Author lullaby Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Lullaby, I am so sorry to hear that. I hope he gets better. We are all here for you. Thinking about you and your family, so sorry for what is going on. Hopefully there are a lot more people around you to support you so you don't have to call the ex. Thanks guys. It's what life has, right? people get old and have complications. I do hope he gets better, at least for a while. I do have more people to support, but it's always that person you need you know? specially because of the good relationship we've been having but I'm trying to study and focus on that and I'll try to avoid contacting him. How are you doing today?
bonpaw2008 Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 but it's always that person you need you know? specially because of the good relationship we've been having but I'm trying to study and focus on that and I'll try to avoid contacting him. How are you doing today? I know he is the person that you want to help you, and I am glad you guys have a good relationship. Just be careful, don't make him your "go-to" person again, mostly because he doesn't deserve it. He doesn't get the best of you if he doesn't want the rest of you... I am ok today, lots of good feedback from you guys today have me back on track. I can feel myself coming back, NC rocks
Author lullaby Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 I know he is the person that you want to help you, and I am glad you guys have a good relationship. Just be careful, don't make him your "go-to" person again, mostly because he doesn't deserve it. He doesn't get the best of you if he doesn't want the rest of you... I am ok today, lots of good feedback from you guys today have me back on track. I can feel myself coming back, NC rocks Well, I'm sorry to inform my grandpa has just passed away. It was a matter of time but it always shocks, right? I will contact him. I know he can't be my go-to person but he has been following my grandpa's illness and I don't it's right to avoid informing him. Either way, I have a more important task at hand right now which is to be with my family, be there for my mum and go through this process. Thanks bon! I'm glad you're doing good today! you deserve it!
smk Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Well, I'm sorry to inform my grandpa has just passed away. It was a matter of time but it always shocks, right? I will contact him. I know he can't be my go-to person but he has been following my grandpa's illness and I don't it's right to avoid informing him. Either way, I have a more important task at hand right now which is to be with my family, be there for my mum and go through this process. Thanks bon! I'm glad you're doing good today! you deserve it! Lullaby - I am sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family. X
skydiveaddict Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Lullaby - I am sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family. X Same here Lullaby for coping I work out and skydive
HighPlainsDrifter Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Ok guys. Today is gonna be hard. I've just been informed that my grandpa is at the hospital. He's been having tough times, he's almost 90 and not doing well at all. He's down with pneumonia now and well... there is no much hope left for him. I was doing so well yesterday, watched Shutter Island, had a blast at work and now it all crumbles because I'm alone coping with this. I know I can pick up the phone and call my ex because we've been having LC and we've always been there for each other during tough times after the break up and I don't want to add more pain to me thinking that he's not here with me. I'll try to focus on studying today and let's see how it goes. Lullaby, So sorry for your situation with your grandfather. That sounds terrible. I wish you the best on this. I don't know if calling your ex helps or not, but I guess each case is different. Also wanted to thank you for your email earlier this week. That meant alot. Thank you much, HPD
Author lullaby Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Lullaby - I am sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family. X Thanks Smk. I really appreciate it. Same here Lullaby for coping I work out and skydive Thanks to you too. Skydive! WOW! I'd love to do that someday. Lullaby, So sorry for your situation with your grandfather. That sounds terrible. I wish you the best on this. I don't know if calling your ex helps or not, but I guess each case is different. Also wanted to thank you for your email earlier this week. That meant alot. Thank you much, HPD Thanks HPD. You're welcome for the email. We're here to help each other, right? My ex has just called me and he's coming to see me. He knew my grandpa and was always asking about his health. Honestly, I have no strength to think whether it's right or wrong, he was and still is someone really important for me, there are no hard feelings and I know he'll make me feel better. I know many won't like me seeing my ex and will think it's not the right thing to do but I can separate things, it's been a while since we broke up and I don't want to be a hypocrite and let him out of this, after all he is someone who still cares about me beyond what can happen with our relationship in the future. Thanks again to all.
