daisy73 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I recently found out that the guy Im in love with is still in love with his ex. I ended it and I know breakups are hard to get over but mine is extremely difficult situation, you see I work with my ex. There are days when I think Im done but then he tells Im the best thing that ever happened to him, to be patient and wait for him and that he loves me and it just kills me. I dont let him know its affecting me this much but there are days when I have to excuse myself and go cry in the ladies room. Ive tried looking for another job but with the ecomony these days its really hard to find anything. We are a small company, we have to interact daily but I dont know how much more I can take. Any advice on what to do.
deux ex machina Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 That's pretty awful. Clearly and briefly, tell him to stop talking to you unless it's business-related. Let him know that you have boundaries, and you expect them to be respected - as you will respect his. It's completely unfair for him to try to string you along.
spriggig Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 (edited) Well, you could say the words "sexual harassment" and the problem with HIM would end--but you'd probably find yourself heading toward the door. You're going to have to man up and confront him on this now, before it gets worse and you over-react, say things you don't mean and maybe even have a blow up in front of the rest of the company. Grab it by the balls now and deal with it while you can still be calm about it. Tell him it's over, that you're not waiting for him and that he needs to move on to someone else. He's probably facebook stalking, so post some pics of you having a good time with someone new. EDIT: I recently found out that the guy Im in love with is still in love with his ex. WAIT a minute. "In" love with? Present tense? You gotta figure this out first. Edited August 3, 2010 by spriggig
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