Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Zengirl - Thank you. And in my case, the more I have thought about it from yet another sleepless night thanks to him, basically it's like the wounds from my parents are fresh again thanks to his actions. And it's much easier to take it out on him than it is on my parents.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 SassyKitten, you can't claim the moral high ground and call this man a jerk, when you are as bad as he is. "Those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones." Bad as he is? How so? Seeing as he saw fit to abandon me when I was already down from having to sever my relationship with my mother right after I told him some extremely personal things, leaving me in tears for a week and a half now, he's much worse than I am! Oh, wait, you're the one who seems to think my place is to be his bitch. I guess it's "Attack the Femi-Nazi Time!"
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 All you've done is throw stones. Precisely!
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 All you've done is throw stones. How so? It is SassyKitten that has been constantly on the offence. She is huffing and puffing in the vain attempt of blowing my house down, but this little piggy's house isn't made of straw. It's made out of steal.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 How so? It is SassyKitten that has been constantly on the offence. She is huffing and puffing in the vain attempt of blowing my house down, but this little piggy's house isn't made of straw. It's made out of steal. Hahaha, you think you're smarter than me, but you can't even spell "steel" correctly! :rolleyes::rolleyes:
zengirl Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I kind of love how Sphere somehow has this idea that your very existence is threatening to him. Lovely drive-by. P.S. I think the "steal" thing was a Freudian slip. Zengirl - Thank you. And in my case, the more I have thought about it from yet another sleepless night thanks to him, basically it's like the wounds from my parents are fresh again thanks to his actions. And it's much easier to take it out on him than it is on my parents. Sometimes you've got to re-open a wound to heal it correctly. I know it sucks, but I thought a more optimistic platitude might lighten this place up.
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Hahaha, you think you're smarter than me, but you can't even spell "steel" correctly! :rolleyes::rolleyes: I'm not smarter than you academically, not at all. Where have I said I was? However where I am smarter than you is when it comes to relationships, life and the dating game. You're life sounds like one big failure because you constantly make the same bad decisions, the same bad decisions and never learn from them. I'm the opposite, I see my failings and my mistakes as lessons to be learned which will make me successful. That is where we differ. I'm several years younger than you and I have my house in order, you do not.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 I'm not smarter than you academically, not at all. Where have I said I was? However where I am smarter than you is when it comes to relationships, life and the dating game. You're life sounds like one big failure because you constantly make the same bad decisions, the same bad decisions and never learn from them. I'm the opposite, I see my failings and my mistakes as lessons to be learned which will make me successful. That is where we differ. I'm several years younger than you and I have my house in order, you do not. Look, you may think you're smarter than me, if you can call it smarter, at this dating "game", which is one of the many things that has burned me out to the point where I am now. Maybe it burns me out quicker because I haven't sold out to the brainwashing that convinces many women to think its ok to be a doormat and to keep her mouth shut when a man has his way with her, but I'd rather be the way I am and still have my self-respect intact. And I too have learned from my failings and mistakes. Among which is to avoid the initial charms of men like you and like my ex that soon give way to an extremely ugly amount of game-playing, head****ing, and no mercy for making a woman's life hell.
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 You paint me out to be like your ex, but I am nothing like him at all. I'm not callous or nasty. I will stand up for myself when necessary and I won't take sh*t from anyone and maybe that's what some women like you can't handle? Your ex was a jerk for splitting up with you at a time of great need and difficulty for you and just three days before you were due to see him. I wouldn't have done that, if I was going to do it, I would do it when you were more emotionally and mentally stable, but then that's the difference between me and your ex. I'm caring and he isn't. Don't hate men like me because of your ex. That's just shallow.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 You paint me out to be like your ex, but I am nothing like him at all. I'm not callous or nasty. I will stand up for myself when necessary and I won't take sh*t from anyone and maybe that's what some women like you can't handle? Your ex was a jerk for splitting up with you at a time of great need and difficulty for you and just three days before you were due to see him. I wouldn't have done that, if I was going to do it, I would do it when you were more emotionally and mentally stable, but then that's the difference between me and your ex. I'm caring and he isn't. Don't hate men like me because of your ex. That's just shallow. Your standing up for yourself is a lot like huffing and puffing while cowering over your house made of "steal". You are obviously defensive when a woman actually (gasp!) has a brain and isn't afraid to use it. I look forward to the day when you have to answer to a female boss with your attitude.
