boosh Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 I tried this tonight as a method to cope with the sadness. Not a letter to be sent, but for myself, my eyes only. I decided I needed to sit back and just write down what came into my mind when I thought about my ex, our relationship, how I feel now, etc. You get the picture. The final result is nothing short of amazing. It was extremely theraputic, albeit a bit weird at first. But seeing those waves of emotions written down for you like that, is something that I think really has the potential to help me cope with this. I suggest trying it if possible.
jsa100100 Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Amen. I haven't done it, but I imagine it being very therapeutic. Good for you.
DenverBachelor Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 I tried this tonight as a method to cope with the sadness. Not a letter to be sent, but for myself, my eyes only. I decided I needed to sit back and just write down what came into my mind when I thought about my ex, our relationship, how I feel now, etc. You get the picture. The final result is nothing short of amazing. It was extremely theraputic, albeit a bit weird at first. But seeing those waves of emotions written down for you like that, is something that I think really has the potential to help me cope with this. I suggest trying it if possible. Just don't send it to her. No matter how good you think it is or how much you think she will appreciate it, nothing good will come of it. In fact, for the first 3 months after a breakup, follow the OPPOSITE principle. Simply put, the OPPOSITE principle means to do exactly the opposite of what you want to do. If you do that, you'll be fine.
Author boosh Posted July 30, 2010 Author Posted July 30, 2010 Just don't send it to her. No matter how good you think it is or how much you think she will appreciate it, nothing good will come of it. In fact, for the first 3 months after a breakup, follow the OPPOSITE principle. Simply put, the OPPOSITE principle means to do exactly the opposite of what you want to do. If you do that, you'll be fine. Oh I had no plans to. I probably should have been more clear, that I meant writing it all down, like journal style. Personal, private, old school journal style. I just needed a way to get the multitude of thoughts swirling in ym head out in the open, and figured doing this would be the best way.
bonpaw2008 Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Yes I keep a journal as well, that is how I started noticing a pattern that we went through this melt-down once a month, always around the same time. (male time of the month perhaps?? he actually admitted to it, how gay is that? ) But after a year and a half of seeing the same thing happen every month it finally ended. I am still mad at myself for not being stronger sooner. But I am trying to move past the mistakes. This is a great thread if you ever want to write something you really want to send to your ex, write it to us instead http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t117844/
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