woodys10 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 right i so need advice.....last weekend my boyfriend of a year went out with the boys to wet the babies head(his friends baby)...he got very very drunk as theyd been out all day and ended up in our local pub...a local girl who has a reputation as a slapper and who has tried it on with him before lunged at him and kissed him in front of everyone i know..he said that it took him a couple of seconds to realise what was happening before he pushed her away....not to bad you mite think but he ended up at a party at her house yes other people were there and i no from them that nothing happened but he fell asleep on her couch as he was so drunk and didnt come home until the next day when he told me everything...problem is he doesnt remember getting to hers and iv got all these thoughts going through my head eg did anything happen walking home as i dont no the other boys that were with her to ask if he even walked home with them or just got dragged in in the passing...until this our realationship was perfect and he couldnt treat me better and he is devastated now.i dont no wether to end it iv been hurt in the past and dont no if i can forgive him..i just dnt no why he went to her house...hes a big softy and doesnt see bad in anyone and says that he just wasnt thinking....please help
2sure Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Doesnt sound like a deal breaker to me. Getting that drunk would be more of an issue.
young&inlove Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 If I were you, I would keep him! Sounds like he made a tiny mistake and the other girl just wanted what she couldnt have. In a way, I would be flattered because she is jealous.
Author woodys10 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 yeah but what i cant get my head round is why he ended up back at her house...why wasnt he disguted by what she did and stay away...of course he cant remember bcause he was so drunk
young&inlove Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 yeah but what i cant get my head round is why he ended up back at her house...why wasnt he disguted by what she did and stay away...of course he cant remember bcause he was so drunk So you mean that he was at the bar, she kissed him, and then he was the only one to go to her house or was there a few people? If it was just him, then I can see a problem, if there were more than one, I would call it innocent.
jnj express Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 If you are just shaking-up it doesn't matter---If you are thinking of mge.---just remember once you take vows you can't just walk away---- This guy obviously can't control himself when he is drunk---are you gonna be there to hold his hand each and everytime he goes out---Be careful---it's your life---you don't want to live it in misery, with a baby who doesn't know right from wrong
whiterose15 Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 My opinion is mostly based on the fact that you'll in a relationship of one yr with your bf, so I say get out. Anyone can make a mistake especially if they are in their teens and 20's, but to get so drunk that he doesn't remember I don't know that's not the type of mistake you do so early in a relationship. It's a big mistake to make so early in a relationship. It's much easier to walk out now then get deeper into the relationship. That will teach him a big lesson! He must learn that their are consequences for his actions --- so he can learn from it. BAD BEHAVIOUR WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES WILL BE REPEATED!!! At the end it's your decision. Many blessings.
spriggig Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 You need full disclosure from him, if he can't remember, ask her. This will haunt your relationship with him until you know the whole truth to your satisfaction. If you bury this and stay with him--it will come back again, perhaps years later. Keep digging. Also, he needs to stay completely away from her from now on.
Author woodys10 Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 thanks for all your advice guys has helped alot....iv since found out that he didnt walk home with her and that he walked up the road with another guy who ended up going to the party also.....his drinking isnt usually a problem actually its the first time hes been out without me in months he just hasnt been interested before to tell you the truth he didnt want to go out that nite but i talked him into it..yeah sooo wish i hadnt now.his problem is he doesnt eat before he drinks which he nos is a problem..iv asked him to go away for a couple of days to give me time to think...as everything was going so great until this happend i think il give him another chance but i just feel sumthings gone i cant explain it and im scared il never get over it i always think the worst to protect my self i suppose...dnt you just sumtimes wish you had a button you could press to delete your memory.....
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