Sonolumino Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Recently I attended a party where my ex attended. I acted fine, and I was beginning to be the life of the party towards the end of it, and then I left abruptly. A few hours later, my ex texts me, and this is how it went. Mind you, she broke up with me. It's been 8 days. Her: Hey I just wanted to tell you it was nice seeing you even if we didn't really speak Me: Thanks, it was nice seeing you too Her: I just really want you to know that I do love you and always will and I also care about you more than anyone. And that I'm sorry Her: Sorry I just needed to tell you that Me: I appreciate it, and you mean a lot to me too Her: I just wanted to tell you that because I don't want you to hate me ever. You always will have my heart. Me: I wish you understood me as well as I understand you Her: What do you mean? Me: I really can't talk about this now. It was nice seeing you, but I think you've hurt me enough Her: Thanks and I'm not the only one who did the hurting. I'm sorry again Me: What is it that you want from me? Think about it. Her: I want you to understand how I am feeling. Me: I don't. I don't understand how I can love someone so much, change myself for that person, and find out it wasn't worth it for them. Her: I love you so much. I didn't think it could ever be possible to love someone like this. It's just hard to explain everything that is going through my mind At this point I wasn't going to indulge her pathetic attempt for absolution from me, so I stopped texting back. The question is now, what do I do from here? I would like to remain on good terms, but I will not act like everything is ok. I want to tell her "Who the hell do you think you are trying to tell me how I should feel about this? Haven't you put me through enough heartache? Don't you think this situation is going to continue to cause me heartache? Can I not have a bit of peace please?" Any suggestions are welcome.
cookie2 Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 pathetic attempt for absolution Yep, sounds pretty accurate. I would like to remain on good terms, but I will not act like everything is ok. Those two are kind of contradictory. You obviously want more than friendship, and she is not prepared to give that to you. You can't be friends with her. You need to stop talking to her completely to get over her. After that, maybe you can be friends. I want to tell her "Who the hell do you think you are trying to tell me how I should feel about this? Haven't you put me through enough heartache? Don't you think this situation is going to continue to cause me heartache? Can I not have a bit of peace please?" Any suggestions are welcome. There's a thread for that in the "Coping" forum... "post here instead of telling your ex". It's quite therapeutic, I recommend it
Author Sonolumino Posted July 30, 2010 Author Posted July 30, 2010 Thank you. I will take your advice. At this point though, I really don't want anything more than just the cordial nod for each other. I should've been more clear by what I meant by "good terms". I would like us not to hate each other, and I would like to get to a place where we COULD be friends. She really, really, screwed me up emotionally, and I don't want to be with someone who acts like that toward me. Perhaps I'm just reaffirming myself here, but in any case, it's still true.
boosh Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Thank you. I will take your advice. At this point though, I really don't want anything more than just the cordial nod for each other. I should've been more clear by what I meant by "good terms". I would like us not to hate each other, and I would like to get to a place where we COULD be friends. She really, really, screwed me up emotionally, and I don't want to be with someone who acts like that toward me. Perhaps I'm just reaffirming myself here, but in any case, it's still true. If that's what you're working towards as a possibility in the long run, then by all means do so. But don;t forget to take care OF YOURSELF FIRST, especially right now. Indulging her will only make it hurt for you more than it already does.
Ilovecake Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 you did the right thing by keeping the conversation short and to the point, now let silence speak for you.
jsa100100 Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 you did the right thing by keeping the conversation short and to the point, now let silence speak for you. Such good advice. Silence will speak louder than anything you can say. It increases the chances of you guys getting back together (albeit very small), but more importantly, it allows both of you to heal and move on. (one way or the other)
Author Sonolumino Posted August 1, 2010 Author Posted August 1, 2010 Thanks. But do you all think I was too mean in the texts? I still obviously have very strong feelings for this girl. Should I contact her in a few weeks and try to remain on good terms?
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