Idunnomyusernamelol Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 So I did a couple things that I would never do last night. For one, I smoked. That's why I know I wasn't in the right mind. I didn't have complete control over my actions but that's whatever. This girl that came over last night is one of my best friends. She's also dating my other best friend. Anyways, I know that she had feelings for me but I didn't know she still did. But the fact of the matter is that she kissed me. I feel terrible because I "let" it happen, but I'm not sure what to think. It just hurts me just thinking about it. She wanted sex but I denied her almost repeatedly. I already talked to the girl and she is going to forgive and forget. I'm almost wanting to do that. I would tell my guy best friend but I don't want to create drama and destroy our relationship with us and them. I'm in such a confused state that I can't tell if I'm leaving important information out but that's the gist of it. What should I do in this situation? Should I just let it go and I'll feel better about it later or what? I created an account just for you loveshack. Show me that you care.
Bryanp Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 If the roles were reversed wouldn't you expect your best friend to be honest with you about what happened? If you were a true friend you would tell him the truth. It seems clear that by not telling him you are just trying to protect your ass. What kind of a best friend does what you did? By not telling him you are making him look like a complete fool. Do the right thing and tell him the truth. At the very least he deserve the truth. It is the least you can do.
Author Idunnomyusernamelol Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 I want to so bad. But I'm afraid after. I don't want to lose our friendship and I don't want him to lose his girlfriend. The only reason I don't want to tell him is because he is happy with her, and same with her. Her excuse to kissing me was because she wanted to see how it felt. If I tell him, is their a way to me telling him without him breaking up with his girlfriend and losing our friendship?
Bryanp Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 You sound like a good guy. You just tell him the truth. You were high and his girlfriend wanted to know what it would be like kissing you. It gives him the opportunity to decide what he wants to do with her. By not telling him you are not allowing him to have any say in the matter. He deserves the truth and you have learned a lesson for the future. Again if the roles were reversed, wouldn't you want to know the truth and not be treated like a fool and kept in the dark?
Author Idunnomyusernamelol Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 Exactly. I would want to know. I want to tell him in a way that won't get him upset. He's a good kid and doesn't know that I've ever gotten high. So I think I've made up my mind and I'm going to tell him. I'll probably wait until tomorrow to tell him since I'll see him in person and saying something of this matter through a text is ridiculous. Do you have any idea on how I should word this? Should I just lay it all out there?
Bryanp Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Good for you. This says a lot about your character. Just tell him that you think he is a good friend. Sometimes good friends have to be a bearer of bad news and I am the cause and the bearer of the bed news. I feel I should be honest with you and tell you that the other night your girlfriend came over and wanted to know what it was like to kiss another guy. I was spaced out and said no a couple of times and finally allowed her to kiss me. I feel terrible and I wish to apologize to you and hope you will forgive me but I thought you had a right to know. I hope we can still be friends but I will understand if you do not wish to be friends anymore. You may try something like this. He will be angry but his angry should be directed at the girlfriend. You are doing the right thing. Good luck.
Author Idunnomyusernamelol Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 Thank you. Maybe I'll update this thread in a couple of days and tell you how it goes. This kid has been my friend since about Kindergarten. It's just weird how it all happened.
Darth Vader Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Thank you. Maybe I'll update this thread in a couple of days and tell you how it goes. This kid has been my friend since about Kindergarten. It's just weird how it all happened. I'd also tell him about that girl wanting sex with/from you, make sure that you tell him that you rejected her repeatedly, of course, I'd do this over a phone conversation as he still may want to hit you from the shock of hearing it in person! That's why I say do a phone call, he can't hit you over the phone!
New_Life08 Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Okay, when I was about 18 my best friend had introduced me to one of her guy friends. We started dating, I was wearing his class ring and everything. One day my best friend stopped by and we sat at the table and she told me the whole story about how she and he went out on the previous night and had sex...they even ran around naked in a "church" parking lot. The confession was brutal for me and I'm sure for her. I was so mad, but not so much at her as him. It so happened he came over later that day trying to act normal (not a twinge of guilt) and I threw his ring in his face. After all, she was my best friend who I have known since first grade; I know her character and she is a good, honest person. They drank too much and she made a mistake; what saved out friendship was that she confessed the next day. If she would have left me hanging on this while I continued carrying on a intimate relationship with him...I would have been so pissed. So, yes, tell him ASAP. He may be pissed at first, but if you are best friends, he will get over it. PS. It will be much better coming from you than from her. I think my best friend realized that too. Best of luck...
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