LizS Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 In short, its been about 7 weeks since he broke up with me. After the breakup he acted conflicted and confused and either treated me basically as his girlfriend and wanted alot of physical affection or he was unusually cold and acted like he didnt know me. He stressed that he wanted to be friends and keep me around, although he couldnt tell me why when I asked. He's been dating another girl for almost 3 weeks. The last time I had contact with him was July 7th on gmail chat. I told him I would be out for a few months. The last thing he sent was "good luck sorting me out." He stayed signed off chat for a couple weeks. When he signed back on, I knew it was only to talk to me or for me to see that he was online. He doesnt talk to anyone else on chat, it was always our way of talking during the day. I know he isnt talking to anyone else because he is idle almost all the time. The last time I physically saw him, but did not speak to him was July 12th, at a social event. This past Tuesday, he sent me "hey, good luck at your show tomorrow night." I was expecting him to reach out soon, but I was a little surprised that he knew when my show was. I deleted him from my facebook, so he must have found out from a mutual friend or someone elses facebook. Five hours later I sent him a simple "thanks." He immediately responded with "no problem, so are you really eating meat?" For the past 10 years Ive been a strict vegetarian, and within the past two weeks, Ive been eating meat again, Im trying to gain weight and muscle, as I am auditioning for some dance companies in January. Again, he must have found out from a friends facebook or a mutual friend. I didnt respond to him, and he signed off 10 minutes later. He has signed back on chat since then, but hasnt tried to talk to me again. Do I keep no contact? It hasnt been very long at all. Or since he has a girlfriend is it more beneficial to do low contact? I dont want to come across as bitter and petty by totally ignoring him. I will absolutely not be his friend, though. I still want him back, and am scared he'll get attached to this other girl and it will be too late for me to make a move after a few months of no contact. But I also feel like after a few months, he'll have seen her flaws and Ill have had more of a chance to work on myself. Its a predicament for me. I dont know whether to go for him now or wait. I know he'll reach out to me again, Im just not sure what to do when he does.
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