smk Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]This is for everyone considering making that one last “great stand”, for everyone wanting to have that one last conversation in the hope of getting their loved one back, for everyone who knows what it feels like to wake up day in, day out and think of nothing but the one person you love, for those of us that feel like we are in the deepest , darkest depths of hell...[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Do you really want to make a truly great one last stand? Do you really want your ex to see you and think that of what it is that THEY lost by leaving??? Go and look in the mirror!!! What do you see??? What did I see in the mirror when I looked at myself, I saw someone that not even I would consider going back to, I saw a 26 yr old so broken that it almost made me sick, but I also saw a 26 year old who could either better himself for the rest of his lifetime or choose to wallow in his own misery. My ex didn’t fall in love with a weak willed 26 yr old who couldn’t be asked to shave for 3 days, one who reeked of stale alcohol, one who looked like a ghost, one who had no confidence in himself, one who was afraid of loving or living for that matter, one who was afraid to let go of the pain – no my friends, she fell in love with a 26 year old who pursued life with a passion, one who woke up each morning and said to life throw me your best shot and I will hit out of this park, one who lived each moment to its fullest, one who had a passion for living. Then I thought about the 2 different people, would someone want to be with the weak me or the strong me? And i will leave it up to you to guess which me I chose.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]So are you sure you want to make that last stand? Make a stand for YOU, make a stand to get up each morning and even if you really don’t want to, make a stand to look in the mirror and to picture your former self, the one that your ex loved, and think about what YOU can learn from this break up? Think about how YOU don’t need your ex in your life, but how YOU would like your ex or someone even better than you ex in YOUR life. Its YOUR life and only YOU can choose to be happy or to be sad, experiences and people will influence this, but only YOU will decide how long to stay in that frame of mind – do YOU want to be perpetually unhappy or do YOU want to wake up each morning and grab life by the balls and live each day to the fullest? Or do YOU want to make excuses to get out of bed each morning. The choice is only YOURS to make – we all have it within us, I read some interesting posts today, and it took a very provoking post directed to me to get me to finally get my a$$ outta bed and do something about how I was feeling, and yes I am human, I don’t know if tomorrow i will fall back down, but if I do then I am going to pick myself up again and keep moving because thats life, the world does not stop revolving each time we fall, and we have to keep moving with it...[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Make that great stand, make that great gesture, do it all, but do it for YOU and not for anyone else, and if your ex comes back great, if he/she doesn’t then hey you had a great time with them and there will be other like them who will come into your life....[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Be strong and have the faith to heal within yourself – the world can kick us down as many times as it wants but you know what by picking yourself up and moving on you become stronger than the world – you tell the world to go f@#k itself – because no one or nothing is going to keep you down...[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Life is for living, and each moment we spend not doing that is another moment wasted in not being happy...[/sIZE][/FONT]
Thorgs Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Something seems to be messed up with the size and font tags
SilkRose Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Thank you for writing something so positive and sweet. It's a kind thing to do for yourself and the rest of us on LS. I wish you the very best of luck.
Author smk Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 Thank you for writing something so positive and sweet. It's a kind thing to do for yourself and the rest of us on LS. I wish you the very best of luck. Silk - TBH this place has given me a lot more than I could ever contribute - the people here have given me more than I could ever repay - and if I can give something back thats what counts... Someone (GC) opened my eyes to something today - and after a lot of thinking and pondering I realised that we have to do things for ourselves - we dont need anyone to validate our accomplishments for us, we dont need to be reliant on others to make us happy, yes they can contribute and increase in our happiness, but ultimately we create our own happiness... Today is a new day, who knows where this road will lead us... Thorgs buddy good to see you - how you doin
Thorgs Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Thorgs buddy good to see you - how you doin Hey my friend. Things are difficult. It's really tough when you are all alone and have no life and no friends, to get through and keep pushing on. Right now I'm trying to get God back into my life, as you can see by my most recent thread I started. I went to a Perish a month ago and really enjoyed it. Although it was with my ex, I'll be going on a different day so I don't see her. I just need something to knuckle down because right now my life has nothing to it. Work, sometimes eat, sleep, repeat. And the weekends are even worse. How you doing today?
mickleb Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Superior posting, smk. I hope this is your most read thread. It deserves to be. That pair you've grown are looking impressive from this angle, my friend! x
bonpaw2008 Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Very good SMK, it is all about you (us) we give them too much power over our thoughts and feelings and actions. Take the control back, look in the mirror and see who you want to be....
Author smk Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 @ Thorgs - trust me buddy, I dont have a life either, I go to work, I come home, I go for a run, and then I come onto LS for the most part. Sure I have a couple of friends, but all of them are fed up of me going on about my EX incessantly as is my family. Its tough that's for sure, but you have to keep digging yourself out of this - sure we can get the support we need but ultimately the decision is ours on how long we choose to stay stuck in that hole. It's good to see that you have found something that is keeping your mind busy and God is always a good thing. The first thing you need to focus on is yourself, I know what you mean about eating - food doesnt taste the same anymore, life has lost it lustre, nothing is enjoyable, but that's only because we choose to live it that way. I am not the greatest living example here, but I am going through the same notions as you, however I realised that only I can make the change, sure I get some great advice from here about stuff, but ultimately I can only be down in the dumps as long as I choose. Find a hobby for the weekends, go cycling, go to a park, go on a road trip - anything that you once enjoyed - force yourself to do it... @ Mickleb - thank you is all I can say - the support and encouragement goes a great deal. @ PAW - yeah we do give them too much power and only we can take that power back. Only we can choose to pick ourselves up, no matter how many words of encouragement we get from others, until we decide to get up and do something about our emotional well being nothing will change. As they say - the first step to is accepting you have a problem and until that acceptance comes nothing happens. We have all been through the heart break and pain and sadness, and yes we can give each other the encouragement to move on, but until YOU decide and accept that only YOU can make the change YOU will be unhappy. Sure somedays you may even have to lie to yourself that everything is going to be fine, somedays you will genuinely be happy and others you will fall down and be depressed, but when that happens remember the world hasnt stopped revolving, pick yourself up and keep at it, because the ultimate goal will be worth it... When you do find your true enlightenment and happiness you will appreciate it so much more because of the treacherous journey taken to get there... Be strong - we are all here to help you along the way and give you the encouragement you need...