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I look forward to the day when you have to answer to a female boss with your attitude. I'll ask her to spread. Oh and there are no female bosses in my job. Though I wouldn't have a problem with a female boss in all honesty, providing she kept out of my way unless she needed to discuss business.
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 I can see right through you. In some cases, it is blatantly obvious. Do tell wise one. What is it that you see? What is blatantly obvious?
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 One of the most important things you can do in real life is not give jerk guys any attention. If they insult you, ignore them. If they flirt with you, ignore them. Jerks thrive on attention and they often don't care if it's good attention or bad attention. The only challenge of course is spotting a jerk. There are some that are very easy to spot. You will only get better at this and have trusted friends help you spot them. Cut the jerks off. Their worst nightmare is to starve them of attention. I couldn't agree more. Good post.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 I'll ask her to spread. Oh and there are no female bosses in my job. Though I wouldn't have a problem with a female boss in all honesty, providing she kept out of my way unless she needed to discuss business. The role of your boss, regardless of their gender, is to control what your way is at work. You'll probably have at least one female manager between now and when you retire, so you had better do yourself a favor more than anything and keep that attitude in check. Asking her to spread would not only get you fired, but also done over for sexual harassment. Oh, wait, maybe that's why you're being defensive towards me, I'm obviously not the type to spread on command. Guess what, my pussy is a privilege, not an entitlement. I have other assets to capitalize on for my survival, like my big beautiful sexy brain!
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 The role of your boss, regardless of their gender, is to control what your way is at work. You'll probably have at least one female manager between now and when you retire, so you had better do yourself a favor more than anything and keep that attitude in check. Asking her to spread would not only get you fired, but also done over for sexual harassment. Oh, wait, maybe that's why you're being defensive towards me, I'm obviously not the type to spread on command. Guess what, my pussy is a privilege, not an entitlement. I have other assets to capitalize on for my survival, like my big beautiful sexy brain! You don't get humour do you? I'm sure you'll find the definition in a dictionary. I can quite happily work under a female manager. In fact my country was controlled by a woman from 1979 to 1990 her name was Margaret Thatcher. She was responsible for destroying my town and the mining community of my town. I could quite happily live in a female dominated world, because I know a female will never control MY WORLD, MY UNIVERSE. She'll only be a star that revolves around my UNIVERSE as I am the centre of MY UNIVERSE. So a female can be my manager. A female could own me and stick me in a muddy field picking carrots for her, but she'll never break me down and she'll never be the centre of MY WORLD. "I might be outnumbered, but I'm never outmanned."
Britney23 Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Many people have had tough childhoods and it can quite easily follow you into adulthood and create difficulties in your relationships. With your email to your ex, you say that "thanks to my past, things that were done to me, and things completely out of my control I will always be single." Firstly, that is such a negative attitude thinking you will always be single, i'm sure that is not true. Second, the fact you had a hard childhood and was abused is not the reason you are single right now or the other 2 times. The right guy for you is out there you just haven't found him yet. Believe this. I opened up to my boyfriend about my childhood problems on our 3rd date and he was so supportive and accepted me for who I am and it brought us closer. Not all guys are how you describe. So forget this guy. He is not worth your tears or your time and is definitely not worth failing your exam for. Be strong and have faith he wasn't the right guy for you but the right guy for you is out there. Most importantly, I really think you need to relax, block this out for the time being and focus on your exam.Tomorrow is a new day
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Britney - Thank you Sphere - I know all about Margaret Thatcher, a bit like what Sarah Palin would have been like if she had gotten into office. Which hopefully will never happen. Especially as it's always a good thing for the first woman to break a glass ceiling to be a good one who won't make a bad name for women in power! Also, in a healthy relationship, it's not "My Universe" but it's "Our Universe". But untill you realize that, the only women you'll be able to get to stick around beyond the 3rd date will be golddiggers.
