No Divorce, Divorce WTF ?

[pinkp]

So my STBX say's he wont get a divorce. He doesnt want to and that I'm being rash. Here's my full story if you havent read it yet. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t239171/

 

He says that he can see us together in the long run he just cant see the middle. Also that he will push to have some sort of hold or stay on the divorce bc he doesnt want it. I'm not too sure what he can do, or cant do. Can he just not sign and we never divorce ? Or will it still go through whether he agree's or not ?

 

He was supposed to go into counseling for his issues: abused as a child, neglected, sexual indentity issues etc. But his excuse was the co pay is 40$ he cant afford it. Money is tight I agree but I pay my co pay of 40 to see my therapist twice a month ! And I pay all of the bills in the house and support our two daughters with little help from him !

 

Then somedays I will be doing just fine. He and I are suppose to be on LC strictly bill and child related. This weekend they(kids) were with him, it was rough for me. I read 4 books over the weekend. Thats all I could bring myself to do. Then this morning I woke up feeling much better. I put a lil makeup on, curled my hair and wore some fancy clothes to work. I even danced to some Guns N Roses this morning.

 

I get to my desk and he calls me twice. The first time I dont answer, the second time I do. He wants nothing. Just chit chat, see how I am doing. To say he loves me. Suddenly I am depressed all over again ! Why does he do this ? Why continue the useless calls, emails and text messages. If he is gay bi or whatever and doesnt want the marriage why put me through the ringer. Just leave me be. But he wont !

 

Anyone else have issues like this. I feel like it's a abck and forth things with him. What to do ?

[2sure]

It is my understanding that unless he wants to change the terms of the divorce to something you cannot agree to, and then hire an attorney to take it to TRIAL...he cannot simply not sign.