zengirl Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 I've been dating a guy for a few weeks. It's been going well. He's 28 and I'm 30, and I've had some concerns about his maturity level. Yesterday, I looked at his (public) Twitter feed, which is very easy to find from Google. I saw that yesterday, during the workday, he responded to a Tweet from a porn star. When I looked at the list of people he is following, I saw that he is following a handful of porn actresses. He is also following family members, President Obama, the New York Times, and some other sites. This kinda grosses me out. How would you react? What would you say? I wouldn't say anything. I wouldn't want to date the guy anymore. I'm not a prude---I realize many guys watch/look at porn. Whatever. But following an actress on Twitter? That's lame. I'm not jealous---I wouldn't worry he was actually going to do something with her. But actual tweeting to her? Super-lame. I get following people with actual talent, thoughts, political views, etc. . . people who you admire in some way or have an interest in what they have to say. Who has an interest in what a porn star has to say? Who writes them? Only immature guys, I'd think. Certainly no one nearly ready for marriage/kids/etc when they meet the right person. . . which is what I measure all relationships against at this point (25) in my life. So, especially, if I'd had some concerns about his maturity level, I'd just mention that and say it wasn't meant to be. But that's just me. I'm not saying that's right or you---you're the one who knows this guy as a person. What do you think? with him if its like "I got to talk to jenna jameson coz she tweeted me a reply isn't that cool" - not necessarily "I talked to jenna jameson and I think we share more of a connection than with other fans and I she got me hot like always, man ill buy all her porn and watch it and subscribe to her site for years" ........... isn't the first (and more likely) moderately cute? No. . . that's not moderately cute. To me, at least. It's weird. I think it might be okay-ish if the guy was really young. It seems very immature to me. The second one is worse, but the first one still seems lame to me. It's the weirdest thing when girls tell me they have a crush on brad pitt and would love to meet him and get to know him....like "who would you meet?". Yeah I'm sure he wants to meet some clingy fan whose masturbated over him about 500 times and paused scenes in his movies where hes half naked and orgasmed in the freeze frame. Yeah I'm sure he wants to get to know you too, all 50 million of you with posters in the attic from your college dorm days... No, he'd prefer and does bed celebrities and marries them, but a man should not chose to ditch her because she masturbates over brad pitt. That's ridiculous! More likely a reason to ditch her is if she pretended that she has a chance with him or had a goal one day to meet him. I wouldn't really want to 'Follow' anyone because of their looks. I'd only follow someone/something if I wanted updates on what they were doing because I thought it was interesting in some way. I think it's a big difference to be a fan of someone's work (even if it's partially related to them being cute but not totally) than to just be a fan of someone as a sexual object. That's just me.
make me believe Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 I would find that to be a major turn-off, and would completely lose interest in dating him. I completely agree.
Stung Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 It's the weirdest thing when girls tell me they have a crush on brad pitt and would love to meet him and get to know him....like "who would you meet?". Yeah I'm sure he wants to meet some clingy fan whose masturbated over him about 500 times and paused scenes in his movies where hes half naked and orgasmed in the freeze frame. Yeah I'm sure he wants to get to know you too, all 50 million of you with posters in the attic from your college dorm days... No, he'd prefer and does bed celebrities and marries them, but a man should not chose to ditch her because she masturbates over brad pitt. That's ridiculous! More likely a reason to ditch her is if she pretended that she has a chance with him or had a goal one day to meet him. So see, there is a HUGE distinction. Well, as a woman who has also dated women, if I had a gf, presumably a grown woman, who occasionally flicked herself off to images/thoughts of some celebrity I wouldn't think twice. If I found indications that she rubbed herself to that celebrity ALL THE TIME, and kept old posters of them and a vast library of their work, and followed them on Twitter and tweeted at them, that would raise my eyebrows. Not because I'd be afraid the celeb was going to steal my gf, but because I'd be concerned about her emotional maturity/balance.
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