I just want my earring back!

[TuesGirl]

Story: had a couple of dates two weeks ago with a great guy. Super friendly, courteous, nice, has his **** together, etc. We made out after a lunch date that Friday...alot And I accidentally left a very special earring at his house. I get home, realize my mistake (when I looked in the bathroom mirror!) and immediately emailed him (he works from home on the computer, so emailing is pretty efficient) to see if I left it there. He gets back to me right away, saying, "Yes, and I will hold onto it for you until I see you again Have fun at your wedding tonight!" (I needed to get home to get ready for a friend's nuptials).

 

I think, "ok, awesome, no worries". We have some contact at the beginning of last week. He had a lot on his plate last week at work and I didn't hear from him, but I didn't think about it too much, I mean we've only hung out a few times and you know how that whole thing works...so I realize yesterday that it's been 5 days without any contact and I know he's leaving for vacation soon, so today I message him about getting the earring back, basically saying that I hope work didn't kill him last week, I know he's leaving soon, and that I would really like the earring back (they are irreplaceable and were a gift from a special family member). I even offer the suggestion that I'd be ok if he just dropped it in my mailbox (we live approx 15 blocks from each other) if that was more convenient for him, thinking that I am giving him an appropriate 'out' if he just isn't into the idea of seeing me.

 

If I don't hear back from him what should my course of action be? I really don't care if he's decided that 'I'm' not the one he wants to date, but I would be freaking devastated to not get that damn earring back (and yes, this is a lesson learned!!). PLus, to make matters worse, I have asked two different guy friends of mine what to do and they both automatically say, "um well he obviously thinks you left it there on purpose" *groan!* I didn't, but now I realize that is how is appears...damnit.

 

Any advice that doesn't center around "forget the earring" is greatly appreciated, bc honestly "forget the earring" is not an option

 

Thanks LS

[stillafool]

Do you have his phone number? Call him and tell him you will pick up your earring or could he mail it to you, but you need it.

[TuesGirl]

I suppose I will if I don't hear back from him in a day or two via my email message. Just wish it could be more simple. I'm not going to bite his head off, just would like my belongings back (even if it was my fault that they were left!

[Art_Critic]

He did say that he would give it to you the next time you see each other..

Is that not okay for you ?

If it wasn't then why didn't you just email him and ask to get it back rather than let is go at the next time you see each other..

 

This sounds like he is thinking "no biggie"

 

You sound like it is a biggie..

At this point all you can do is email him and tell him you would like to come by and pick it up..

 

By the way.. it doesn't sound like he has done anything wrong.. maybe it would have been better if you had just told him you would be by in the morning to pick it it..

[TuesGirl]

ArtCritic: I totally agree with you on the face-value of it all. I guess I was just starting to get nervous about it all bc I know he's going to be gone for two weeks here soon, and also bc communication has dropped dramatically (which I can accept, but thought if I waited any longer it would just make it awkward?)

 

And yea, he definitely hasn't done anything wrong. I guess at the heart of it all, I probably wouldn't be so 'worried' if I didn't know he was going to be gone for awhile. But I appreciate your perspective and I can definitely see that side of the situation. I guess at the end of the day, yea, I do have his email/phone, know where he lives, so I shouldn't get so uptight about it

[BobSacamento]

Do you have a ski mask and a crowbar?

[K'aycie]

I left a brassière behind once, I totally forgot about it, until it was mentioned to me a few days later. It was a Victoria Secret one too, but I never bothered to get it back.

[D-Lish]

I left a brassière behind once' date=' I totally forgot about it, until it was mentioned to me a few days later. It was a Victoria Secret one too, but I never bothered to get it back.[/quote']

 

Victoria Secret is like wallmart in the world of lingerie and bras.

[K'aycie]

Victoria Secret is like wallmart in the world of lingerie and bras.

 

Hey thanks! I like Walmart.

[D-Lish]

Hey thanks! I like Walmart.

 

Then your response makes more sense.

 

OP is talking about missing something really important to her- not something she can replace from walmart.

[K'aycie]

Then your response makes more sense.

 

OP is talking about missing something really important to her- not something she can replace from walmart.

 

My response was in regards to a personal experience of my own...

 

But, I do appreciate the comparison in monetary difference between Victoria Secret and Walmart.

[Shakz]

Sounds like you know where he lives. Just go over there and get you ear ring.

[D-Lish]

My response was in regards to a personal experience of my own...

 

But, I do appreciate the comparison in monetary difference between Victoria Secret and Walmart.

 

Consider yourself educated.

 

OP lost something with sentimental value, to pipe in and compare it to leaving a bra at someome's place after a "ons" is off track with regard to the post.

