will she come back ?! :(

[MainAttraction]

well lt starts like this , me and my girl been talkin for over 2 months , i know its pretty quick . and we diecided to make it official july11th,2010 , and 2 weeks later . she had broken up with me beause she all of a sudden felt she not ready for a relationship , but then she says she dont know what she wants , she also says , im a good guy , and she knows she gon' regret it . and she says i made her so happy . im someone she never had before , she always had *******s to deal with but this time she really likes me and i know this becaus eshe told me , her friends and my peers during the process stuff like "i really like him , i like how he is different from other boys , i like how he treats me" , during the process we did many things including sexual wise but not SEX . and she felt we did things she wouldnt normally do with someone that quick , BUT she was not forced , she wanted to do that , so basicly we had quick connection becaus ethats how it was meant to be , but the thing is when she broke up with me , she left this relationship on a good note which kinda makes me believe that we might have a chance to go back cus she will realize how much she'll miss me , but now i have my doubts sometimes because she is fighting the feelings and really tryna let go , it still dont make sense to me on why end something that makes you happy . i dont know why would she wanna throw that away . she says i didnt do anything wrong . its just she felt bad cus i kinda liked her more than she liked me , but that just my personality , i show alot of affection . and yes im willing to calm that down if i get another chance , i know she still likes me , i know she wanna be with me but shes really confused cus hse keeps sayin she dont know what she wants . shes scared because im something different , but i told her cant live life with fear . i had a chance to meet upwith her and told her somethings lthat i know will be stamped in the back of her mind , she says she dont wanna think of it , she just wanna let go , but shes young right now , its maybe just a process , anyway shes goin on vacation for 2 weeks out of the country and we will have no connection .i think that is good becaus i give her a chance to take time to think of what she had and to miss me , and realize this is a mistake . i really want her back . i dont wanna lose her being that i think the Breakup (FIRST BREAKUP) is bull**** and no good reason . im tryna tell myself she'll be back . she did say witha big IF she misses me , when she comes bcak she'll give me a call and we can work somethin out , she dont want me out her life because she even said i wouldnt even mind havin you as a friend cus you did nothing wrong , but i dont wanna be a friend cus im afraid she'll only like to keep it that level . im tryna be wise and smart about the choices that i make , i dont want the screw this up . i know we can work it out , i know i can get back her feelings for wanting us again ! . just please tell me , even her friends like me so much , they always messaging me asking me am i okay , telling me they dont like the way she handled it , she had no patience in the relationship . but thattrip shes taking would be good to isolate her mind , and take off a bit of pressure , she cried and been so stressed of it . i juust believe she will miss me alot cus we have moments that i know no boy ever did for her , form our first date , texts and on . will she come back ?! i cant give up on something i feel is right , the relationship was never ill ! help me

[TaraMaiden]

Don't hate me - please don't hate me - But you have got to break this post up to make it easier to follow, and write in proper English.

 

And before you get mad at me - it's in the forum posting guidelines.

 

I have no clue what you're trying to say.

I read the same line three times....

[MainAttraction]

i know @taramaiden . im sorry it wont let me edit , =[ . can you try to bare with me . read it slow if so , i just really need the advice thanks

[spyyder]

Sorry bro but this girl is bad for you. I don't know how old you two are but I already know she's young, and judging by your writing your probably young too lol. Anyway, she doesn't seem like relationship material. It is also likely that she's met someone else, or at least is eyeing someone else.

 

It seems that you've also got a serious case of 'nice guy syndrome'. An important part of having a great relationship (if your the guy) is to not always be so nice and to be confident. Sometimes getting your girl upset/angry and then making up actually strengthens a relationship if you do it occasionally. Nice guys finish last, and I've learned that the hard way. Don't think that just because you made her happy that she wants to be with you....there must be a bunch of other stuff that is needed such as attraction, your confidence, your desirability (girls want guys that are in demand, and not in surplus), your future together, having to miss you and a tiny bit of jealousy, but lots of trust.

 

If she's confused then there is probably something else going on that is causing this (unless she's retarded). I remember when I was in high school there was a girl that every guy, including myself, wanted to go out with, she was THE girl of the school. After lots of work, I eventually went out with her, but after 2 weeks I realized it wasn't what I wanted. For you, well...if she's not cheating, or there isn't another guy involved then she probably has realized that she doesn't actually want what she always wanted (guy like you).

 

Let go of her. I remember when I broke up with the most popular girl in high school, I got so much grease from everyone that it ruined my high school experience and I wished that I never had anything to do with that girl. For you, trying to get this girl back will tear you up, and you WILL regret having anything to do with her.

Edited July 29, 2010 by spyyder

[MainAttraction]

thanks Spyder , it makes alot of sense to me , honestly i dont even know why i wrote this , i builted so much confidence over the weekthat if we do get back , it WILL be stronger . but thanks , and yea i am young , so is she . lol 17 years of age . but i appreciate you taking the time to explain .

[Beeotch]

I didn't read the whole post to be honest...but I did see you're 17 and I did see the question about will she come back. I'm not one to discredit age, I'm 22, and I feel like I have ALWAYS been mature for my age and often older people would push me aside (even now ) as if I don't know anything...and I am proof that age can be just a number. However, with age and time comes experience and at 17 Lord knows the things I was thinking or thought were wonderful and great and right that now I cannnot even remember (and Im not that old) or I now think are ridiculous and funny

 

 

 

 

No one can answer about if she will come back or not, but that is farrr from the point. Whether or not this person comes back should not matter. You are 17 years old, young and fresh with your entire life ahead of you and more experiences and more chances for growth. Your heartbreak is real. Feel your pain and go through it knowing that it does subside and you will move on to other relationships that will be better, or if it is "meant to be" with this person, it will reoccur at a time that is more fitting than now.

[MainAttraction]

Thanks Bro . im just tellin myself she'll be back cus once she comes back , i know i got this . i know i gotta life ahead of me but my ego wont let her go . so far we been in NC mode while she on vacay . and i feel its working =]