smk Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Thanks Smk. I really appreciate it. Thanks to you too. Skydive! WOW! I'd love to do that someday. Thanks HPD. You're welcome for the email. We're here to help each other, right? My ex has just called me and he's coming to see me. He knew my grandpa and was always asking about his health. Honestly, I have no strength to think whether it's right or wrong, he was and still is someone really important for me, there are no hard feelings and I know he'll make me feel better. I know many won't like me seeing my ex and will think it's not the right thing to do but I can separate things, it's been a while since we broke up and I don't want to be a hypocrite and let him out of this, after all he is someone who still cares about me beyond what can happen with our relationship in the future. Thanks again to all. Lullaby - you do whatever it takes to heal - and him being someone who has been there and plays an active role then hey.... the most important thing here is that you get through this and if he plays a role in it then there is nothing wrong. Again I and on behalf of everyone here on LS sorry for your loss....
bonpaw2008 Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Well, I'm sorry to inform my grandpa has just passed away. It was a matter of time but it always shocks, right? I will contact him. I know he can't be my go-to person but he has been following my grandpa's illness and I don't it's right to avoid informing him. Either way, I have a more important task at hand right now which is to be with my family, be there for my mum and go through this process. Thanks bon! I'm glad you're doing good today! you deserve it! Aw sweetie so sorry! 90 is awesome though, I bet he had a wonderful, fun-filled life
HighPlainsDrifter Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 Thanks Smk. I really appreciate it. Thanks to you too. Skydive! WOW! I'd love to do that someday. Thanks HPD. You're welcome for the email. We're here to help each other, right? My ex has just called me and he's coming to see me. He knew my grandpa and was always asking about his health. Honestly, I have no strength to think whether it's right or wrong, he was and still is someone really important for me, there are no hard feelings and I know he'll make me feel better. I know many won't like me seeing my ex and will think it's not the right thing to do but I can separate things, it's been a while since we broke up and I don't want to be a hypocrite and let him out of this, after all he is someone who still cares about me beyond what can happen with our relationship in the future. Thanks again to all. We are all here to help each other out Lull. Thanks again for your compassion. You are a great lady! 90 years is a nothing to scoff at either! Still doesn't make it any easier though. My prayers go out to you during this very difficult time...
Author lullaby Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Thanks again to all of you. It's not always about break up and ex, right? I'm doing fine. It's a tough process and I'll be better with time. And I bet he had a lovely life, he did all he wanted, loved, laughed, everything. He had a wonderful life and my granny must be waiting for him up there On another note, and I don't want to mix things but I need to tell you this too. My ex just left. I thought he was going to stay over but I guess it wasn't in his plans. He constantly asked 'do you need anything? want me to do something?' but I was mute, coping with my loss so maybe he was hoping I ask him to stay. He was really caring and made me laugh a couple of times and supported me. Do you see it wrong that he didn't stay? I don't know how to take it. I'm not worried though and I'm ok with my decision of calling him, it made me feel good, but I was curious at what you thought of it. Either way, my family is more important right now but I just wanted to tell you what happened.
bonpaw2008 Posted August 1, 2010 Posted August 1, 2010 Do you see it wrong that he didn't stay? I don't know how to take it. I'm not worried though and I'm ok with my decision of calling him, it made me feel good, but I was curious at what you thought of it. Either way, my family is more important right now but I just wanted to tell you what happened. Lull - is he your friend or is he your bf? You need to stay strong through all of this. You have enough to deal with, put that stuff on hold for a little bit. I am glad that he was there when you needed him, but you need to concentrate on you and your family, not his intentions. And if you have to ask, you already know. If he didn't spell out to you what he wanted, what he was looking for, then that is on him. [[[[[ big hug ]]]]]
Author lullaby Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Lull - is he your friend or is he your bf? You need to stay strong through all of this. You have enough to deal with, put that stuff on hold for a little bit. I am glad that he was there when you needed him, but you need to concentrate on you and your family, not his intentions. And if you have to ask, you already know. If he didn't spell out to you what he wanted, what he was looking for, then that is on him. [[[[[ big hug ]]]]] Bon. Thanks for your reply. You're right, I don't even know what we are. He already spelled out what he wants at the moment= he doesn't want to lose me, but wants to take it slow so we can heal from everything that happened between us. In fact, he was the one who always initiated contact. I bought that at the beginning, I don't anymore. I'm moving on, if by the time he decides to work on us I'm still up for it, good, if not, it's a pity, but I won't wait for him. It just feels good to have LC with him, I was hurting more with NC and already went through NC hell at the beginning, worked on me, change jobs Anyway... sorry for the rant! I'm meeting my parents for lunch right now and that's the important thing. To be with them and then study Thanks again!
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