jessyboo Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Well, I met my bf online two years ago when we were both 16 on a public forum. We had a lot in common and we always talked to each other, every day to the least. We started our "official" dating in March of this year, because he said he really loved me and I really love him. I have his Facebook, seen pictures of him and everything, we usually have Skype calls and webcam calls a lot and he plans to make his first visit this Christmas. My problem is, I don't think my family will be too thrilled that I met my first serious boyfriend online, especially my grandmother. My father already says I spend too much time on the computer... but that's because I talk to my bf every day. And since my parents are old-fashioned Italians; an Italian girl must marry an Italian boy who makes a lot of money. My boyfriend is complete opposite of that. Should I lie to them and say I met him somewhere else and we really just got close from there?
Art_Critic Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 You should tell them... They seem a little disconnected if you have been in each others lives for 2 years and they don't know anything about him. As long as you BF is a normal guy they shouldn't have any problems once they meet him. Why haven't you told them already ? Being excited over a new BF is something you should share... If by chance they don't embrace him then don't think it would have changed if you had lied, they most likely would feel the same way no matter what..
aerogurl87 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 I understand what position your in jessyboo. My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months, but both sets of our parents still don't know we're "dating" well at least we haven't told them although I'm sure they've put everything together to figure it out, lol. All our friends and extended family already know we're dating, but our parents are still in the dark. But yeah, my advice is to sit them down and tell them calmly that you met this really nice guy and you want to introduce them to one another or just tell them all about him. Until they meet him, don't mention how you met (as sometimes parents like to use that to cloud their judgement on how good he is for you) but let them just feel him out. Then if they like him, tell them you met on the net. That's what I plan to do with my parents.
soultosqueeze Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 OMG my mother's italian, and she wants me to date an italian boy too. lol my boyfriend is greek and russian. and we're in a LDR. anyways, i would just tell them. when i was 15, i was dating this guy who lived a couple hours away, and i lied about the whole thing. i lied to everyone and said i was staying with my friend bree for a week, and when they found out i wasnt there sh*t hit the fan. and then my dad said "if you would have just told me about him, i would have driven you up there myself." i don't know how your father is, but yeah. but, YOU decide who you're going to be with. not your parents. just tell them. maybe they'll be happy
Shakz Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Well, I met my bf online two years ago when we were both 16 on a public forum. We had a lot in common and we always talked to each other, every day to the least. We started our "official" dating in March of this year, because he said he really loved me and I really love him. I have his Facebook, seen pictures of him and everything, we usually have Skype calls and webcam calls a lot and he plans to make his first visit this Christmas. My problem is, I don't think my family will be too thrilled that I met my first serious boyfriend online, especially my grandmother. My father already says I spend too much time on the computer... but that's because I talk to my bf every day. And since my parents are old-fashioned Italians; an Italian girl must marry an Italian boy who makes a lot of money. My boyfriend is complete opposite of that. Should I lie to them and say I met him somewhere else and we really just got close from there? I think you should talk to your grandmother first. I would ask her how she met your grandfather and what her feelings were about him when they first met. I would ask her everything I could think of about her hopes, dreams, and disappointments at that time in her life. Then I would relate my own feelings and show how similiar they are to hers when she was your age. I will bet she will remember what it was like to be a young girl in love, and will give her blessing. After all, she's Italian!
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