qinboxmail Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 So here is the story, Me and my ex have been together for three years. My broke with me about two weeks ago. I tried to get her back. Wrote her numerous e-mails, phone calls, begged her to come back and even my mom went to her house. She act really cold and treated me like a strange. Threatened to call the police if I bother her and her family. I kept on calling to ask her to come back. I know she cares for me but she had a really hot temper. Anyway, like 1 week later I start to like another girl and she found out that I've been hanging out with her. She said that I move on too quick and because of that "I don't love her a lot like she thought I did". So..WTH does she want ? I know she still love me and I don't know what she wants. She doesn't want me back and it seems like she want me to mourn over her leave. What is she thinking ?
Iselia Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 You probably like the other girl because you're seeking comfort. It WILL be a rebound, beware. The other girl wants to make sure you're thinking about her all the time. It's comforting for HER to know someone will always be there for her and want her back. Best bet is to go no contact (NC) and forget about her. If she wants you back she'll come back to you.
Author qinboxmail Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 You probably like the other girl because you're seeking comfort. It WILL be a rebound, beware. The other girl wants to make sure you're thinking about her all the time. It's comforting for HER to know someone will always be there for her and want her back. Best bet is to go no contact (NC) and forget about her. If she wants you back she'll come back to you. I waited for a week and called her. She doesn't reply to my e-mails, phone calls, or anything.
boosh Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I waited for a week and called her. She doesn't reply to my e-mails, phone calls, or anything. Then stop for your own sake. Going NC is your best bet at this point. All you're doing by calling, emailing, texting, etc is pissing her off and reaffirming her decision. She'll reach out to you if she wants it back.
skydiveaddict Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Then stop for your own sake. Going NC is your best bet at this point. All you're doing by calling, emailing, texting, etc is pissing her off and reaffirming her decision. She'll reach out to you if she wants it back. agreed.........................
Don Ho Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 No my friend she doesn't want you back. I agree for your own sanity just go completely NC. Yes, she thought when you started seeing another girl that you didn't care that much about her. It wasn't that she wanted you back, it just bruised her ego. It means nothing. Actually it's good for you. We've probably all gotten a little crazy with an ex, but the best thing for you is to go NC and keep seeing the new girl.
lovebugguy Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 No my friend she doesn't want you back. I agree for your own sanity just go completely NC. Yes, she thought when you started seeing another girl that you didn't care that much about her. It wasn't that she wanted you back, it just bruised her ego. It means nothing. Actually it's good for you. We've probably all gotten a little crazy with an ex, but the best thing for you is to go NC and keep seeing the new girl. I think you're absolutely right there. Going NC is indeed your best move. And I echo everything Don said. There's just one thing I think you need to make sure of: do you have genuine feelings for this new girl? I know love is too early, but are you really into her or you're just seeking comfort and trying to fill the gap your ex left? Because if so, then you could just be on the rebound.
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