Eclypse Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Sassy - good on you! I too got burned by someone online before we managed to meet. Well she didn't burn me, but I discovered she had lied about every single thing she had told me while we were together. It made me realise that looking for love online wasn't worth it and I sent her a rather harshly worded email as a parting gift. It did feel nice indeed. Good luck to you and have fun on your trip:)
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Also, in a healthy relationship, it's not "My Universe" but it's "Our Universe". But untill you realize that, the only women you'll be able to get to stick around beyond the 3rd date will be golddiggers. Yeah, that's why I'm casually dating a woman who makes twice the amount of money I do in a year working for a company that deals with aeroplane engineering, who has her own flat and drives her own car? It's going superbly well at the moment, I hope it continues. Even if we do end up together, she'll only be one star that circles MY UNIVERSE.
zengirl Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 You don't get humour do you? I'm sure you'll find the definition in a dictionary. I can quite happily work under a female manager. In fact my country was controlled by a woman from 1979 to 1990 her name was Margaret Thatcher. She was responsible for destroying my town and the mining community of my town. I could quite happily live in a female dominated world, because I know a female will never control MY WORLD, MY UNIVERSE. She'll only be a star that revolves around my UNIVERSE as I am the centre of MY UNIVERSE. So a female can be my manager. A female could own me and stick me in a muddy field picking carrots for her, but she'll never break me down and she'll never be the centre of MY WORLD. "I might be outnumbered, but I'm never outmanned." 1.) First of all, I thought you didn't "believe in Britain" (and it certainly wasn't "your country") and Ms. Thatcher was the Prime Minister of Britain (well the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland, if you want to get long-winded and technical). 1.a.) I am pointing this out solely because it amuses the hell out of me since you just made a point of saying the above in another thread within minutes! 2.) We all know you're the center of your universe. What we don't know is how you say things like these and then claim to not be a selfish jerk, really. I'm going to go to the good Douglas Adams on this one: " If it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, we have at least to consider the possibility that we have a small aquatic bird of the family anatidae on our hands." 2.a) This is also mostly stated purely for my own amusement. I do like to entertain myself. And insert random Douglas Adams quotes. 3.) Your world sounds like a scary place. 3.a.) No, seriously. It's scary. Take a good look, SassyKitten, this is what the inner mind of these folks you shouldn't pick looks like. The comments change, but the general flailing attitude is the same. They don't all go about laying it out there as Sphere is doing here, but it's easy enough to spot the vibe of it once you get used to it, really. 3.b.) These folks as I say can be men or women. As I said, the comments change. It's the vibe and place it comes from that doesn't. We just happen to have a male example here.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Eclypse - Wow, I'm sorry that happened. And very good that it did happen at least before meeting up. This trip will feel good! Sphere - Do you have any idea how egotistical this talk about "MY UNIVERSE" is making you sound? I would never be with a man for whom I am not the center of his universe, with him being the center of mine.
Author SassyKitten Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 Zengirl - Precisely, it's a lesson in action. And on that note, I am off to work on my final exam. Because a brain is a terrible thing to waste, especially on the account of men like my exes or like Sphere. Ciao amigos!
Sphere Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 Sphere - Do you have any idea how egotistical this talk about "MY UNIVERSE" is making you sound? I would never be with a man for whom I am not the center of his universe, with him being the center of mine. Well don't place him at the center of your Universe then. It couldn't be anymore simple than that. A woman will never be the centre of my Universe. I am, after all I am ME and My world is MINE. I have no problem with a female having the same attitude. I don't want a lap dog who tells me she loves me everyday, I want a woman.
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