anothersadstory Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Hi. wow. i cannot believe i'm posting something on a forum. first time in my life although ive read the words on these boards for almost a year now. i am at a point where i dont know how to move on, am tired of the hurt and would like to see if anyone has some advice that might help. i was a MW in an affair with a MM for 3 years. it was typical. hes older, the most amazing man i had ever met, the connection, the physical attraction, all of it. during the course of the A my marriage fell apart and my husband left me. several months later he found proof of the affair, and then a few weeks later the A was revealed to MM's wife (im pretty sure my H was to blame for this.) i was thrown under the bus and hard. my world, my happiness, my everything came crashing down. i view him as this perfect entity that loved me from the depths of his soul. i was utterly shocked when he ditched me. refused to even speak to me. we work together so there is always contact. me falling apart when i see him, this strain between us, its very stressful. hes hot and cold. does the typical MM stuff reeling me back in when it suits him. this keeps me from moving on. several months ago he was kicked out. guess who he called? me. sucking me back in, right back at it, the world was wonderful again. Now hes moved back home and i'm left crying again. i know i need complete NC. i understand he will never be with me. i understand he isnt who i thought he was. my problem is that the tears wont stop. every day im sad. its been almost a year and i cant seem to move on. i feel like i'll never love again because i wont ever find "him."
whichwayisup Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 What you feel towards your MM and that pain is what your H is feeling or has felt about you... Why are you angry at your exH? Because he busted the affair openwide? Rightfully so... Get counselling and find a way to let go of the MM. He chose his wife and family (again) and now you're alone. Sorry you're hurting. All you can do is allow yourself to grieve and try to heal. Realize that the MM never had any intention of leaving his wife and kids, he got thrown out after being found out. The grass isn't greener.. Your MM may have loved you, in the moment and he cared, but he is and has done what is best for him.
YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 You may not like what I write but here goes. i was a MW in an affair with a MM for 3 years. it was typical. hes older, the most amazing man i had ever met... The most amazing man you ever met was cheating on his wife behind her back for three years? during the course of the A my marriage fell apart and my husband left me. This happens because you were investing all the emotion and passion that should have been reserved for your husband on another man. ..several months later he found proof of the affair, and then a few weeks later the A was revealed to MM's wife (im pretty sure my H was to blame for this.) Your husband is not to blame. You and the OM are to blame for the affair and the eventual revelation to the MM's wife. i was thrown under the bus and hard. my world, my happiness, my everything came crashing down. i view him as this perfect entity that loved me from the depths of his soul. i was utterly shocked when he ditched me. refused to even speak to me. Wait a sec, I thought he was: ...the most amazing man i had ever met... ...several months ago he was kicked out. guess who he called? me. sucking me back in, right back at it, the world was wonderful again. Now hes moved back home and i'm left crying again. So is he the most amazing man you have ever met? Or is he simply a cheating, lying heartbreaker that used you? ...my problem is that the tears wont stop. every day im sad. its been almost a year and i cant seem to move on. i feel like i'll never love again because i wont ever find "him." You will love again. Promise. You have to come to grips that you opened your heart to a cheating, lying heartbreaker. Next time anothersadstory make sure the guy you open your heart to is A) single, and B) honest. There are single and honest men out there and they are waiting to meet you. Trust me.
Author anothersadstory Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 When I said that "i'm pretty sure my H is to blame for this" when talking about things being revealed to MM's W i was meaning that we're not sure who exactly told her, I'm pretty sure that it was my H. I wasnt blaming him for something.
YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 When I said that "i'm pretty sure my H is to blame for this" when talking about things being revealed to MM's W i was meaning that we're not sure who exactly told her, I'm pretty sure that it was my H. I wasnt blaming him for something. I understand your defensiveness but your husband has every right to inform the betrayed spouse that an affair happened. The affair happened because you and the MM made it happen. Wouldn't you want to know if your husband had been cheating on you behind your back for three years anothersadstory? Or would you want to live a lie?
