love_takes_courage Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I had to find out behind his back from a close friend of his. Now he wants to talk because he wants to tell me himself... i don't what to say to him or if i should even give him my time to explain himself.... help? thank you
2sunny Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I had to find out behind his back from a close friend of his. Now he wants to talk because he wants to tell me himself... i don't what to say to him or if i should even give him my time to explain himself.... help? thank you IF you have plenty of evidence that he wasn't faithful - then why bother? IF he has lied - then you can only expect that he will no doubt try to spoon feed you many more lies too... lies he expects you to believe so you will continue seeing him. is that what you want? why not just be honest with him? you could say... "i'm not willing to waste my time and/or energy on a man i can't trust." "there is no need for any conversation."
spriggig Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I had to find out behind his back from a close friend of his. Now he wants to talk because he wants to tell me himself... i don't what to say to him or if i should even give him my time to explain himself.... help? thank you Hold on here, this is your first post. How does an "ex" cheat, exactly?
Maggotface Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Don't give him any of your time unless it means something to you to hear it come out of his mouth what he did. It was in the past, he is an ex now, what he did while you were together doesnt really matter now it wont change anything.
GordonDarkfoot Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 If you have absolutely nothing more productive to do with your valuable time, then why not meet up with him and let him talk talk talk, not that it will make a bit of difference. But, if you do this, make him buy you a nice dinner so at least the evening won't be a total waste of your time.
lovebugguy Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 It's definitely up to you. If you're really hurt and angry that you can't stand to see him, then don't. Now whether you have proof or not, it would be better if you talk to him. At least he has the decency to tell you about his mistake, and probably ask forgiveness. Now whether you believe his explanation or not, at least he can't fault you for not giving him the chance to explain himself.
cookie2 Posted August 3, 2010 Posted August 3, 2010 How does an "ex" cheat, exactly? Er - my ex cheated on me, too. That's how she became an ex
lovebugguy Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Er - my ex cheated on me, too. That's how she became an ex Yeah. An ex definitely can't cheat on you since they're your 'ex' already
spriggig Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 (edited) Yeah. An ex definitely can't cheat on you since they're your 'ex' already Exactly, and since it's her first and only post with no details, for instance does she want him back, were they married, are there any kids, etc. Kinda hard to give meaningful advice. But, she probably didn't really want any advice anyway. Edited August 5, 2010 by spriggig
cookie2 Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Yeah. An ex definitely can't cheat on you since they're your 'ex' already She wasn't my ex at the time she cheated on me, she was my wife. Now she is my ex. So my ex did cheat on me... "my ex cheated on me" is a valid thing for me to say.
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