confusedcat101 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 to start off with, my boyfriend and I have dated for 7 years. it was great up until last summer. In the summer we don't see each other much due to us working everyday, we are both 21. when broke up with me last summer and got back together in October, broke up with me in February and were back on in April. It really has been great up until now. I feel he doesn't give me enough attention, so I nag about it, and he hates that. We are becoming far apart, and have had about 4 serious talks on what we each want. I feel like he is just with me to be a security blanket. He says he loves me, but there is this little tension there, like he really doesn't. I told him we can break up again and he begged me to stay, he said he is just stressed/busy and the last thing he wants is to fight. I know he loves me, but I don't know if he really cares that much. My question is am I just paranoid in what has happened in the past, or should I be worried. I don't know if I should put my guard down and give it my all, or say good bye. either way is going to be hard in the end. he tells me I am a great person ( which I know) and that he loves me, but he just hates the negativity, which I totally agree with. in the summer we don't see each other very much, and he lives with his roommates, and I live with mine.. what should I do? I feel like I have talked to him about it so much that he knows how I feel, and I feel like if I bring it up again, its nagging...
collegemommy Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Since I don't fully know the relationship history, all I can say is that it sounds like the two of you are growing up and possibly heading into different directions. I had the same exact issues with a boyfriend I had in high school and carried on until my second year in college. We were becoming distant and the relationship was getting harder and harder to manage. So we decided to just let it end. It was the hardest thing we ever did but we both realized that we wanted to be happy and that meant letting our lives go down different paths... He's now been happily married for 3 years. I'm engaged and getting married next summer. We've remained friends. In fact, I just went and hung out with his wife who was up here for work (they live in another state)...Guess things worked out the way they were suppose to.
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