mortensorchid Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 They are coming out of the woodwork against me online in recent weeks/months, I tell you! Let me explain ... A few weeks ago I met a man on Match. We exchanged emails, he seemed nice and chatty, and seemed to be right on. I kept it all light and airy, nothing too deep. He asked for my phone number and volunteered his. I took his number down and gave mine. Then I gave his profile another glance ... Although it's best to be cautious about sharing information with someone you just met (online or in real life), I did find it a little strange that he chose to share a certain fact about himself. He said he attempted to have a child years ago at a fertility clinic. I found that a little odd to share something like that with the world, whether it's true or not I have no idea. Then, I was not 100% sure if he at first listed his relationship status as "never married" or "divorced", as it seemed to have changed. Last week, he asked me via Match email if I wanted to get together that Sunday. I said thank you but I had plans that day (which was the truth). I also thought it was odd that he would ask me to do this before we even chatted on the phone once. And then, nothing. I notice now he has taken his picture down. People sure are strange ...
Pfiend101 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 telling you about the fertility thing was weird. I have asked girls out before on okcupid without talking oh the phone before. I don't think that's inappropriate. If I am interested in someone I'm not gonna email for 3 months before hand. If they aren't willing to meet up after a few email exchanges for coffee. I'm out.
skydiveaddict Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I find the whole on line dating thing way too much hassle. I prefer real one on one contact
Author mortensorchid Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Now that I think of it, his asking to meet via email rather than a phone conversation was not so outrageous or odd. But the information (which was on his profile about the fertility clinic) he shared with the world was. Probably best that things didn't come together whether or not we actually ever talked on the phone or not.
zengirl Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 telling you about the fertility thing was weird. I have asked girls out before on okcupid without talking oh the phone before. I don't think that's inappropriate. If I am interested in someone I'm not gonna email for 3 months before hand. If they aren't willing to meet up after a few email exchanges for coffee. I'm out. I usually like the guy to at least call me to set up the date, but generally, I'm with you. (I'd like to be able to recognize his voice and have his number, so it's easier to meet the fellow.) I don't want to talk on the phone or IM for ages on end. I've usually met fairly quickly. But the guy in the OP's situation strikes me as a bit off.
Pfiend101 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Absolutely a phone call isn't too much to ask. The guy also seems off just by what you've said I think its best to avoid him.
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