Mrs Nobody Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 (edited) Well, it's kind of awkward for me to say on here, but since it's an anonymous thing I guess I can rely on it. The thing is - gasp, shock horror! - I now have my first proper crush. And it's crushing me. It started a little while ago, when he and I were in the school play together. It was a production of Les Miserables, with him as Thernardier and myself as Madame Thernardier. I was an understudy until a couple of months before the performance so he had to help me quite a bit with lines and we had a few one-on-one practicing sessions in the drama studios together, which I guess is how this crush developed in the first place. After a while of having conversations about music, acting and philosophies, I found myself infatuated Things were going well with him and, although I wasn't certain that he knew/felt the same way I felt that if all else failed we could at least be friends. But, me being me, I screwed up rather royally. You see, on the night of the fourth show (the production ran all week) some girls surrounded me and asked me awkward questions about my friendship with him. They asked me if I fancied him, and so of course I panicked and, perhaps a bit louder than I should have, said "No way, he's (physical flaw) and (physical flaw)!" forgetting that he was, oh, a few yards away from me and could hear me very clearly. Facepalm! Ahaahaaaa I'm socially terrible. Well, of course, things were a little bit awkward with him after that, and even the fact that some different girls afterwards said that he and I would make a good couple didn't pull me out of my lousy mood. At the afterparty he got completely wasted and I couldn't talk to him seriously and, since he was in the year above me and has now left the school for college, the only method of communication between he and I is through Facebook, where he is rarely ever online. Oh, Yes, I almost forgot that the morning after the party he kissed me on the cheek before leaving the place. I know it was, in all likelyhood, just a formality, but my mind won't let that go and is shaking it around in my head like a terrier with a long-dead rat. So, my two options now are A) Move on and try to forget about his wit and charm, or B) Tell him how I feel and risk Rejection. I've turned the situation about in my head over and over and over, I've written poetry, I've told my closest friend (who wasn't much help) and I can't seem to dig myself out of this emotional hole. This forum is a last resort, and I really, really hope that one of you will be able to help me. Thanks in advance. Edited July 30, 2010 by Mrs Nobody Left some information out
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 The obvious answer is B. The (small) upside to it is that if you are in fact rejected, you'll still be able to take option A afterward and move on. But if you don't do anything, you're going to keep pining over him and that's only going to make things worse. Trust me on this one. The key is that you don't necessarily have to come right out and say "I'm crazy about you". Just ask him out to dinner or a movie or something. An obvious date invitation will send the clear message that you like him without sounding like you're obsessing over him. Don't ask me why, but it does make a difference. Do you have any friends who know people who can contact him? One good thing about school is that the student body has a communication network that would make AT&T jealous. Someone knows somebody who knows where to find him. You just have to find out who that first person is.
dcdatingdiva Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Aw this is too adorable. I remember my first crush, back in the day. I think you should totally go for it and send him a message or something. Tell him how much fun you had working with him on the play and maybe it would be fun to hang out and grab coffee or something. Annnnnd if for some crazy reason, he does reject you, then like JohnnyBlaze said, you can just take the high road and forget about it and have fond and cute memories of your adorable first crush. It's win-win no matter what! But take it from me, I wish I had more guts and had made a move so I'm glad you're thinking of going for it. Please let us know how it works! xx, Dee
xxxMusicChickxxx Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Its definately Option B. If for some absolutely CRAZY reason this boy rejects you, then you can take option A and move on, and then still have memories of your first love, by doing nothing about it, you may miss out on a very big opportunity and regret it later. But this boy sounds like he likes you a lot, and you sound like a fantastic person MC xxxx
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