Author anothersadstory Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) oh it absolutely wouldnt bother me if my H was the one who told, meaning i certainly would understand if it was him. it was a pretty interesting way that she found out. still to this day it is an unanswered question. my H denies it 100%. and so we all would like to know who told her if it wasnt him. (thats why i included that part to begin with). the other parts that the both of you say are true. i realize he wasnt who i thought. i realize he picked her over and over. although i still cant believe i was so wrong about him, i do accept he isnt what i thought. but the tears just wont stop. they wont. i cry because he gone. i cry because he wont leave me alone. i cry because i trashed my life. i cry because im not sure i would have made the same decisions had i know who he truly was inside. because of this i feel mislead. every morning hes what i think about. every night hes what i dream of. not always wishing he would come back, but often because of the hurt i feel because of him. its very sad to have to admit that three very wonderful years of my life were all lies. and because of our affair, my world will never be the same. i feel like the hurt inside is so great that i wil never heal. that i will never be able to trust like i did with him. that now i know what true heartache is and that the perfect love just doesnt exist. i cry because the way i view life and love has forever changed. Edited August 1, 2010 by anothersadstory
cavedweller Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 anothersadstory, If your married man won't leave his wife and get a divorce then you need to forget about him and move on.. What other choice do you have?
YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 still to this day it is an unanswered question. my H denies it 100%. and so we all would like to know who told her if it wasnt him. (thats why i included that part to begin with). It really doesn't matter who told her. She deserves to know because it's a matter of trust, and it is the foundation of her marriage. (Look at Tiger Woods and Jesse James for example.) ...the other parts that the both of you say are true. i realize he wasnt who i thought. You have learned a great lesson. If they are cheaters, immoral, and willing to have an affair on their spouses, they will lie and betray you eventually. That is why you now have to have a criteria for your next guy, he must be honest, loyal and single. ...but the tears just wont stop. they wont. i cry because hes gone. i cry because i trashed my life. i cry because im not sure i would have made the same decisions had i know who he truly was inside. because of this i feel mislead. You need to talk to a counsellor and figure out why this is the way you feel. It can only help you be a better person. ...its very sad to have to admit that three very wonderful years of my life were all lies. and because of our affair, my world will never be the same. And that is why his wife deserves to know the truth too. For her own protection. i feel like the hurt inside is so great that i wil never heal. that i will never be able to trust like i did with him. that now i know what true heartache is and that the perfect love just doesnt exist. i cry because the way i view life and love has forever changed. If you find a nice, decent, honest, single guy who finds cheating immoral then you will find "the perfect love." Really you will. Please seek out some counselling and work out the damage this affair has caused you. ok?
Mimolicious Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 anothersadstory, If your married man won't leave his wife and get a divorce then you need to forget about him and move on.. What other choice do you have? To continue to have an A and be his OW. He already ditched her once and she took him back when he got kicked out. Once things simmer at home, he'll call again.... i feel like the hurt inside is so great that i wil never heal. that i will never be able to trust like i did with him. that now i know what true heartache is and that the perfect love just doesnt exist. i cry because the way i view life and love has forever changed. Sorry that YOU, YOUR H and your MM's W feel like this as well. You are not the only person that has been hurt here. How do you think your H and his W feel? They also don't view life the same and will have a hard time trusting and loving. At the end of the day they were the ones that were really betrayed. Not you. You were fully aware of how much of a liar and cheater your MM is and you knew what you were doing to your H. I understand that you are human with feelings that are now hurt. Try taking some responsibility in what happened and maybe you can feel stronger about moving on. Own it. It's amazing how blinded a person can go into an A, yet don't see the crash and burn espisode approaching. They are a hotmess when it hits the fan. If we had a more realistic approach to what we are doing and have an understanding that if it ends, it can end is a disastrous way... we can spare our feelings a bit less pain. It's not the end of the world. Nobody dies from a broken heart. If that was the case we would all be dead by now. If there is any possibility, get another job and move on. It happens to the best of us... We get betrayed by our spouses yet we move on and love again. Get some professional help... oh and perhaps, D your H if you dont love him.
YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 It's amazing how blinded a person can go into an A, yet don't see the crash and burn espisode approaching. When my EX cheated on me I read nearly ever OM/OW thread at Loveshack seeking wisdom. And the common theme I see is exactly that. So many of these people posting here who are engaged in an affair don't think about the end-game. They are near-sighted, selfish, and delusional. Either they end up getting hearbroken because the OM/OW cheats on them, or the OM/OW goes back to their betrayed spouse and they are left holding the bag. Then they act surprised when the cheating OM/OW they are having the affair with betrays them!
jwi71 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 we work together so there is always contact. me falling apart when i see him, this strain between us, its very stressful. hes hot and cold. does the typical MM stuff reeling me back in when it suits him. Your life won't get better until YOU act. And you need to change jobs. I know, you "can't". However, since you won't then you are going to have to endure this. this keeps me from moving on Not true. YOU keep YOU from moving on. A fish that is not hungry does not take the bait. So move on with your life, date others (lose the hunger)...and then we run into the problem of "you still love him and can't move on". Well...then ACT to change it. Quit. Find a new job. Accept less money somewhere else if you must. Until you go NC and erase him from your life...he'll be in it. i know i need complete NC. i understand he will never be with me. i understand he isnt who i thought he was. Then stop talking about and start DOING it. my problem is that the tears wont stop. every day im sad. its been almost a year and i cant seem to move on. i feel like i'll never love again because i wont ever find "him." IC. Get to one now. I suspect part of the issue is you "lost" good H for is now a lie to you...so, preserving yourself, you hang on - otherwise you gave up the H and that life for nothing. Something to think about. Better yet, something to explore in IC about.
scatterd Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I am sorry you are hurting but you need to let go allot of times we hold on with some kind of hope that they will come back.Once you truly except its over is when you start to heal.Try not to pay attention to him he is taken and he knows he can come fishing anytime he wants.Just think if you was to marry him you would be in his wifes shoes some day.How is it hard for to except it was all a lie cheating is living a lie from beginning to end.This guy is not much of a lost you need to forget him.Try to stay busy and seek some help work on you being a better person find out what the reason for you cheating so you fix it.Good Luck
bentnotbroken Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Hi. wow. i cannot believe i'm posting something on a forum. first time in my life although ive read the words on these boards for almost a year now. i am at a point where i dont know how to move on, am tired of the hurt and would like to see if anyone has some advice that might help. i was a MW in an affair with a MM for 3 years. it was typical. hes older, the most amazing man i had ever met, the connection, the physical attraction, all of it. during the course of the A my marriage fell apart and my husband left me. several months later he found proof of the affair, and then a few weeks later the A was revealed to MM's wife (im pretty sure my H was to blame for this.) i was thrown under the bus and hard. my world, my happiness, my everything came crashing down. i view him as this perfect entity that loved me from the depths of his soul. i was utterly shocked when he ditched me. refused to even speak to me. we work together so there is always contact. me falling apart when i see him, this strain between us, its very stressful. hes hot and cold. does the typical MM stuff reeling me back in when it suits him. this keeps me from moving on. several months ago he was kicked out. guess who he called? me. sucking me back in, right back at it, the world was wonderful again. Now hes moved back home and i'm left crying again. i know i need complete NC. i understand he will never be with me. i understand he isnt who i thought he was. my problem is that the tears wont stop. every day im sad. its been almost a year and i cant seem to move on. i feel like i'll never love again because i wont ever find "him." This stuck out for me of course. Your ex wasn't to blame for anything...that would be you and the cheating MM. If there isn't anything there for the wife to find out....no one is to blame are they? Him? What is so great about him? His lyng? His cheating? His cake eating? You are pining for a fantasy....why?
jj33 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Another I had to work with xMM not in the same office but for a long time business dictated that we saw each other and were in contact more than was helpful. I dont know any magic bullet to make the pain go away. Focusing on other things, not allowing yourself to wallow in the "hes the only one if its not him there is noone" all help. One trick is to say I am going to give myself 15 minutes to think about this later. Not now while I am working but later. And give yourself that time, set the alarm and then stop. Make yourself go out. Even if you walk down the street with tears in your eyes you can not allow the grief to stop you from doing everything in your power to move on. There are self help tapes that are meant to be listened to as you fall asleep which may be helpful if insomnia is a problem. As for what to do in the workplace there isnt much to do except nose to grindstone and when you feel your mind wandering to where he is who he is talking to etc just gently bring your attention back to your work. Im sorry you are going through this, I know how distressing it is.
YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I understand your defensiveness but your husband has every right to inform the betrayed spouse that an affair happened. By the way, this is SO not true. It is absolutely no one's right, except for the spouse him or herself, to "inform" the BS of the affair. I am gonna call you on that one. Did Tiger Woods tell his wife about his multiple affairs? NOPE. Did Jesse James tell Sandra Bullock about his multiple affairs? NOPE. Did Bill Clinton tell his wife about his affair? NOPE. Did Eddie Cibrian tell his wife about his affair with Leanne Rimes? NOPE. All those wives had to find out about their husband's affairs from other people. Why? Because the cheating husband rarely - if ever - has the balls to admit that he is cheating. It is a selfish and horrible thing to do to the person who has been betrayed, to hear that from a stranger. With all due respect your moral compass is way off. It is selfish and immoral to cheat on your spouse, not to have someone inform the BS that their marriage is a sham and they are being put in a dangerous and potentially life-threatening (see: STDs) position.
bestplayer Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Hi. wow. i cannot believe i'm posting something on a forum. first time in my life although ive read the words on these boards for almost a year now. i am at a point where i dont know how to move on, am tired of the hurt and would like to see if anyone has some advice that might help. i was a MW in an affair with a MM for 3 years. it was typical. hes older, the most amazing man i had ever met, the connection, the physical attraction, all of it. during the course of the A my marriage fell apart and my husband left me. several months later he found proof of the affair, and then a few weeks later the A was revealed to MM's wife (im pretty sure my H was to blame for this.) i was thrown under the bus and hard. my world, my happiness, my everything came crashing down. i view him as this perfect entity that loved me from the depths of his soul. i was utterly shocked when he ditched me. refused to even speak to me. we work together so there is always contact. me falling apart when i see him, this strain between us, its very stressful. hes hot and cold. does the typical MM stuff reeling me back in when it suits him. this keeps me from moving on. several months ago he was kicked out. guess who he called? me. sucking me back in, right back at it, the world was wonderful again. Now hes moved back home and i'm left crying again. i know i need complete NC. i understand he will never be with me. i understand he isnt who i thought he was. my problem is that the tears wont stop. every day im sad. its been almost a year and i cant seem to move on. i feel like i'll never love again because i wont ever find "him." well frankly speaking , what you did to your H is much worse than what your MM did to you . But it seems you are not bothered about that . best of luck
Silly_Girl Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I never disagreed that it is immoral to have an affair. I said that it's no one else's place to ASSUME whether the BS wants to know about it. This is just hurting the one person who has ALREADY been hurt the most, out of spite. You can't know another person's mind or the state of their marriage or whether or not they would just prefer to be kept in the dark. In my case, she found out (from him) and one of the first things she said was that she wished she never had found out. In any event, this is thread-jacking and this conversation is over. How have they been hurt, please, if they do not know? I understand that often the WS treats the BS better during the A, for various reasons... It may well be that the BS has absolutely no clue as to why things have improved, which just makes the scenario even more sick, if they do not know the truth.
bentnotbroken Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 How have they been hurt, please, if they do not know? I understand that often the WS treats the BS better during the A, for various reasons... It may well be that the BS has absolutely no clue as to why things have improved, which just makes the scenario even more sick, if they do not know the truth. Amen! I don't have to know the state of mind of anyone. It certainly wasn't the issue for the AP and the WS. Now they give a damn. Funny.
