Forget About Her Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 So after being broken up for like 5 weeks, for the first time since our break up, I got seriously upset while I was alone. Previously, I was only upset the two times we met face to face to have a "serious talk". I don't know what happen, or why it happen. I'm in an unfortunate position of being her landlord, so I have to at least communicate with her once a month (more if something breaks). I asked her to leave the rent under the mat at her house. She didn't. The next day she texts me and says, "I didn't feel comfortable leaving cash under the mat, I'll just stop by your house and drop it off :)" I told her that I didn't want to see her, and to just put it under the mat at my house. She did, and left on her 10 day road trip with her roommate. I don't know what triggered me getting so upset, but I feel like a bitch. I finally deleted her from my facebook, deleted her sister (as her sister constantly has up dates about her), and a couple of other close friends. I've made a commitment to not FB stalk her and not contact her. I'm just really upset, and would appreciate some analyzation or words of encouragement.
cookie2 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Dude. Thought you guys might have worked things out after your last thread. Sorry it didn't work out It seems she's doing the typical "lets be friends" thing? Oh well if I had £1 every time I'd cried myself to sleep in the last week, I'd have £7 by now. Oh actually only £6 cos I got completely hammered at the weekend, got 3 hours sleep and woken up by 2 kittens jumping on me!
mikezombie777 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 That must be a very tough situation. I don't know what you can do besides stop being her landlord...lol. If that's possible, do it. Good job on deleting her from FB, that's a very good step. We're both feeling the same my friend. My emotions are all over the place since we broke up. Sometimes I'm ok, other times I have an indescribable urge to write her things, pouring out my heart. But it won't do any good. Hang in there, we're all here for you
bonpaw2008 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I don't think you miss her as much as you miss the thought of her....you were really strong not giving into her little games of trying to get you to see her. What have you been doing to keep yourself busy? Make yourself better, complete your goals?
stellaluna Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Hey, have been there before and man it sucks. Deleting her is the best thing you could have done. It's so much better not knowing anything about what they are doing. Maybe you could get a friend to be the middle man for you to pick up rent and do any stuff that needs to get done at her place?
HeavenOrHell Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 It does get better, I cried every day for 6 months (we were together 18 years), but it DOES get better, give it time
Author Forget About Her Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 I think Bonpaw is right. Reading this forum is freaking awesome, because it makes me feel 100% better. Today was like the polar opposite of yesterday in terms of how I was feeling. Hopefully, 2 nights ago was just my final "get it all out cry". I've subscribed to the fact that I was so f*cking good to her, and provided her with so much, and even more potential, that for her to leave me because of something that happen 4 years ago, is her fault, not mine. I cheated, she found out, we talked it out, and she decided to get back together with me. She said she never "dealt with it" and just supressed it. Now out of the blue, she says it haunts her every day, and it is the first thing she thinks about in the morning. She says it makes her have an attitude throughout the day with me, and that she doesn't trust me. You know what, I messed up, 4 years ago! It actually seemed to help our relationship and helped us grow closer! We are starting seperate law schools in 2 weeks, and she said she is in constant fear that I will meet some girl in my class and cheat on her again. What a crock of sh*t!
Author Forget About Her Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 In addition to my previous post, I have made a commitment! I am committed to no more facebook checking, NC (unless landlord/tennant related), and I have boxed up everything in my house that even remotely reminds me of her, and it is put far far away! I told myself that I'm done looking at her facebook, and I WILL commit to that. When I set my mind to doing something (i.e. business, working out at the gym) I am very very proficient at maintaining that commitment. I think I'm just excited for the prospects of the future, putting myself back out there, and starting school in Miami.
LovelyDaze Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 In addition to my previous post, I have made a commitment! I am committed to no more facebook checking, NC (unless landlord/tennant related), and I have boxed up everything in my house that even remotely reminds me of her, and it is put far far away! I told myself that I'm done looking at her facebook, and I WILL commit to that. When I set my mind to doing something (i.e. business, working out at the gym) I am very very proficient at maintaining that commitment. I think I'm just excited for the prospects of the future, putting myself back out there, and starting school in Miami. GREAT JOB!!!! Stick with that commitment...especially because it is a commitment for your well being and happiness. If you ever get the remote urge to even sneak a peek, just remind yourself how badly you felt when you did. You don't want to go back to the starting line when you are way well about to reach the finish line! Everyone is right, in time, you will be better than ever with your heart and mind open to someone new. They will come into your life when you least suspect it.
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