blizzard Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 My husband and I have two young children and have been technically seperated for over a year and a half but living under the same roof. We are doing this to not disrupt the lives of our little ones...and we are in a financial hole right now. I am out of a job but desperately seeking. And he refuses to pick up a side job. He takes one side of the house and I take the other. The longer we do this the more numb I feel. We don't talk about us. We only talk about our kids. Our oldest does ask why we don't share a bed or do lots of things together as a family. Or why is one bathroom called daddy's and the other yours... This is so confusing for them. But he would do this forever if it meant staying with the kids. This is such a pitiful situation to be in. I feel like I can't move on with building a new life... Anyone else going through something similiar?
Angel1111 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) What's the reason for the separation? Is it because you want it, or your husband does? I've been in a situation where I've stayed in the marriage until I could leave but we didn't sleep in separate bedrooms. Sometimes it's just not practical to leave until you get your finances worked out. I'll tell you though if I could've fixed my marriage, I would've stayed. It is a tough road to divorce, and even tougher with kids. Is your marriage really not fixable? Edited August 1, 2010 by Angel1111
cavedweller Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 blizzard, You both are bogged down and are making no progress with your failed marriage.. You need to move out and file for a divorce.. Get real: You can't live the rest of your life in limbo.
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