fooled once Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Wow, everyone is being pretty brutal with this person. I am not quite sure why. She is in pain and she made some costly mistakes and she doesn't need to hear lectures about what a fool she has been, in my opinion. By the way, this is SO not true. It is absolutely no one's right, except for the spouse him or herself, to "inform" the BS of the affair. Whether or not they "deserve to know" or "would want to be told" is something no one else can judge for another. It is a selfish and horrible thing to do to the person who has been betrayed, to hear that from a stranger. It should come from the wandering spouse, if it's to come at all, and that is a decision to be made within the M, not from someone outside of it, no matter how "right" you may think it is. For all you know, depending on the dynamics of the M, you could be destroying it rather than "enlightening" the BS. Anyway, anothersad story, I am sorry for what you're going through. Believe me, I know exactly what you are saying. I know the pain. I know the obsessiveness and addiction that this is, and how it sucks up your life and your happiness. You didn't post to hear people tell you that you are a fool for falling for this man or that you made a mistake. You know that already. You also don't need to be told "move on and forget about him". I'm sure you would like nothing more than to do that! You are asking HOW to do that, and will the pain ever go away? The pain will go away. I too lost my marriage (actually it was long over before it was "over") and I am S too so I'm struggling with the same things you are now. It's very fresh and new for me too. But being here and reading others' stories gives me strength, even when I am miserable and hurting so much that I think I want to die. I believe the pain WILL go away. I think it is really important that you find a different job if at all possible, or at least try to find a way not to interact with him at work. Someone here said something that really resonated with me, and it's the way I am going to get through this: "The best revenge is to live your life well". I know it's not necessarily about 'revenge' for you, but I still think it's the recipe for moving on. Baby steps. First bold - are you crazy? The cheater should tell his/her spouse they are cheating? And how often, pray tell, does that actually happen? It is the right of ANYONE who knows of the cheating to tell. It is their absolute right because it is the RIGHT thing to do. I guess in your mind, the cheater should just continue on for years, without telling the spouse, exposing them to STD's and financial issues? Why do you think affairs work? Because they are done IN SECRET. The honorable thing for a cheater to do would be to NOT cheat or even better yet, talk with the spouse BEFORE cheating. But nope, they opt for the coward's way out -- which is to sneak around behind their spouse's back. I am just stunned you have this view - stunned. Second bold - she posted on an open forum about how after a year of being dumped she still can't move on. And people DID give her advice on this --- they told her to get counseling and to quit thinking he is this marvelous guy; because he isn't. Yet she keeps taking him back and won't let go of the fairytale she lived for 3 years; burning her marriage and her life will sneaking around with a liar and a cheat. She states she has been reading here for a long time -- so I guess many of us would guess she sees that it takes time, it takes OWNING what she did to the wife and her husband and it takes letting go and NOT looking back and wallowing in the 'pain'. I can't figure out for the life of me why she thinks of him every morning, dreams of him every night when he tossed her so crudely under the bus and dumped her so hurtfully. She needs counseling to figure out why she would continue to hang on to the fantasy of some guy who did this to her and why she continues to allow him to dominate every moment of her life and why she wants to continue to live in the misery she has been. If that means everyone is mean and harsh, so be it. But people took the time to respond to her and that should show her that people care and want her to get better. Sometimes, tough love is needed to snap people out of the wallowing and misery they are choosing to live with. I don't get why this woman has allowed this to continue for a year. Sitting and crying all the time isn't changing anything; all it is doing is continuing to allow her to barely exist. How is that a life? Hi. wow. i cannot believe i'm posting something on a forum. first time in my life although ive read the words on these boards for almost a year now. i am at a point where i dont know how to move on, am tired of the hurt and would like to see if anyone has some advice that might help. i was a MW in an affair with a MM for 3 years. it was typical. hes older, the most amazing man i had ever met, the connection, the physical attraction, all of it. during the course of the A my marriage fell apart and my husband left me. several months later he found proof of the affair, and then a few weeks later the A was revealed to MM's wife (im pretty sure my H was to blame for this.) i was thrown under the bus and hard. my world, my happiness, my everything came crashing down. i view him as this perfect entity that loved me from the depths of his soul. i was utterly shocked when he ditched me. refused to even speak to me. we work together so there is always contact. me falling apart when i see him, this strain between us, its very stressful. hes hot and cold. does the typical MM stuff reeling me back in when it suits him. this keeps me from moving on. several months ago he was kicked out. guess who he called? me. sucking me back in, right back at it, the world was wonderful again. Now hes moved back home and i'm left crying again. i know i need complete NC. i understand he will never be with me. i understand he isnt who i thought he was. my problem is that the tears wont stop. every day im sad. its been almost a year and i cant seem to move on. i feel like i'll never love again because i wont ever find "him."
