BobSacamento Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 A woman that is genuinely nice to and can have fun with kids. Link to post Share on other sites
alyssatranswarrior Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 - Someone who wants to treat the relationship equal, instead of feeding me feminist attitudes and needs she has, and trying to instruct me how I am to treat her..when I know it's entirely based on what she's been turned (through bad experiences) to believe by feminists who never actually date men anymore! (I.E useless opinions on hetero relationships) yikes. - Someone who is deep and meaningful inside, but pretty bubbly and unafraid to smile on the outer (so you can enjoy the external everyday, and explore the internal occasionally ) - Someone who doesn't HAVE pets, but thinks they are cute from a healthy distance, and likes animals/nature in general but doesn't have to be all about it or own a pet to be complete as a human! (like me, as I don't find pets to be tolerable in my day-to-day lifestyle) - Someone who isnt a "party" social type (is a big turn on for me because im really not party minded. Means they don't need a group of people to have fun, it can just be me and her a lot of the time) - Someone whose arrogance/confidence is a high-wire act of 1 part actual belief, 2 parts sarcasm. (meaning they think they are worthy and skilled but are never sure, hence they work hard and improve themselves in all areas all the time) Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I'm not a guy, but my boyfriend said he finds the fact that I know what I want and refuse to settle for less attitude attractive and that I'm funny and very open minded. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Women who are into equality relationship wise. Not always trying to tip the scale towards feminist attitudes, beliefs and assume the worst in men. Being warm, affectionate, communicative, fair, considerate and a well thought out deep thinker. Someone who has the capacity to love passionately. Discipline Someone who observes regularly rather than stick to historical events, rigid ideas etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate Posted August 1, 2010 Author Share Posted August 1, 2010 How is that a non-physical trait? Physical doesn't just mean visible. . . Yeah I was torn on that one but you could be right. We'll void that one then. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate Posted August 1, 2010 Author Share Posted August 1, 2010 Guess I have everything but the voice then, mine being deep(not manly deep, just deep) and smooth Oh please sassy, you're perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate Posted August 1, 2010 Author Share Posted August 1, 2010 A woman that is genuinely nice to and can have fun with kids. YES. I have a huge soft spot for kids ( though many people don't know it). When I see a woman perform greatly with kids, that really get me thinking about her in a pure romantic sense, envisioning her being an awesome mother and caregiver. One of my soft spots... Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyKitten Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Oh please sassy, you're perfect. I know I'm fabulous! Link to post Share on other sites
Shakz Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Well, obviously appearance is paramount, but as long as she can cook, keep the house clean, and doesn't speak until spoken to I SUPPOSE I can overlook certain physical shortcomings. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Interesting how few men listed intelligence. Doesn't speak well of the gender. Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Interesting how few men listed intelligence. Doesn't speak well of the gender. I think intelligence is overrated. In absence of the other qualities, it doesn't do much good beyond getting me wet in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) I think intelligence is overrated. In absence of the other qualities, it doesn't do much good beyond getting me wet in a relationship. I think it's huge. I get bored as hell talking for long periods to somebody who isn't bright. I can't imagine living for years with somebody who bored me. So many imp things are tied to intelligence. Even a good sense of humor is nearly impossible without being bright. Edited August 1, 2010 by shadowplay Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 when I hear other people say intelligence isn't important to them in a partner, it makes me realize how different their experience/idea of a relationship must be from mine. Like I can't imagine having a deep connection with somebody who was an airhead, even an emotional connection. Link to post Share on other sites
Sphere Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Even a good sense of humor is nearly impossible without being bright. I've got a great sense of humour and I am not academically bright. I was an average joe at school, always getting the minimum grades needed to progress further. So what intelligence do you speak of? Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I've got a great sense of humour and I am not academically bright. I was an average joe at school, always getting the minimum grades needed to progress further. So what intelligence do you speak of? Well if you actually have a great sense of humor (and just because you say you do doesn't make it so), then you're probably bright in a non-academic way. But when I think of all the people on LS who stand out for their humor (Johan/Hot Carl, Taramere, LucreziaBorga, The Collector), they're also among the very, very brightest. Same with good comedians. I can't think of one great comedian who isn't really smart. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I think wisdom is the word you're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I think wisdom is the word you're looking for. Nah, wisdom is about acquired knowledge and experience. I mean raw intelligence, quickness, cleverness. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Nah, wisdom is about acquired knowledge and experience. I mean raw intelligence, quickness, cleverness. Hmmm, so maybe wit. Yeah I would say that is a plus. Link to post Share on other sites
Sphere Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Nah, wisdom is about acquired knowledge and experience. I mean raw intelligence, quickness, cleverness. I'm as witty as Morrissey on a good day, or so I have been told and it's not me who says I'm funny, it is other people. I don't find myself particularly funny, a lot of people have said I should enter the realms of stand up comedy, but it just doesn't appeal to me. I tend to find humour in the most dire of circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I'm as witty as Morrissey on a good day, or so I have been told and it's not me who says I'm funny, it is other people. I don't find myself particularly funny, a lot of people have said I should enter the realms of stand up comedy, but it just doesn't appeal to me. I tend to find humour in the most dire of circumstances. Maybe you were a slacker in school. Link to post Share on other sites
Shakz Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I think it's huge. I get bored as hell talking for long periods to somebody who isn't bright. I can't imagine living for years with somebody who bored me. So many imp things are tied to intelligence. Even a good sense of humor is nearly impossible without being bright. I'm not sure I follow. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Nah, wisdom is about acquired knowledge and experience. I mean raw intelligence, quickness, cleverness. I think that is a women thing to say "intelligence" Really if I say I want a girl who has a good sense of humor, likes movies and art and fun who also has her life togather and is fun to be around... that sorta includes intelegence. I do find it anoying to be around some one who is retarded. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I think that is a women thing to say "intelligence" Really if I say I want a girl who has a good sense of humor, likes movies and art and fun who also has her life togather and is fun to be around... that sorta includes intelegence. I do find it anoying to be around some one who is retarded. That's what I'm saying. So many things are connected to intelligence that you're wiping out a lot of cool and fun personality traits without it. I could care less about whether a guy did well in school or has a PhD. I just want somebody who doesn't bore me. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyKitten Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I'm kind of surprised too that more men haven't mentioned intelligence. A man with my sense of humor can't have it without being intelligent! Though I have heard men say things such as clever, witty, etc. At the same time though, as critical as intelligence is for me when I'm attracted to someone, it's not enough. He also has to be well-rounded, active, and empathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 (edited) I'm kind of surprised too that more men haven't mentioned intelligence. A man with my sense of humor can't have it without being intelligent! Though I have heard men say things such as clever, witty, etc. At the same time though, as critical as intelligence is for me when I'm attracted to someone, it's not enough. He also has to be well-rounded, active, and empathetic. I wonder if this has something to do with the male tendency to compartmentalize. Some (not all guys) will place a girlfriend in a small box in terms of needs she meets. She provides sex, nurturing, validation, something nice to look at and pleasant company, but that's it. Intellectual connection, good conversation and shared sense of humor belong in a separate box. On the other hand most women want a total connection with a partner that isn't limited to a few needs. That's why they're less willing to compromise on intelligence. Edited August 1, 2010 by shadowplay Link to post Share on other sites
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