EmptyPromises Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 i dated my ex for 2 and a half years. we were both in college & i just graduated. We broke up in may just because our relationship was getting to the point that we were fighting all the time and couldnt trust eachother. He cheated on me back in april and i had forgiven him for it but couldnt forget it and i think that was the spark to most of our arguments. we went pretty much no contact for 2 months besides one time where he got really angry that i wasnt answering his texts and he told me he had had a girl on the side the entire time we dated. i was pretty upset over this, he later told me that never happened it was just a way for him to get me to talk to him which completely backfired. anway, in the last month ive met this guy. weve been hanging out and hook up when we are drunk.hes very nice, rich, could possibly treat me like gold. hes 25 and has a job. however, hes been seeming very clingy lately and he scares me because im starting to think he wants to get married asap. i hooked up with him the other night sober and it was a little awkward and all i could think about was my ex. i woke up the next morning next to this guy and just wanted to cry. i wanted my ex to be beside me. i still love my ex. in the last week my ex has been calling and texting me nonstop. he wants to get back together and says he can treat me right. he says he will never hurt me ever again and can show me that. i have a hard time believing him because ive given him a ton of chances to show that to me in the past. and i feel like2 months of no contact isnt enough to make him want to change. another thing is hes still has one more year away at college and im going to be home. i told him no we cant get back together and its killing me. ive cried the past 2 days and have been extremely anxious. all i think about is him. the 2 things that are stopping me from seeing him are the school thing and the new guy(whom i really dont think im that attracted to). im miserablee i have no idea what to do and just wish someone could pick for me. opinions?
selena_cat Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 i'd say run the other way and fast from you ex. He cheated and has shown how unreliable and dishonesty runs in his veins, now that your not available he can't stop texting you? Once you get back with him he'll be back to his ole ways. Don't say i didnt warn thee
Author EmptyPromises Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 you were completely right. i told the new guy i just wanted to be friends and the ex went right back to his old ways..not picking up his phone, not answering texts, hanging out with ex girlfriends...ugh
Don Ho Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 "A Leopard never changes his spots" and likely your Ex will never stop being a cheater. Best for you to have learned that early and move on. I have a friend that cheated on his first wife when he was in his twenties. Now he's remarried and in his forties. Guess what he's doing? Cheating on his wife. And for no reason other than he can and has a young little mistress. Good for you if you told the second guy you just wanted to be friends. Finally! A woman that shows some integrity. I was going to say you should be upfront about it with him until I read that you already did. Good. Well? Be done with the Ex for good and go have some fun. The right guy will come along!
Author EmptyPromises Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 thank you i feel like my ex was just annoyed that i was happy and that i was interested in someone else who was interested in me. and once he saw he could have me again he just treated me the same old way. i cut out the ex...do you think i should give the other guy a chance? or just continue a friendly relationship unless bigger feelings develop? or just continue being single ?
Author EmptyPromises Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 i liked him when i wasnt talking to my ex. hes a really good guy...but when im ex found out about him he clouded my mind and started to charm me away. and then i thought i didnt like the new guy because i still love my ex. i feel used, i feel hurt. and now im back to square one. i gotta start the moving on process all over again.
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