meribel Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 I'll try and get most of the facts as straight as i can.... I've been with my BF for 2 years now, almost to the day. Previously he was in a relationship with a married woman who he met on the internet. When we got together, he stopped talknig to her on IM, so he said. We fell out a few times, but nothing serious over the last couple of years, but every time it was in relation to his contact with her. For example, I was away for 2 weeks and he resumed contact with her then, and added her to facebook. After I freaked about it, he deleted her and told me he had ceased contact. I suspected they were still talking - he spends a LOT of time on the internet IM, facebook, texting etc, so I was suspicious. A couple of weeks ago, I broke up with him, and he went crazy at me....shouting in my face, yelling, calling me names. I know I upset him, but the relationship wasn't right for either of us anyway. We're not compatible... I'm a sociable person with lots of friends, kids and an interesting job. He has no friends or social life, and spends a lot of time online...maybe it's an addiction? I still love him a lot, but the differences between us were massive. I left him alone after he freaked out to hopefully calm down, apologise to me and maybe end things properly. However, I saw that he added his ex (?) to facebook again, and yesterday I deleted him from mine and said goodbye in an email. I felt much better once I'd done it, but today I feel awful for just cutting him off like that. Was it mean? I just can't stand the thought of him and his ex discussing me & my life anymore than they have already. Does anyone think that I was wrong to try and get him to cease contact with her? He acted like I was being completely unreasonable. I'm in bits today knowing I'll never see him or speak to him again after it ended like that, but it feels like he chose her over me without telling me. Should I try again to speak to him and tell him how I feel ? I didn't mention the ex when I ended the relationship but maybe I should have spelled it out.
EmptyPromises Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 nope you did the right thing. one of my ex's used to talk to his ex and it made me paranoid that he was discussing our relationship, ,me and our problems with her. it took a major toll on our relationship and made me not trust him. and thats why we are no longer together. he should be respecting you if he cares about you
spellcatcher Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Had the same issue with an ex... we broke up several times over it but got back together because he apologized... but he couldn't help it and eventually cheated on me with her. What I've learned, if anything, is that if there's another girl, it's his choice and there's nothing you can do =\ Don't stoop as low as to compete with her for him. You deserve better, whoever you are.
Author meribel Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Thanks for that guys...I know i did the right thing ending it, just from his anger towards me every time I mentioned her. I just feel terrible for cutting him off, and so empty..it's horrible
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