 

Back on topic- Do what you need to do to get them back OP.

He can mail them if that's what it takes.

[TuesGirl]

Yea, I guess that's probably what it'll come to... Now I need to go grow a theoretical pair...

[meerkat stew]

Yeah, Victoria's Secret, ughh. I spare no expense on my wimmen's knickers, it's Frederick's or bust baby, daddy don't mess around with anything made of fibers that come out of the ground when the manmade ones "stress test" so much better. I mean who wants to get it on on leather when there's NAUGAHYDE in the world? know what I mean?

 

Well Ok, Spencer Gifts for "edibles" every now and again, can get some posh "Rainbow Money" incense and a lava lamp there also to liven up the decor.

 

OP, sorry you are stressing over this, would disregard your male friends' opinions about him thinking you left it there on purpose, throw pride/caution to the wind, go over there and get your keepsake back ASAP. You will forget the embarrassment soon enough and it will turn into a funny story, but those kinds of things tend to get "relost" in a man's house in a hurry, so don't waste any time or worry about decorum.

[K'aycie]

Consider yourself educated.

 

OP lost something with sentimental value, to pipe in and compare it to leaving a bra at someome's place after a "ons" is off track with regard to the post.

 

Back on topic- Do what you need to do to get them back OP.

He can mail them if that's what it takes.

 

She did not "lose" anything, if I am not mistaken.

 

We all share personal experiences on here, so, not sure why you are getting snyde towards me...

 

And btw, it's spelled "Walmart". Since, you took it that route...

 

OP, my apologies. The more appropriate advice would have been, what has been suggested here. Hope it works out.

[D-Lish]

She did not "lose" anything, if I am not mistaken.

 

We all share personal experiences on here, so, not sure why you are getting snyde towards me...

 

And btw, it's spelled "Walmart". Since, you took it that route...

 

OP, my apologies. The more appropriate advice would have been, what has been suggested here. Hope it works out.

 

Snyde? I'll take it that route.

[TuesGirl]

Ladies...ladies...

[D-Lish]

Ladies...ladies...

 

Honestly, sorry- this is your thread- my apologies.

 

Back to the issue, I think you need to do a door knock.

[xpaperxcutx]

I declare you march over there ( notice him beforehand so you don't drop in unannounced) grab your earrings and march off. Really now, if you feel he doesn't deserve further dates, then he absolutely does not deserve to keep your earrings as souveniers.

 

Last time I had a habit of leaving stuff at other people's places, I ended up losing my favorite scarf and a library book that I was forced to shell out money for.

[Feelin Frisky]

I suppose I will if I don't hear back from him in a day or two via my email message. Just wish it could be more simple. I'm not going to bite his head off, just would like my belongings back (even if it was my fault that they were left!

 

Why the resistance to using the phone? I'd say man up if you were a man but w/e is appropriate for a woman. E-mail seems to be as potentially problematic as texting. When the other party does not comply, it tends to set the person who chose e-mail or text into an emotional quandry of second guessing and projecting this or that. Eff that. You need your ear ring back and it's a simple thing to get it or a definitive answer as to why not. And you dwouldn't have to mention that you emailed and did not get responsiveness. Can the chicken-shi++ery of the keyboard and phone up.

[TuesGirl]

hahaha. Ok, ok LS. Your message is loud and clear. Give him a call. Say I'm coming over (or 'ask' when I can come over?) and get it over with. I'm sure this will require atleast three glasses of wine beforehand As a side note, referencing xpaperx's post...I DO feel he is worthy of another date but I feel like I can read the writing on the wall...unfortunately...

[TuesGirl]

Where's my crown, bc apparently I am the 'Over-Thinking Queen of the Century' *sigh* (or really f'ing gullible...)

 

Got a very nice return email about how he'd see me soon (with earring!)and how he was out of town for a long weekend. Just glad he didn't reply, "yea, so what's your email, I'll just send it or drop it in the mailbox" (as I had suggested).

 

Thanks LS for giving me a forum to totally, and ridiculously freak out in so my friends didn't have to slap me for being such a dummy.

[K'aycie]

Nah, you're fine. We all overthink from time to time.

 

Glad it worked out.

[stillafool]

hahaha. Ok, ok LS. Your message is loud and clear. Give him a call. Say I'm coming over (or 'ask' when I can come over?) and get it over with. I'm sure this will require atleast three glasses of wine beforehand As a side note, referencing xpaperx's post...I DO feel he is worthy of another date but I feel like I can read the writing on the wall...unfortunately...

 

Oh just forget about dating him and to be truthful it seems he would have called by now. I definitely wouldn't give him another thought; but go over and collect my keepsake ASAP!