymore and she wanted to go away for her final study task and be gone from all social stress for a while. But which hasnt happened till now.

 

Of course i disagreed with break up, although i did not address this forcefully or anything but it was noticeable to her. Luckily i guess there was also no move from her to get into the dating pool again or anything.

 

I have had no chance until the summer break to not see her, shes still my dancing partner and if i do not contact her, she will eventually contact me. Through IM mainly, often just a short message to trigger a response and then we would have a nice conversation, you know what its like being together for a while your also sort of best or very good friends in your own special way.

 

I teach dancing now too, and she often assists me, and when my best friend ran into her and asked her about it she said she didnt like the teaching herself but she did it for me. Now shes very enthusiastic to help me teach this 3 week course again in a week or so and seeks contact more often ( after i had NC for 3 days for the first time. But when i try to get her to go out with me again ( last couple of months ) she either didnt want to or there was some stupid thing that prevented it, mostly honest from what i know so this could be bad luck.

 

Shes going on a vacation to a tropical country assumably with her parents as i cant imagine otherwise ( she isent seeing anyone nor has any good girl or boy friends who she would go on such a trip with) at the end of this month.

 

I know there are worse stories out there so ill finally get to the part where i could use advice. For whatever reason we are both enthusiastic to go to this dance festival and where she declined to sleep at my place in the proposals to go out before, she didnt object that i suggested to book a hotel again, obviously a room for us both. Not seperate ones. And another positive noteworthy thing, she called me randomly again ( but i missed the call haha) dont think she has done that for over 6 months.

 

So yes im not in the most terrible position, and the night at the hotel could be favourable. But does anyone have any good advice on how to make my moves right before she meets someone when shes on vacation, i am looking to making that final ( and finally) lasting impression again. Just to remember her how much fun it has allways been IF we are together. And to pull her back in. Before i am too late. I am not an emotional wreck and i can hide my pain certainly until and on that day. But it would be a shame to lose her, she has all that i want in a girl.

 

It looks like she is starting to miss me, but if i comment in the way i would do as if were in a relationship she doesnt respond yet. Any trigger tips?

 

I got something for you as well, if your into latin music or have a girl that likes it, and hopefully you can dance too. But this song is worth dancing to with your girl just hold her in your arms moving on the beat/rhytm.

 

 

Listen at least half and perhaps youll know what i mean the breaks in the music are intriguing.

 

Big hug to all of you,

 

Prince