awkward Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I'm sorry that you are hurting. I think the best thing you can do is to work really hard at moving on. The first thing would be to find a new job. Hindsight is 20/20 right but it won't do you any good to focus on what you would have done differently if you knew what kind of man he really was. You should focus on what you will do different in the future to be the woman you want to be.
pureinheart Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 I never disagreed that it is immoral to have an affair. I said that it's no one else's place to ASSUME whether the BS wants to know about it. This is just hurting the one person who has ALREADY been hurt the most, out of spite. You can't know another person's mind or the state of their marriage or whether or not they would just prefer to be kept in the dark. In my case, she found out (from him) and one of the first things she said was that she wished she never had found out. In any event, this is thread-jacking and this conversation is over. Your compassion concerning the OP is way cool, and I am so sorry of the pain you both went through...it is mostly the case that the M was over long ago, that is priddy much my stand and what I went through...there are some cases that the BS was caught way off guard, although I think that they know deep down, at least most do. As far as STD's go, I am of the opinion that if a person is sexually active with anyone, they should be checked once a year at least...I did even when M'ed, hey, it's just a good practice IMO...I mean people get bloodwork yearly, mamos (for women) yearly.... OP, I totally understand where you are at...the lost , alone feeling, insecure, undone, unsure of the future...in essense, you are feeling a great lose...pain has a short memory, at least that saying is true with most people and situations...hey, just keep posting and glad you found LS:)
Author anothersadstory Posted August 2, 2010 Author Posted August 2, 2010 well, my poor H isnt a poor H at all. i lived in a marriage for all of the reasons that are wrong. i was scared, afraid to leave, he had another life probably other women and our M was a mere living arrangement that worked for the 2 of us. there is not really the feelings of betrayal, as my affair was much much less of anything that he had ever done to me. our marriage was over and deteriorating before the A started. it may have sealed the deal and was a cowardly way of going about it. but i do credit my MM for giving me the strength to get out and for allowing me to see that the reasons i was staying married were not good ones. the job. i cannot change at the moment because my stbxh is unemployed (due to his issues that lead to our D) and i carry benefits needed for our children. in the next few weeks i will be taking a new position in the same company but will not be seeing mm as frequently. at the end of the year i will be taking a new job and will no longer be working there at all. because of the things i have lined up, it would be crazy of me leave before my new job is available in december. i just dont understand why i cant see him for what he is. my head understands it. but my heart still misses him. oh...and i dont have a problem with my H informing her at all....but he claims he didnt do it. and so we all have the question well if it wasnt him, then who knew, and knew with enough conviction that they would inform the spouses. if it was my H i would understand why he would do something like that, but since he says it wasnt him its a big question in my mind.
bestplayer Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 well, my poor H isnt a poor H at all. i lived in a marriage for all of the reasons that are wrong. i was scared, afraid to leave, he had another life probably other women and our M was a mere living arrangement that worked for the 2 of us. there is not really the feelings of betrayal, as my affair was much much less of anything that he had ever done to me. our marriage was over and deteriorating before the A started. it may have sealed the deal and was a cowardly way of going about it. but i do credit my MM for giving me the strength to get out and for allowing me to see that the reasons i was staying married were not good ones. the job. i cannot change at the moment because my stbxh is unemployed (due to his issues that lead to our D) and i carry benefits needed for our children. in the next few weeks i will be taking a new position in the same company but will not be seeing mm as frequently. at the end of the year i will be taking a new job and will no longer be working there at all. because of the things i have lined up, it would be crazy of me leave before my new job is available in december. i just dont understand why i cant see him for what he is. my head understands it. but my heart still misses him. oh...and i dont have a problem with my H informing her at all....but he claims he didnt do it. and so we all have the question well if it wasnt him, then who knew, and knew with enough conviction that they would inform the spouses. if it was my H i would understand why he would do something like that, but since he says it wasnt him its a big question in my mind. anothersadstory , sorry to know the bolded part . I hope you will be in a better place after all this . Best of luck
Dexter Morgan Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 well frankly speaking , what you did to your H is much worse than what your MM did to you . But it seems you are not bothered about that . very well said.....
Dexter Morgan Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 i was thrown under the bus and hard. only people thrown under the bus here is your husband and his wife.
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