mickleb Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 This is for everyone considering making that one last “great stand”, for everyone wanting to have that one last conversation in the hope of getting their loved one back, for everyone who knows what it feels like to wake up day in, day out and think of nothing but the one person you love, for those of us that feel like we are in the deepest , darkest depths of hell... Do you really want to make a truly great one last stand? Do you really want your ex to see you and think that of what it is that THEY lost by leaving??? Go and look in the mirror!!! What do you see??? What did I see in the mirror when I looked at myself, I saw someone that not even I would consider going back to, I saw a 26 yr old so broken that it almost made me sick, but I also saw a 26 year old who could either better himself for the rest of his lifetime or choose to wallow in his own misery. My ex didn’t fall in love with a weak willed 26 yr old who couldn’t be asked to shave for 3 days, one who reeked of stale alcohol, one who looked like a ghost, one who had no confidence in himself, one who was afraid of loving or living for that matter, one who was afraid to let go of the pain – no my friends, she fell in love with a 26 year old who pursued life with a passion, one who woke up each morning and said to life throw me your best shot and I will hit out of this park, one who lived each moment to its fullest, one who had a passion for living. Then I thought about the 2 different people, would someone want to be with the weak me or the strong me? And i will leave it up to you to guess which me I chose. So are you sure you want to make that last stand? Make a stand for YOU, make a stand to get up each morning and even if you really don’t want to, make a stand to look in the mirror and to picture your former self, the one that your ex loved, and think about what YOU can learn from this break up? Think about how YOU don’t need your ex in your life, but how YOU would like your ex or someone even better than you ex in YOUR life. Its YOUR life and only YOU can choose to be happy or to be sad, experiences and people will influence this, but only YOU will decide how long to stay in that frame of mind – do YOU want to be perpetually unhappy or do YOU want to wake up each morning and grab life by the balls and live each day to the fullest? Or do YOU want to make excuses to get out of bed each morning. The choice is only YOURS to make – we all have it within us, I read some interesting posts today, and it took a very provoking post directed to me to get me to finally get my a$$ outta bed and do something about how I was feeling, and yes I am human, I don’t know if tomorrow i will fall back down, but if I do then I am going to pick myself up again and keep moving because thats life, the world does not stop revolving each time we fall, and we have to keep moving with it... Make that great stand, make that great gesture, do it all, but do it for YOU and not for anyone else, and if your ex comes back great, if he/she doesn’t then hey you had a great time with them and there will be other like them who will come into your life.... Be strong and have the faith to heal within yourself – the world can kick us down as many times as it wants but you know what by picking yourself up and moving on you become stronger than the world – you tell the world to go f@#k itself – because no one or nothing is going to keep you down... Life is for living, and each moment we spend not doing that is another moment wasted in not being happy... Hope you don't mind, smk. Like I said, it deserves to be your most read post. x
Author smk Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Actually thanks mickleb I couldn't figure out how to do it myself.
drewsmom Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I have done this right from the beginning. and it sure feels great. I have lost weight and I look a million times better than he does. Everyone that sees him says he looks terrible and I look great. I have even had younger men trying to take me out I mean 21 yr old and I am 43. It feels good. his stepmom even said he looks sick. I think that is the best revenge, to live your life to the fullest and never let them see you hurt. I can tell when he comes over if i look good and am very happy this bothers him. I think this is helping get through the whole ordeal. If I am happy when he picks my son up he will call for stupid things to ask me. I stay busy with my son doing things everyday, if he cant get intouch with us he will call 9 times in a row. seriously i mean like 5 min apart.
mickleb Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I remember making a similar error, myself, when I first got here. It's just about removing or modifying the html tags. This link might help you to understand the principle, if you're interested: http://www.w3schools.com/html/html_intro.asp The other thing to be aware of is that some of the formatting options just don't work on here. I don't know why - haven't looked it up. Should, really but I have never seen anyone be able to post in any other font.. Anyway, you'll figure out how to do most things you need to. Hope you're still feeling as fiery. x
Author smk Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Fiery - wow I never looked at it that way...
whatadeer26 Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Great post friend. I've had a great support system of friends and most recently the fog of only good memories of her is fading and I'm seeing the things I hated about her. Throgs- My life is similar. I go to work, gym or grad school, sleep. It is boring, but in the longrun the middle two things will make my life better. When I was dumped I stopped eating and going to the gym. You need to try to add something like that. As for not eating, Eat 6 small meals during the day even though you are not hungry this will kick start your metabolism and give you more energy. I am not sure what you look like but it will help you lose weight also. Thanks again for the post I liked it a lot.
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