Chochobong Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 So I met this girl out a few times at a club who has mutual friends of mine. The 2nd time I got her # and she gave me a french kiss at the end of the night. We met for dinner this past Wednesday for a first date and we both were laughing and talking constantly throughout the night. It ended with us hugging and saying we had a great time - (talked about other places we could go in the future during the date). I wanted to kiss her but it didn't feel like the opportunity was there. The hug was quick and then she was off to her car door. Yet we kissed in the past at the club, just not on an official date. Is this a bad sign or am I reading too much into this?
charasbb Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Were you drinking at the club? If you were that would probably explain why you got a kiss that night and not on the date. If you talked about future dates I'd say that sounds pretty good.
Mike B. Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) Well if the time didn't seem right, that is always complicated but you should have still tried to kiss her. A lot of first dates go well but that doesn't necessarily mean in a romantic way. The time not seeming right especially after kissing her before may mean that things have taken a different turn. You have to kiss her next time and avoid overanalyzing every thing now which will be tough. Play it cool and exercise restraint. I wouldn't start getting nervous now and doing a lot of communication. Just call her in a few days andmake another date. I was in a similar situation not too long ago and it turned out well but I believe it was because I exercised restraint. Edited August 1, 2010 by Mike B.
zengirl Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 So I met this girl out a few times at a club who has mutual friends of mine. The 2nd time I got her # and she gave me a french kiss at the end of the night. We met for dinner this past Wednesday for a first date and we both were laughing and talking constantly throughout the night. It ended with us hugging and saying we had a great time - (talked about other places we could go in the future during the date). I wanted to kiss her but it didn't feel like the opportunity was there. The hug was quick and then she was off to her car door. Yet we kissed in the past at the club, just not on an official date. Is this a bad sign or am I reading too much into this? Hard to say. If you talked about the future, I think you're in the clear. . . as long as she was actively participating and not just saying "Yes" to your ideas. If you kissed in the past, that means there was initial physical attraction = good. It depends WHY you didn't feel like there was an opportunity. Was it her signals? Your nerves? The atmosphere? That's really what it comes down to. A date without a kiss is no big deal. A date with a girl who is giving off, "Man, I hope he doesn't try to kiss me. . . I really got this one wrong" vibes is a different thing. I'm thinking yours was the first one, and not this, but I have no way of knowing.
Shakz Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 So I met this girl out a few times at a club who has mutual friends of mine. The 2nd time I got her # and she gave me a french kiss at the end of the night. We met for dinner this past Wednesday for a first date and we both were laughing and talking constantly throughout the night. It ended with us hugging and saying we had a great time - (talked about other places we could go in the future during the date). I wanted to kiss her but it didn't feel like the opportunity was there. The hug was quick and then she was off to her car door. Yet we kissed in the past at the club, just not on an official date. Is this a bad sign or am I reading too much into this? Sounds a bit like she was after a little bit more romance. Next time sweep her off her feet if it's not already too late.
Author Chochobong Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 I agree going for the kiss at the club does mean there is physical attraction on her part. And yes, we were both under the influence of alcohol at the club. I will say I did want to exercise some restraint and did not want to appear to be some guy who expects something more just because I paid for dinner and because we kissed in the past. I don't have a problem going for the kiss on the 2nd date. I think the whole kissing precedent that was set up at the club is what made things a little awkward.
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