jo2020 Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 hi there, Its been a couple of months since my ldr ended and I desperately need help on how to get over & cope with this.We met through common friends over xmas and instantly clicked. Post xmas we went back to our respective countries however he went out of his way to get in contact and we really hit it off. We would chat for hours, im all evening every evening and email each other all day, it was very intense. The only reason I didnt question this was because we had so much in common, it felt right and I know everything about him, his background etc. He came to visit a couple of months later with the view that if things went well I would move to be with him later in the year, we also talked about marriage, long term plans etc. Things went well, he went back we continued to talk and things were fine. We planned holidays, trips etc. He was completing his studies as mature student and was studying hard etc and therefore we were talking, interacting less than usual however he stressed this was only because he needed to concentrate on his exams and course. We both wanted to be together and wanted the same things and there was never any insecurity about the relationship.A couple of weeks after his course ended he emailed me ending it as at this point he had no job ( had lost the offer he had upon graduating ) and therefore felt he couldnt do the relationship justice. We have had nc since then bar a couple of texts and emails nothing too personal. I was angry initially and thought to hell with it however 2 months later here I am angry, in pain, needing closure and also hoping he'll realise his mistake and we'll get back together. I dont want to talk to him as I know he'll blame his current work situation and I wont get any answers. I dont want my life to be on hold and want to move on, any advise ??
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