Author YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Done my friend... And I had a couple valium to go with that beer. Never tried valium. Does it go well with Tequila shots? Wtf is with these people??? I'm so disapointed in humanity.. I am not disappointed with humanity, but I am really disappointed with those two people. Some people have serious issues and baggage, just read the OM/OW threads here. The moral bankruptcy displayed in many of those threads simply takes my breath away.
smk Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Never tried valium. Does it go well with Tequila shots? I am not disappointed with humanity, but I am really disappointed with those two people. Some people have serious issues and baggage, just read the OM/OW threads here. The moral bankruptcy displayed in many of those threads simply takes my breath away. I personally prefer a nice whiskey with a couple of diazepams and a nice cigar... Shark - that must have been a nightmare to deal with, but look on the bright side she is out of your life and for the better...
bonpaw2008 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 ...and let's toast a big pint of beer to that! We will survive, we are not anyone's bitch.. and they can go to hell. Holding up my tea to that! They can all just go to hell ....
TuesGirl Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 YellowShark, Ouch! So I have been following this thread for a little while, but didn't know the whole extent of your situation. Two ex's ago, I also went through a very yucky situation when my then fiance cheated on me, with a girl that knew about us. Anyways, very long story short, over the past 5 years I've come to realize that 'cheating' is a mental disease. It's not much different than say, anorexia, in the sense that people cannot help it if they have the disease UNLESS they choose to get help. And they will always struggle with the disease unless they stay on top of it with therapy, support, willpower, etc. Looking at it from this point of view really helped me to not take it so personally, and actually just feel pity for him (I'm sure you aren't there yet after two months, but hopefully you can shift the way you view her actions so you realize it had nothing to do with you as a person). She's the one that is 'sick' and only she can get the help she needs if she wants it. That being said, the 'lamp' thing is funny! Seriously, a freaking lamp? 6 months after I ended my most recent relationship I got a message about my (old) futon that I had let my ex have for his spare bedroom. Really? I just said to donate it to some college kid. Like I was about to go to his house, dismantle the thing, find someone with a truck to help me move it, etc...haha hang in there. Whiskey helps
Author YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Anyways, very long story short, over the past 5 years I've come to realize that 'cheating' is a mental disease. It's not much different than say, anorexia, in the sense that people cannot help it if they have the disease UNLESS they choose to get help. I am realizing this only now. There is something in her past that makes her think cheating is ok. What that is only she can find through therapy. I'm sure you aren't there yet after two months, but hopefully you can shift the way you view her actions so you realize it had nothing to do with you as a person. She's the one that is 'sick' and only she can get the help she needs if she wants it. I agree. I did some introspection and realized that I didn't do anything to make her cheat, she just feels she's entitled to do it. Maybe one day she will seek out why through therapy and finally have a healthy, trusting relationship. I am sad it won't be with me, but such is life. That being said, the 'lamp' thing is funny! Seriously, a freaking lamp? Well it was a lamp from Morocco that I brought into the relationship. HA! ...6 months after I ended my most recent relationship I got a message about my (old) futon that I had let my ex have for his spare bedroom. Really? I just said to donate it to some college kid. Like I was about to go to his house, dismantle the thing, find someone with a truck to help me move it, etc...haha They still make futons? hang in there. Whiskey helps
HighPlainsDrifter Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Never tried valium. Does it go well with Tequila shots? I am not disappointed with humanity, but I am really disappointed with those two people. Some people have serious issues and baggage, just read the OM/OW threads here. The moral bankruptcy displayed in many of those threads simply takes my breath away. I guess Valium goes pretty well with a beer or two. I've never been big on the meds, but at least I can get a little sleep now. It does slow down the anxiety. That and Kolonopin, or however it's spelled. I understand you being dissapointed with those two. It's good you still have your faith in humanity. I'm disappointed in my ex. I can't believe how things have played out the way they have, and she is a complete mess. I got sucked in by a pretty face. I guess though in a way, I was an affair to her husband, and I would never have imagined myself being that. Life can be hell sometimes.
HighPlainsDrifter Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I personally prefer a nice whiskey with a couple of diazepams and a nice cigar... Shark - that must have been a nightmare to deal with, but look on the bright side she is out of your life and for the better... I think diazepams and valium are pretty similar SMK. The only problem is, I quite smoking back in December, so no cigars for me any more. Oh man though, you can't imagine how close I've been to starting back up smoking these past couple weeks...
TuesGirl Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Ahhh, welllll, lamp from Morocco might be worth it I have no idea if they still make futons...mine was already 10+ years old, which made it even funnier that he'd think it was that important to me to want back. I just sat at my computer and started shaking my head at that email.
Author YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Ahhh, welllll, lamp from Morocco might be worth it It's been sitting where it is since I left. In fact it has been sitting where it is for years! Funny but she didn't ask if I wanted it until two days after she saw me parking near her office. Not in the 2 months of NC. I think she's fishing and I didn't take the bait. It is pretty cool though. I wont miss it. I have no idea if they still make futons...mine was already 10+ years old... Ewwwww.. gross!
Author YellowShark Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 I think diazepams and valium are pretty similar SMK. Gosh. I haven't taken any of these drugs. Not before or since my breakup. Maybe that's why the first and second months of NC were a living hell.
HighPlainsDrifter Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Gosh. I haven't taken any of these drugs. Not before or since my breakup. Maybe that's why the first and second months of NC were a living hell. Well shark, they aren't a cure all, but they can help you sleep sometimes. The nc stuff is still hell. All this stuff is still hell. Its just a little better if you can throw a couple hours of sleep into the mix every once in a while...
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