kyta Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Havnt been on here much lately as i have found it hard to read the posts, well about 8 weeks ago she tx me out the blue, we had nc on and off for 8 months, then i said no more txing, then she tx me and we started to talk, and this time she wanted to put thing rite, i never thought it would happen, now for the last 8 weeks i can only say its been perfect, i find it hard after all the crap that we have been through the last 8 months, i still feel that i have my walls up, as i know it can all change so quick, part of me isnt sure its rite, but i know this is the girl i want to be with for the rest of my life, we are just so good together, we never argue or fight, but when it turns she runs, and thats what scares me, she has sorted her issues out with her ex now and has nothing to do with him, he doesnt hassle her and make her feel guilty anymore, im just scared that if i drop my walls and it goes wrong ill be back to square 1, is it worth it?
DustySaltus Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Havnt been on here much lately as i have found it hard to read the posts, well about 8 weeks ago she tx me out the blue, we had nc on and off for 8 months, then i said no more txing, then she tx me and we started to talk, and this time she wanted to put thing rite, i never thought it would happen, now for the last 8 weeks i can only say its been perfect, i find it hard after all the crap that we have been through the last 8 months, i still feel that i have my walls up, as i know it can all change so quick, part of me isnt sure its rite, but i know this is the girl i want to be with for the rest of my life, we are just so good together, we never argue or fight, but when it turns she runs, and thats what scares me, she has sorted her issues out with her ex now and has nothing to do with him, he doesnt hassle her and make her feel guilty anymore, im just scared that if i drop my walls and it goes wrong ill be back to square 1, is it worth it? If the issues that led to the breakup are not resolved before you try again, it's never worth it. Eventually, the same patterns repeat themselves. If she's a runner, she has to learn to stop running and communicate better.
Author kyta Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 she ran last time because her ex was putting so much guilt on her, and she just wanted to help him, we have talked about it so much over the last 8 weeks, but this time shes diffrent she stronger, and hes not txing her anymore, so thats been resoveld, shes just being the perfect girlfriend, i cant fault her at all over the last cpl months, its even better now than it was the first time. maybe its my fears, i love her so much, we have fun, we dont row, we get on, i dont want to ruin it with my fears of what could go wrong, but im so happy we are back on.
HopeLove Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 How was that you got back together? Did she said he wanted you back?
Author kyta Posted August 3, 2010 Author Posted August 3, 2010 How was that you got back together? Did she said he wanted you back? She txd me asking to talk, then it went on from there, we talked she said she wanted to be with me, she tried to get rid of feelings she had, but said they didnt go, now shes being the perfect girlfriend, but im the one who is sitting back, thinking is this another game shes playing, im feeling a bit like is it real or not, so far she hasnt done anything wrong, she loving, caring, she just being lush, and we are getting on better than ever, but thats what scres me still, its to good, or am i just looking to find things wrong?
just1guy Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 (edited) If it sounds too good to be true, then usually it is. If you can't trust her now, then what are you gonna do? Sooner or later, that nagging feeling you have is going make you question everything that she does. Very unbalanced and way too much energy wasted. Either take it for what it is and be cautiously happy for a while, or slow it down until you're are 100% rid of that doubt. Edited August 8, 2010 by just1guy
Author kyta Posted August 9, 2010 Author Posted August 9, 2010 Aw man, yeah i hear wot u all say, and yes its true, no one can predict the future, and if i hold on wot if's im goin to kill it, its all going really well, no arguments, just having fun,its just how i wanted it the first time around, and how it was, but better this time in some ways, so im just going to go with the flow, and ejoy what we have now, the future will just happen.:rolleyes::rolleyes:
Author kyta Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 well it didnt work out again, was it fate or just not meant to b, or did i just mess it up.
Author kyta Posted September 4, 2010 Author Posted September 4, 2010 Dont really know! since we been back together its been great, then the last few days, its felt a bit strained, i felt it, she was just normal, a bit distant i felt, but nothing over the top, then we had a bit disagreement over a tx she had sent to some one, nothing bad, just a happy birthday tx, i wasnt happy why she sent the tx, (it was to a guy she had seen a few times but were friends before) but it esculated to her shouting at me, and i just said ive had enough! job done, then a few tx back and forth, trying to blame each other, the usual crap, then yesterday a few more tx, started ok then went a bit towards a argument, so i told her to take care, pick ya suff up when you want! and left her alone. Havnt heard from her, and i havnt tx her, i feel ok, which is the strange bit, it normally the nxt day i feel gutted, but so far i miss something, but its not hurting, and i dont have the earge to phone or tx her, i dont know if this feeking will hold out in a few days or not, but i want the crap to just stop, may be ive just had enough, time will tell i suppose.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Like me you blew it. You allowing her to talk to any other guy only makes you look better. You got mad over a Happy Birthday text showed an unattractive trait which is insecurities. - Mine was mad over an email. I'd give anything to go back but it's too late to do so for myself. I am doing Limited Contact as I answer her contacts but I have not initiated any contact.
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